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I think my husband has blocked me?!

506 replies

MyBloodyBrother · 03/03/2023 20:45

He’s not been responding to WhatsApp messages today but has definitely been reading them. I messaged him again about 30 mins ago and it’s staying on one grey tick and his profile pic has disappeared.

He could be on the train so it could be that he has no signal but that doesn’t explain why his profile pic has gone.

OP posts:
redbigbananafeet · 04/03/2023 08:50

Your son can see his profile pic?

YellowDaffodillie · 04/03/2023 08:50

So sorry OP but you need to start making plans to split up. You can’t go on allowing him to treat you like this for the next few years until the kids are grown up.

You deserve so much more and so do your children. He clearly doesn’t care how much he hurts the children because he’s only interested in pleasing himself.

Bag up his stuff into black bags and on Monday, book an appointment with a solicitor to start divorce proceedings.

Take the control back and make him have to fit in with you when he wants to see the children. You can do this!!

letthatmango · 04/03/2023 08:54

You can not continue to live like this. I honestly think I’m a relationship you should feel safe, how on earth can this relationship offer you the feeling of safety. Your anxiety must be through the roof.

What an awful husband and what an awful fathers, his lack of respect, empathy and compassion for your family unit speaks volumes. You children and you deserve so much better.

Yes he’s probably involved in an affair (what a sad crappy cliche) but really he’s also just a rubbish human being that you’d be better off without.

I’d get some legal advice as soon as possible me and start to line up those ducks.

You’ll be so much happier in the long term cutting this dead weight off. Short term pain for long term gain!

Idontgiveashitanymore · 04/03/2023 08:56

Kick him to the curb. You have wasted time on this asshole. You deserve more. Ltb and get on with your life 💐

Polik · 04/03/2023 08:58

That's so disrespectful. Im sorry you're going through this.

Katyrosebug · 04/03/2023 08:58

Have you thought about what your next steps are going to look like after this?

WaitingForEgg · 04/03/2023 08:59

You cannot carry on like this. What a disgusting man treating you this way. I’m so so sorry op

Nolosomi · 04/03/2023 09:00

This thread makes me so sad, OP, this is no way to live - you need to go to see a solicitor and find out what you options are. Check out what benefits you may be entitled to and CMS. Then tell him to fuck off.

Newbutoldfather · 04/03/2023 09:01

Agree, this isn’t a marriage.

see a solicitor and get the divorce started.

FabFitFifties · 04/03/2023 09:01

His lack of concern for his children is totally unacceptable - as is his open contempt for you. This is emotional abuse. It won't improve. Even if he was home more, he'd be bitter and twisted and as a result, even more abusive.

Bythehairywartsonmywitchychin · 04/03/2023 09:02

MyBloodyBrother · 04/03/2023 08:42

He definitely lives alone when he’s at work. I strongly suspect he has another woman but I’m pretty certain they don’t live together and he definitely doesn’t have a second family. He also definitely doesn’t need a welfare check, there is no way on earth he’d decide to hurt himself. And I feel no guilt at all at licking him out. Firstly, because I was pretty confident by that point he wasn’t coming home and secondly because even if he did come home and find it lock he could just get a hotel. It’s hardly the end of the world.

How do you know he definitely lives alone? The only contact you have all week is via messages.

You’re either in denial or sorry to say a door mat, he absolutely with out a doubt has another life when he works away.

I have worked in jobs that involved working away. Most of the people I worked with were either shagging a colleague, or had a relationship with someone whilst they were working away. One of my colleagues was shagging two men from the same team…

His behaviour absolutely shows he doesn’t give a shit about you and your kids, and is in another relationship. He’s a coward and can’t admit it, and wants you to do the dumping.

Zonder · 04/03/2023 09:06

What a selfish arse. Hope you have a nice weekend without him!

OrlandointheWilderness · 04/03/2023 09:08

That's pretty clear cut isn't it. I'm so sorry.

PragmaticWench · 04/03/2023 09:08

At this point, does it matter to you OP if he's having an affair? His treatment of you is just vile, I'm really sorry you're going through this.

hryllilegur · 04/03/2023 09:08

Katyrosebug · 04/03/2023 08:58

Have you thought about what your next steps are going to look like after this?

This is the real question here.
What now?

I’d suggest that getting advice from a divorce solicitor should definitely be a priority.

Sparkleshine21 · 04/03/2023 09:08

@Bythehairywartsonmywitchychin its doesn’t really matter whether he does or doesn’t, OP has had enough either way. So there’s no need to twist the knife by insisting he has another woman, she’s got enough to think about now without making assumptions about what he does whilst away.

OP you’ve made the right decision. Start getting his stuff packed and contact legal
advice and you will feel so empowered, good luck.

AvoNw · 04/03/2023 09:09

MyBloodyBrother · 04/03/2023 08:42

He definitely lives alone when he’s at work. I strongly suspect he has another woman but I’m pretty certain they don’t live together and he definitely doesn’t have a second family. He also definitely doesn’t need a welfare check, there is no way on earth he’d decide to hurt himself. And I feel no guilt at all at licking him out. Firstly, because I was pretty confident by that point he wasn’t coming home and secondly because even if he did come home and find it lock he could just get a hotel. It’s hardly the end of the world.

This is a lot of definites for someone you have limited contact with. How can you be so certain?

I’m glad you’re kicking him out. He’s treated you terribly.

Gunpowder · 04/03/2023 09:15

I’m so sorry OP. This sucks. I hate that feeling of not being able to rely on your partner or know when they will be home. It’s not fair on you or your DC.

Treesandsheepeverywhere · 04/03/2023 09:16

Lock him out of your heart.

Cheshiremamalife · 04/03/2023 09:16

Hope you managed to get some sleep OP. You may find it quite cathartic today to start packing up his stuff as others have suggested. Whatever his reasons may be, there's really no coming back from this is there 🤔 Keep the door locked when you're home and leave his stuff by the door so if you go out, he will get the message very quickly that you've reached the end of the road. Choose something fun for you and your dc's to do today, maybe visit family or friends. Don't be on your own... Sounds like you've wasted enough time waiting around for him to make an appearance. Take care 💐

Lilybetsey · 04/03/2023 09:18

My 20 & 18 year old would not behave like this - to not let someone know if you are coming home is just shit.
I get the feeling he has ground you down so you just accept his reasons - no phone calls ? And like the boiling frog have just not realised how awful this is.
Your poor children - with a father who has so little respect for their well-being ..
Honestly, I'm sure you would be happier alone ...

ThatFlightyTemptressAdventure · 04/03/2023 09:24

I have nothing new to say that hasn’t already been said, I just wanted to say I am so sorry you are going through this. Stay strong Flowers

pinkyredrose · 04/03/2023 09:24

He's taking you for a fool. Please free yourself of this crap.

Wheresthebeach · 04/03/2023 09:28

Beyond awful way to treat you and his children. As so many have said - this is no way to live. Divorce and find a new life without this daily grief x

amonsteronthehill · 04/03/2023 09:28

He doesn't give a sh*t about you or the DCs. I'd tell him to not bother to coming back, get a good solicitor and secure your half of everything.