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I think my husband has blocked me?!

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MyBloodyBrother · 03/03/2023 20:45

He’s not been responding to WhatsApp messages today but has definitely been reading them. I messaged him again about 30 mins ago and it’s staying on one grey tick and his profile pic has disappeared.

He could be on the train so it could be that he has no signal but that doesn’t explain why his profile pic has gone.

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Whiskeypowers · 04/03/2023 13:47

his behaviour is just shocking

ChateauMargaux · 04/03/2023 13:47

You are not putting them through this... he is. This is not your fault.

ABlindAssassin · 04/03/2023 13:51

Not sure if this is helpful or not...but you can keep Pokemon Go gifts for ages before sending them. So he might have sent an 'old' gift that he got last time he was at his parents' house. I think my son still has gifts in his 'bag' that he got from France in the Summer!

Either way your husband is being incredibly cruel (to you and your DC) and immature. He'd be a very lucky man if you choose to forgive him for his behaviour.

GrinAndVomit · 04/03/2023 13:55

MyBloodyBrother · 04/03/2023 13:32

I’ve still heard nothing from him and from what I can tell I’m still blocked. My eldest plays Pokémon Go though and said his dad has sent him a gift today. The gifts say where they were collected and this gift is from the town where his parents live up North. I’m guessing he’s there and done that deliberately so we know where he is. He won’t be coming back this weekend then as they’re up in the North West and we’re in the SW.

I’ll just carry on as I am, I guess. I’m not going to try and make contact with him and there’s nothing I need from him in the foreseeable. He knows where we are. I’m desperately sad for my kids more than anything as they were so happy to have him back again and I’m putting them through it all over again.

Take control of the situation OP.
You all deserve better than this xx

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MyBloodyBrother · 04/03/2023 13:56

I’m pretty sure he’ll have sent that particular gift from his parent’s town because he’s either at his parents or wants me to think that he’s at his parents. I just don’t have the energy for it. I’m out with dc atm and I’ve locked the driveway gate so he won’t be able to get in even if he does decide to turn up. I’m going to try and have a normal a weekend as possible and look into getting everything sorted once dc are back at school on Monday.

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SeriouslyLTB · 04/03/2023 14:00

He sounds like an absolute psychopath, OP. Enjoy (as much as you can) your weekend. Monday you can get down to business of moving on from this man-child. X

Crispymandm · 04/03/2023 14:01

Hope you and your dc are ok op, your husband sounds emotionally draining to deal with to say the least.

Casilero · 04/03/2023 14:05

I'm so sorry. My ex husband used to behave like this. He started working in London in 2008 after the last crash as there was a lot more construction work going on down there. I never knew if he was cheating or not, but he'd block me or ignore me as some sort of punishment every time I dared complain about being on my own with 3 kids whilst he was out on the lash every night after work. Reading your posts reminded me of that awful anxious feeling I'd get wondering when he'd deign to reward us with his presence. We got divorced 4 years ago and I really do not miss those awful years. You deserve better than this x

Howsimplywonderful · 04/03/2023 14:06

@MyBloodyBrother

good luck with what ever you decide to do, but I hope you are able to regain a feeling of control, the anxiety about the whole thing must have been really hard and I hope yoj make a good recovery after your surgery

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Panda8383 · 04/03/2023 14:11

You certainly deserve better than this, what an absolute idiot to treat you like this x

dapsnotplimsolls · 04/03/2023 14:17

He sounds like an utter git, sorry you and your kids are having to go through this.

Fightingbackwithhappiness · 04/03/2023 14:22

My god, what an arse!
I’m so sorry you are having to endure this. Stay strong x

username1722 · 04/03/2023 14:27

Regardless of whether he is having an affair or not, this guy is emotionally immature if he blocks his own WIFE.

Get rid of him, you deserve better than this.

I've been with someone before who used to block me when we fell out. It's not the way an adult relationship should be and it resolves nothing.

RisingSunn · 04/03/2023 14:31

He is so out of order. How abusive.

BitOutOfPractice · 04/03/2023 14:36

Oh op what a head fuck for you. I’m so sorry he’s doing this to you again. Arsehole.

I too have been in the receiving end of this kind of working away arseholery. It’s the pits.

good luck in getting everything moving forward on Monday.

BellePeppa · 04/03/2023 14:58

Just want to say stay strong, no looking back only look forward. Let this be the beginning of a new chapter for you, you’ll be happier in the long run. You don’t need this man playing mind games with you.

singer15 · 04/03/2023 15:08

You and your children deserve so much better, OP. Wishing you strength to get through this rough patch to the better times to come.

MeinKraft · 04/03/2023 15:12

RisingSunn · 04/03/2023 14:31

He is so out of order. How abusive.

Yes it is really cruel leaving OP hanging wondering what's going on.

RampantIvy · 04/03/2023 15:16

I'm so sorry that so many posters are revelling in making you feel miserable.

Wishing you strength to get through this @MyBloodyBrother Flowers

Jooliusreezer · 04/03/2023 15:19

SeriouslyLTB · 04/03/2023 14:00

He sounds like an absolute psychopath, OP. Enjoy (as much as you can) your weekend. Monday you can get down to business of moving on from this man-child. X

I agree. The way he’s behaving is absolutely insane. Why on earth is he punishing you like this? And his children? He’s a fucking lunatic.

SchoolTripDrama · 04/03/2023 15:24

"Extra pressure" to speak to his wife - the love of his life. The other half of him!? Wow

Clear any joint bank account, grab all your paperwork and kids' passports/birth certificates etc and LTB OP. Either that or pack his bags and leave them outside. Obviously I don't know your home ownership details but I'd be doing one of the above

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 04/03/2023 15:24

Jooliusreezer · 04/03/2023 15:19

I agree. The way he’s behaving is absolutely insane. Why on earth is he punishing you like this? And his children? He’s a fucking lunatic.

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This. Completely calculated to cause as much disruption, worry, hurt as possible. Doesn't mind inflicting that on his children either.

Vegrocks · 04/03/2023 15:32

Such a shame that there are DC caught up on this shit show of a circus

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