When did it become acceptable to go out in pyjamas?

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For context I live opposite a school and my work desk is at the window that looks out to the school, it means I can indulge in a bit of casual people watching while daydreaming and pretending to work.

I've noticed a large number of mums (never dad's weirdly) who turn up in pyjamas, big puffy coat, and slip on shoes or slippers for the 9am school run. I know everyone's situation is different and there are many many reasons why an individual finds themselves in this situation but I'm more interested in when did we become ok with it? I don't remember any parents in pyjamas when I was at school nor when my children (youngest is 16) were at primary school so is this a new phenomena?

I hope so.

I honestly don't think anyone gives a shit what you think of them

I would've been so embarrassed if my mum had brought me to school in her pjs

Same. We just weren't brought up that way. We had clothes for wearing inside the home, which were sometimes more casual, but if we were going outside we put on proper clothes.

I have never seen anyone seen anyone outside in pjs here bar taking the bins out.

Those who judge others the most, are usually doing it to make up from their own sense of inadequacy. Not always, but very often true.

Everybody needs to feel, useful, confident, good at something. We all need a reason to be proud of ourselves.

Mine is not how nice a outfit I can put together for the school run.

I am proud of my son, my work and my friends and family. I do not have headspace for any other bollox

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Ah now the threads moving on! So what are proper clothes? Are leggings and t shirts not acceptable for outside the house now either? Have we moved on from just pajamas?

This will infuriate some of you:

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"For nights in or nights out, our Skye pyjamas in our 'Gingham Gracie' print aren’t just great for sleeping in. 100% organic cotton with a slight satin finish and elasticated for comfort, this short sleeve and shorts set can easily be turned into an eye-catching but cosy look."

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They're fine for me. Leggings, that is. But they weren't in my house growing up. I have no issues with leggings outside with a long top or similar. I really don't think that's the same as eg going to the bar in Legoland (described upthread) in your pjs and no shoes on.

I just wondered what 'proper' clothes were

The man opposite me frequently walks to the corner shop (two street away) in his Christmas pjs and dressing gown.

I often pick up my teens in my pjs when I know I'm staying in the car and it's past my bedtime 😂. I was mortified once, when there had been a police incident in the area and parents had to go into the centre one by one to collect their child for safety. Mortified.

Jeans and dresses at the time.

Judgey Mcjudgerson

It shows a lack of respect and boundaries. Put on leggings and brush your hair.

No one cares about your job.

Bloody hell have you been on another planet for the last god knows how many years?

BTW I can't think of anything worse than going out looking a scruff wearing my indoor clothes, but that's me, I'm not going to go all judgemental about what other people do.

Ooh hark at you

because we now live in a society were people are bone idle !

The only sense of inadequacy I feel is that my poor life choices have led me to live in the area I do now.

I judge the people I see in night clothes as they are part of the reason this area is so shit. They can’t even be arsed to get dressed for God’s sake. That’s pretty basic.

I also them for smoking weed on the school run, having dangerous dogs, screaming at their children in the street and scrapping in the school playground too. They are the lowest of the low and they are dragging up their children to be the same. If you don’t show your children to have respect for themselves, they will grow up the same.

Also judge them that should have said.
Don’t mumsnet and spreadsheet at the same time.

One of my friends used to work into the early hours and go home get in bed for a few hours wake up, throw her coat on drive the kids to school, then go home and go back to bed. She certainly wasn't dragging her kids up. I'd say that those that presumed the worst of others without knowing the facts were some of the worst!

What do people mean by 'not acceptable'? They can't accept it?

Anyway, I wear leggings and a hoody every single day of my life, indoors and outdoors, on the school run and to my job. I am a right scruff. But I do draw the line at going out in my pyjamas.

That's for me though, I couldn't care less what other people do. However, I have only ever seen one person in actual obvious pyjamas on the school run and funnily enough it was yesterday. They were pink with teddy bears on them, matching top and bottom so definitely pyjamas. It mainly made me smile to see someone who looked more harassed than me to be honest but other than that I didn't think about it until I saw this thread.

I've never seen it before though, even on that particular mum. So I don't think it's a big epidemic or anything. And who cares if it is really?

The people I am talking about aren’t working anywhere.

The conversations I over hear on the school run would make your hair curl. I’m not presuming anything about these people. The Jeremy Kyle show used to bus them in from here for a reason.

Is it a rough school by any chance?