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I think my husband has blocked me?!

506 replies

MyBloodyBrother · 03/03/2023 20:45

He’s not been responding to WhatsApp messages today but has definitely been reading them. I messaged him again about 30 mins ago and it’s staying on one grey tick and his profile pic has disappeared.

He could be on the train so it could be that he has no signal but that doesn’t explain why his profile pic has gone.

OP posts:
PaigeMatthews · 07/03/2023 20:40

MyBloodyBrother · 07/03/2023 19:54

He’s not been home. He’s supposed to be coming back on Thursday and I really hope he does as I’ve got a weekend away booked that I’ve been looking forward to for ages and cost me a lot of money. He WhatsApp’d me to remind me to renew DC1s passport so he’s obviously unblocked me. No other comment though and I just replied 👍

Make alternative arrangements for childcare just incase because he isnt planning to make your life easier.

do not hand over passports.

Codlingmoths · 07/03/2023 21:14

I would make sure passports are stored safely with a friend. Why would he ask about them??

T1Dmama · 07/03/2023 21:18

Renew passport for what ?
it sounds like he’s off the hook ?

FourBoysAndAFeline · 07/03/2023 21:24

God what a horrible, infantile game he is playing!

vagueandconfused · 07/03/2023 21:30

No contact or explanation about the weekend just the message about renewing the passport?

I wouldn't have replied. In fact, I think I would block him. Give him a taste of his own medicine.

Please organise childcare for this weekend and go away. You've been old faithful for too long. It's time to disrupt the status quo and start working to your own agenda.

vagueandconfused · 07/03/2023 21:31

I also wouldn't be following his instructions or giving him any passports. Why would you? He's proved to you he is untrustworthy.

Original poster
MyBloodyBrother · 07/03/2023 21:34

I’m taking dc on holiday over Easter. Dh was originally going to be working near to our destination for 3 weeks but would be able to join us and work remotely for about 5 days. I’m still planning to take dc. I have no concerns about him wanting their passports or to take them anywhere. I’m pretty sure he just wanted to open up lines of communication and expects me to go begging for information or apologise for whatever it is he thinks I’ve done wrong. I can’t be bothered.

OP posts:
Led9519 · 07/03/2023 21:40

Good, hope you chatted to your Mum and a Solicitor. He’ll just keep doing this you know, don’t let him worm his way back in now he’s reacting to you being less than bothered by his disappearing act. Honestly he sounds about 12.
Hope you get to enjoy your weekend away!

WheresMyRemoteControl · 07/03/2023 21:45

MyBloodyBrother · 07/03/2023 21:34

I’m taking dc on holiday over Easter. Dh was originally going to be working near to our destination for 3 weeks but would be able to join us and work remotely for about 5 days. I’m still planning to take dc. I have no concerns about him wanting their passports or to take them anywhere. I’m pretty sure he just wanted to open up lines of communication and expects me to go begging for information or apologise for whatever it is he thinks I’ve done wrong. I can’t be bothered.

I applaud you at the way you've handled this. He's probably a bit confused wondering why you've not been chasing him trying to get a hold of him. I hope you manage to catch him completely off guard and serve him with papers whenever he finally does decide to show up

T1Dmama · 07/03/2023 21:55

Well done OP. Protect your weekend away by asking mum or friends to have the kids. I’m sure someone will help you out rather than have you ask his help. I know I would if I was your mother or friend x
I hope you get to have a nice weekend away

MyEasterEggs · 07/03/2023 21:57

Been following this and admire the simple thumbs up response. He’ll be wondering WTF is going on. Stay detached!

T1Dmama · 07/03/2023 22:03

MyEasterEggs · 07/03/2023 21:57

Been following this and admire the simple thumbs up response. He’ll be wondering WTF is going on. Stay detached!

100%
he’ll be hating that he’s lost control and wondering why you aren’t begging.
Hes certainly very strange.

Icanflyhigh · 07/03/2023 23:51

Great response, just as good as a simple "ok" when you know someone is trying to draw you into a conversation. Keep your chin up OP, you have definitely got this x

ThreeRingCircus · 08/03/2023 12:52

Well done OP, you're doing great. I can't believe that's all he's messaged you after blocking you for days on end. I'd try to keep as detached as possible as you prepare to serve him the divorce papers. Let the fucker wonder what's going on for once!

MeinKraft · 08/03/2023 13:38

Amazing. He'll be sweating it out now wondering what he's in for tomorrow if he bothers showing up.

Plirtle · 08/03/2023 13:46

@MyBloodyBrother you sound brilliant. Do you have any mates you can call?

Your dh sounds so hurtful and controlling. I'm really sorry you are going through this. Some of the comments are unbelievably insensitive and weird.

SchoolTripDrama · 08/03/2023 18:28

Any news @MyBloodyBrother

PeonyRose80 · 09/03/2023 14:54

Please arrange alternative childcare. I would 100 per cent help if you were my friend. Please ask!

billy1966 · 09/03/2023 15:11

I too would arrange alternative care if possible and leave the house all locked up so that he cannot access the property.

Bigmummaof2 · 09/03/2023 15:17

Thinking of you OP!

toddlermumx · 09/03/2023 15:40

Did he turn up today OP? You're handling this so well!

Kittlbua · 09/03/2023 16:07

Has this fucker turned up yet?
Awful man

coffeestrongblacknosugar · 09/03/2023 17:16

I hope you have arranged alternative care for DC or he turned up. Enjoy your time away.

momtoboys · 09/03/2023 21:34

I hope you are well.

BustyLaRoux · 10/03/2023 07:20

Another one sending love and strength xx

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