When did it become acceptable to go out in pyjamas?

[Usernamebuffering]

For context I live opposite a school and my work desk is at the window that looks out to the school, it means I can indulge in a bit of casual people watching while daydreaming and pretending to work.

I've noticed a large number of mums (never dad's weirdly) who turn up in pyjamas, big puffy coat, and slip on shoes or slippers for the 9am school run. I know everyone's situation is different and there are many many reasons why an individual finds themselves in this situation but I'm more interested in when did we become ok with it? I don't remember any parents in pyjamas when I was at school nor when my children (youngest is 16) were at primary school so is this a new phenomena?

I only drop off in PJs because I don't get out of the car, I'd never dream of going out in them if people were going to see me

I care because its another rank thing that's being introduced as trying to be acceptable
I'm not sure of your motives , do you feel you need to stand out? Do you crave attention?
Either way your life, I hope you find whatever it is that's lacking in your life

When I am out and about and I see people in their PJs/dressing gowns down the shops or on the school run, I don't get angry, I just think they are lazy arses. If you seriously can't be bothered to have a shower and put on some clothes in the morning it is hardly a good advert. You call it non conformist, I call it grim soap dodging grubbiness irrespective of how much you earn or how many degrees you have.

For some reason this seems to be something only women do, not seen any men wandering around Sainsburys in their PJs.

"Working Class Schools" ?

Pardon us for existing, your highness.

I don't conform because I worked out along time ago that it was a pointless con doing so.

I also shower in the evenings. CBA to do it in the mornings too. How many times a day do you wash?

Its proper lazy

@DanseAvecLesLoup

Why do you think about us at all?

Suppose I'd better get my work pj's on, ready for work.

I ocassionally jump in the car to drop a late-running child somewhere in pjs with a coat or hoodie over the top but only if I'm not getting out of the car. It has crossed my mind to worry about having a crash or breakdown.

I think if your pjs are plain black bottoms and you wear them with a jumper or coat you can get away with it. I saw a woman picking up a kid from a sports club the other day (admittedly at 8.30pm) in PJ's, fluffy dressing gown and slippers. Seems like she could have hidden it better by putting on a coat and shoes. Also she wasn't lurking outside grabbing the kid and going, she was standing around inside the building chatting to the coaches etc as if it was really normal to be dressed for bed.

I admit I dropped ds off at school in pjs several times but never got out of the car. Ds was a persistent school refuser & it took all my time in a morning to do the battle of getting him out of bed, ready for school & out of the door. I have ME/CFS & the morning battle would leave me so shattered I would go home & back to bed to recover, I had Ugg boots & a long coat on so all you could see was a foot of pj bottoms.

There are worse things to be wearing on the school run than P.Js.

My user name is not being met by this behaviour. Am appalled. 😉

It’s no one else’s concern really is it?
Personally wouldn’t choose to go out in PJs though. Looks slovenly IMHO

Haven’t read the full thread but just adding that I would have never done the school run in PJ’s, always pulled on jeans or joggers but sometimes would be in a suit if a work day after drop off. If my son needs picking up from somewhere now, I’ll happy drive to get him in slippers, I really couldn’t care less.

also was driving home after my yoga class last night and as I drove past the kebab shop, I saw a young woman waiting for her order in full on PJ’s, sliders and a fluffy gown. Fair play I thought, who cares!

YANBU at all OP. It’s grim. My husband is entirely responsible for the morning school run and we start earlier than U.K. schools (kids need to be in their classroom by 8.30 even at 4yo). My husband isn’t a morning person at all and even if he’s not had a chance to shower he will always put sports gear on at least.

I wouldn’t do it as it does signal laziness but today, I overheard one mum telling another “I’ve got my pjs on, dressing gown, coat & I’m still cold!”. So it must be the norm for some. I say each to their own but it doesn’t set out a great example to the kids does it. But I’d say the same to parents with ridiculous botoxed faces & lip fillers, dads who wear tight shorts leaving little to the imagination, or with sandals & socks etc. Standards are just not what they used to be!

Oh come off it @Usernamebuffering ! I don't believe you have never seen/heard of this before. As pps have said, it's just an excuse to have a pop at people you class as beneath you.

@MurderAtTheBeautyPageant

They do..........

In the late 90s when I worked in Asda, I hated the morning shift and being the cashier on the first till. The people who would come in PJs before having a shower, and having to hold my breath whilst serving them. They reeked!

Its not pleasant and in many cases, its sheer fucking laziness. it takes mere minutes to throw on some clothes, brush your hair, teeth, who cares about makeup. Shower at night if you can't in the morning. Do these people work and who would want to employ them if that's how they dress? I WFH but still get dressed and showered each day!

I love it that there are so many people who have problems getting dressed in this country and none in Europe. Never seen one growing up there, here it’s a weekly occurrence.
It’s really just a question of standards.

Sooo disgusting, I always think people in their PJs look like they must stink, like they just rolled out of bed..after sweating all night, walking round with no underwear on.. 🤢

This would never happen in our very middle class village.

There’s a difference between wearing t shirt and leggings and shuffling round the coop in your slippers, fleecy Winnie the Pooh pyjamas and a hooded dressing gown….

I agree with you.
I like to put on clean clothes before I leave the house. I never understand why people do it, it literally takes 5 minutes to change. Just pure laziness.
Also do these people not put on clean underwear everyday?

It’s scruffy in my opinion. Literally just rolled out of bed & couldn’t be bothered to change into something else, not even joggers & a t-shirt. Ironically the ones see normal have hair & makeup done 🤦‍♀️👏🏻priorities.

I don’t even put the bins out in my pjs so could never imagine going out in them. It’s a bad example in my opinion. Lazy

The amount of mothers I see on the school run wearing those awful fluffy slippers/sandals is unreal.
I have seen the odd few wearing pyjamas but its mostly the slipper things.
That being said, I have been known to do the school run without brushing my hair. My kids always look immaculate though and I have 4 lots of hair to do every morning so there isn't always time for mine!