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I think my husband has blocked me?!

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MyBloodyBrother · 03/03/2023 20:45

He’s not been responding to WhatsApp messages today but has definitely been reading them. I messaged him again about 30 mins ago and it’s staying on one grey tick and his profile pic has disappeared.

He could be on the train so it could be that he has no signal but that doesn’t explain why his profile pic has gone.

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Georgia583 · 03/03/2023 22:28

Yes he’s being a dick then

Cheshiremamalife · 03/03/2023 22:31

Oh goodness, it does sound like he's blocked you. If he's blocked your number, you won't get a dialling tone... It will just click straight into his voicemail. So sorry OP 😞 xxxx

arethereanyleftatall · 03/03/2023 22:31

Crikey. Doesn't sound good.

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MyBloodyBrother · 03/03/2023 22:33

We split a couple of years ago after a long time of me feeling forgotten and more of a housekeeper/ nanny than a wife. He’d completely forget about us during the week. We compromised in that he’d work 4 days a week and 1 day WFH and then do no work at all weekends. While he’s away we don’t do phone calls as they stress him out as it’s extra pressure and upset me as I always felt he wasn’t giving me full attention. All I’d ask is a couple of WhatsApp messages a day and a message/ phot to eldest’s phone too. He’s clearly decided that’s too much to ask so he’s blocked me. Now for the second morning in a row I’m going to have to tell upset kids that dad hasn’t come home.

I can’t do this again. I can’t believe he’s making me do this again.

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MyBloodyBrother · 03/03/2023 22:34

Cheshiremamalife · 03/03/2023 22:31

Oh goodness, it does sound like he's blocked you. If he's blocked your number, you won't get a dialling tone... It will just click straight into his voicemail. So sorry OP 😞 xxxx

It’s going straight to voicemail. There no way he’d turn his phone off. If he’s got no signal it takes a few seconds trying to connect before it goes to voicemail.

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Nolosomi · 03/03/2023 22:36

It sounds like he’s playing away… is he actually on his way home? What a wanker for blocking you.

Johnisafckface · 03/03/2023 22:38

While he’s away we don’t do phone calls as they stress him out as it’s extra pressure

What hogwash. He just doesn't want to talk to you while he's away. A fifteen minute convo a day is not stressful. I couldn't be in a relationship with someone who didn't want to talk to me all week or felt like talking to me was stressful. I think he's purposely ignoring/blocking your calls.

(Also I think you posted about him on another thread about him ignoring your texts/msgs and coming home later than usual)

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MyBloodyBrother · 03/03/2023 22:39

I don’t know if he’s on his way home or not. The last train would get him in at 11.30ish so he might be. I’m going to take a sleeping tablet, lick the door and go to bed. I’m not doing this again.

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macaronicheese123 · 03/03/2023 22:39

@MyBloodyBrother i’m so sorry. he’s having an affair

IhearyouClemFandango · 03/03/2023 22:39

That’s white OP

Cheshiremamalife · 03/03/2023 22:40

I'm so sorry OP, your poor little ones 😞 And you, left alone to pick up the pieces. I cringed when I read the line about calls home being too stressful for him 🙄 Where are you supposed to get your support from if you're banned from speaking to your own husband all week??!! That's dreadful and must be very difficult for you. It won't feel like it now, but this may be a blessing in disguise! You deserve way more than this... It's really not normal to have no contact with your partner for days on end. Sending lots of love 💐

IhearyouClemFandango · 03/03/2023 22:40

Shite, not white

crispsandnuts · 03/03/2023 22:40

Sounds like my exdh, was leading a double life, didn't want to ring when he 'worked away' as he made him miss me and the DC more.
He changed his settings on his WhatsApp so I couldn't see when he was online last. He closed his fb profile in case I posted a photo of us.
I naively didn't want to see the truth, don't be like me, he sounds a thoughtless waste of space regardless

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MyBloodyBrother · 03/03/2023 22:42

Johnisafckface · 03/03/2023 22:38

While he’s away we don’t do phone calls as they stress him out as it’s extra pressure

What hogwash. He just doesn't want to talk to you while he's away. A fifteen minute convo a day is not stressful. I couldn't be in a relationship with someone who didn't want to talk to me all week or felt like talking to me was stressful. I think he's purposely ignoring/blocking your calls.

(Also I think you posted about him on another thread about him ignoring your texts/msgs and coming home later than usual)

Yes, I had a thread yesterday. I didn’t think he’d actually do this though. This is what he used to do. Leave me in limbo with no contact. If I got upset I was making a big deal out of nothing. He knew exactly how much it stressed me out waiting at home not knowing if he was coming or not. I can’t sleep unless the door is locked which he knows.

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Cheshiremamalife · 03/03/2023 22:42

MyBloodyBrother · 03/03/2023 22:39

I don’t know if he’s on his way home or not. The last train would get him in at 11.30ish so he might be. I’m going to take a sleeping tablet, lick the door and go to bed. I’m not doing this again.

Leave your keys in the door so he can't get in!

dollypartin · 03/03/2023 22:43

I may be the first to say this but probably not the last - LTB.

GoodChat · 03/03/2023 22:44

Just lock the door if you don't know if/when he's coming back.

In the morning just tell the kids daddy's had to stay at work and his phones not working properly so you don't know when he'll be back then get them dressed and out somewhere fun. Keep yourselves busy to keep them from asking questions and to take your mind off him.

I know it's not easy but try and be bright and breezy for them.

Are you in a financially ok position yourself?

Annabananna1 · 03/03/2023 22:45

Something sneaky going on. Big time.

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MyBloodyBrother · 03/03/2023 22:46

crispsandnuts · 03/03/2023 22:40

Sounds like my exdh, was leading a double life, didn't want to ring when he 'worked away' as he made him miss me and the DC more.
He changed his settings on his WhatsApp so I couldn't see when he was online last. He closed his fb profile in case I posted a photo of us.
I naively didn't want to see the truth, don't be like me, he sounds a thoughtless waste of space regardless

That’s exactly what he did. Deleted his FB and removed last online on WhatsApp. I have long suspected an affair but I’ve been sticking my head in the sand as it’s easier to pretend it isn’t happening. To be perfectly honest at this point I don’t think I even care if he is having an affair. Im so fucking tired of it all. I feel like I’ve spent the last decade sitting around not knowing if he’s coming home or not and I don’t think I care if he doesn’t anymore.

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MyBloodyBrother · 03/03/2023 22:47

The door’s got a great big bolt on it. He won’t be coming in even if he is coming home.

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tempusername1234 · 03/03/2023 22:47

It's really sad to hear this and I really feel for you OP. I hope it turns out to be something else, but it sounds like he's being childish and trying to punish you.

Us guys can be real dicks at times sadly.

quietnightmare · 03/03/2023 22:48

Oh no doesn't sound great. Could he just be playing mins games if it's not an affair ?

BellaBoo78 · 03/03/2023 22:48

Can you use your eldest's phone and go on WhatsApp to see if you can still see his pic from that phone?

MyPurpleHeart · 03/03/2023 22:48

You can't message your own husband and father of your children for days at a time because he doesn't want you to?

Who's he hiding you from?

Cheshiremamalife · 03/03/2023 22:48

MyBloodyBrother · 03/03/2023 22:47

The door’s got a great big bolt on it. He won’t be coming in even if he is coming home.

Haha! Excellent!! Keep that thing on all weekend!!!