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I think my husband has blocked me?!

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MyBloodyBrother · 03/03/2023 20:45

He’s not been responding to WhatsApp messages today but has definitely been reading them. I messaged him again about 30 mins ago and it’s staying on one grey tick and his profile pic has disappeared.

He could be on the train so it could be that he has no signal but that doesn’t explain why his profile pic has gone.

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NellietheElephantpackedhertrunks · 04/03/2023 08:17

MyBloodyBrother · 03/03/2023 22:46

That’s exactly what he did. Deleted his FB and removed last online on WhatsApp. I have long suspected an affair but I’ve been sticking my head in the sand as it’s easier to pretend it isn’t happening. To be perfectly honest at this point I don’t think I even care if he is having an affair. Im so fucking tired of it all. I feel like I’ve spent the last decade sitting around not knowing if he’s coming home or not and I don’t think I care if he doesn’t anymore.

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Sorry OP but this situation does have affair written all over it Flowers

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MyBloodyBrother · 04/03/2023 08:20

He didn’t come home and still only one grey tick on the message.

He hasn’t harmed himself and I’m not calling police, ffs. He’s in a strop because I dared to say I was upset that he didn’t come home on Thursday

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Cocobutt · 04/03/2023 08:21

The door’s got a great big bolt on it. He won’t be coming in even if he is coming home.

I think this is awful behaviour.
Especially considering you don’t actually know if he’s blocked you and a woman started a thread on here about her DH locking her out and every poster told her he was abusive.

I have blocked someone before temporarily because he kept having a go at me and I needed it to stop.
Obviously when I got back I unblocked him and told him the relationship was over.

You don’t actually know the facts yet but it sounds as though this has confirmed that you don’t want to be in this relationship anymore.

I’ve not read your other threads but it’s very obvious that he is selfish and isn’t a good partner, regardless of whether he blocked you or just had no signal last night.
I would also be concerned there was another family.

Fortunately, as he works away it’s going to be much easier to separate.
Good luck OP.
Separating is scary but in a few months time you’ll be so happy and look back and wished you did it years ago.

brogueish · 04/03/2023 08:22

So sorry. This is just awful. Horrible husband and father - you and your children deserve so much better. Good luck.

coffeestrongblacknosugar · 04/03/2023 08:22

doesn't sound like much of a marriage, teamwork or a great father to his DC.

You should be able to say how you feel without him throwing a strop and blocking you! Sounds like he has another life away from you and DC.

bonjello · 04/03/2023 08:24

He's either with someone else or very unwell

LDN1 · 04/03/2023 08:24

So so sorry to hear this. Disgusting behaviour and you should not have to put up with it. I'd draw a line in the sand and say it's over. And there's no coming back from it. It sounds like it's been a massive source of anxiety for you and that will affect the children. Not fair. Take control.

Harrysutton · 04/03/2023 08:24

So sorry OP what a horrible husband. You deserve more.

whitebreadjamsandwich · 04/03/2023 08:26

OP - sorry, but gleaning from your other thread that he has another home and a job that takes him away for most of the week....and he won't talk to you when he's away....he's very likely got another woman.

Bigmummaof2 · 04/03/2023 08:29

Have you tried withholding your number to see if it will ring through?

Sparkleshine21 · 04/03/2023 08:30

I feel so awful for you, I would be incandescent with rage. What an absolute twat. I think you know that you don’t want this for the rest of your life, leave him and find someone who makes you happy, or be happy on your own - you don’t need this stress!

Runningonjammiedodgers · 04/03/2023 08:32

I think you should call the police. You haven't heard from him anf he hasn't come home. If he is in a bad place the police will find him and do a welfare check. What else do you do?

Daisybee6 · 04/03/2023 08:33

This would be the end for me

Imagine if something happened to your dc and you needed to urgently call him now

Daisybee6 · 04/03/2023 08:34

Start bagging up all his shit today

Bythehairywartsonmywitchychin · 04/03/2023 08:36

I 10000000000% suspect he doesn’t live alone when he works away, and has another life/woman/family.

Even if he doesn’t, why the hell are you putting up with this shit? He doesn’t communicate with you or his family, other than messages. It’s not normal, you and your kids deserve better.

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 04/03/2023 08:38

I’d be done. He’s clearly checked out. It doesn’t matter why really, he’s a fucking coward who won’t have a discussion so I’d do it for him and let him. Know I was done.

IncessantNameChanger · 04/03/2023 08:39

Oh gosh op how hard for you. I think if he has blocked you and its happened before, your well within right to end things. Imagine if your child had an accident? He has effectively checked out of the family. What a tool

Highjinks01 · 04/03/2023 08:40

I used to have this, week in week out. I can imagine the feeling in the pit of your stomach. So sorry he’s behaving like this, it’s no way to live. I hope today is the day you decide enough is enough.💐

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MyBloodyBrother · 04/03/2023 08:42

He definitely lives alone when he’s at work. I strongly suspect he has another woman but I’m pretty certain they don’t live together and he definitely doesn’t have a second family. He also definitely doesn’t need a welfare check, there is no way on earth he’d decide to hurt himself. And I feel no guilt at all at licking him out. Firstly, because I was pretty confident by that point he wasn’t coming home and secondly because even if he did come home and find it lock he could just get a hotel. It’s hardly the end of the world.

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MyBloodyBrother · 04/03/2023 08:43

He’s not blocked ds on his phone. Not contacted him either though and ds doesn’t want to message him.

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luckystarg · 04/03/2023 08:44

Well done OP! Now work on getting that useless shit out your life.

just imagine in a few years looking back at this time and how much happier you’ll be! Imagine being with someone who RESPECTS you (the bare minimum)

Womblemumma · 04/03/2023 08:44

Please end this relationship. You’ll be sat on your death bed realising you spent your life by the phone for this horrible selfish man.

Speaker82 · 04/03/2023 08:45

I worked on a project with a man who lived in Bradford and worked in Glasgow. He worked Monday - Thursday.

He completely 'forgot' to tell me he was married with children for several months until he slipped up. No wedding ring.

I just saw him as a friend but he would call me for at least an hour every day after work, messaged a lot, asked me out for dinner and day trips (I never went) and I rarely heard from him at weekends.

Before I left the job I noticed he had two phones on his desk.

Don't trust men working away. A lot of them lead double lives.

Itgoesalittlesomethinglikethis · 04/03/2023 08:45

Right now he can get to fuck, all that matters is you and the kids. He's left you alone to raise DCs and keep everything going most of the time. It's cruel.
I hope you have some people in RL to lean on for support.
I'd be using this time after taking a deep breath to do some digging (because you need facts). Copying financial info, speaking to a solicitor etc.
You've been strong all this time, which is admirable.
You and your DCs deserve better. You don't have to live like this xx

Tiga2 · 04/03/2023 08:49

IncessantNameChanger · 04/03/2023 08:39

Oh gosh op how hard for you. I think if he has blocked you and its happened before, your well within right to end things. Imagine if your child had an accident? He has effectively checked out of the family. What a tool

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