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When did it become acceptable to go out in pyjamas?

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Usernamebuffering · 23/02/2023 09:21

For context I live opposite a school and my work desk is at the window that looks out to the school, it means I can indulge in a bit of casual people watching while daydreaming and pretending to work.

I've noticed a large number of mums (never dad's weirdly) who turn up in pyjamas, big puffy coat, and slip on shoes or slippers for the 9am school run. I know everyone's situation is different and there are many many reasons why an individual finds themselves in this situation but I'm more interested in when did we become ok with it? I don't remember any parents in pyjamas when I was at school nor when my children (youngest is 16) were at primary school so is this a new phenomena?

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Scarecrowrowboat · 23/02/2023 14:56

First saw it happening in early 2000s so I guess since then. Mostly supermarkets.

flutterbyebaby · 23/02/2023 14:57

Arthurflecksfacepaint · 23/02/2023 14:54

The people I am talking about aren’t working anywhere.

The conversations I over hear on the school run would make your hair curl. I’m not presuming anything about these people. The Jeremy Kyle show used to bus them in from here for a reason.

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You think so much of yourself, but if it wasn't for these people how would you ever feel superior to anybody? Maybe you should be grateful to them

Arthurflecksfacepaint · 23/02/2023 15:01

flutterbyebaby · 23/02/2023 14:57

You think so much of yourself, but if it wasn't for these people how would you ever feel superior to anybody? Maybe you should be grateful to them

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Seriously, I wish I could teleport you here for the day. You’d see what I mean. These aren’t lovely salt of the earth people that I am talking about. They are tough as fuck and they bring the area down, and they drag down all the good things that people who want to do goof for the area try to do.

But hey, call me superior, you can call me a snob. It’s just the way things are and it’s bloody depressing.

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flutterbyebaby · 23/02/2023 15:05

Arthurflecksfacepaint · 23/02/2023 15:01

Seriously, I wish I could teleport you here for the day. You’d see what I mean. These aren’t lovely salt of the earth people that I am talking about. They are tough as fuck and they bring the area down, and they drag down all the good things that people who want to do goof for the area try to do.

But hey, call me superior, you can call me a snob. It’s just the way things are and it’s bloody depressing.

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OK you got me there, I've known those people, wasn't born with a silver spoon in my mouth. I guess I can be a little snobby and hypocritical too.

Riapia · 23/02/2023 15:06

QuertyGirl · 23/02/2023 09:26

OMG! The horror!

Seriously, they're just clothes. Who cares?

I sometimes do the school run in the t shirt I slept in plus joggers, unbrushed hair etc. a right scruff

Then go home to do a highly technical, very professional job for which I have a post grad and am very well paid.

Biscuit

And you take jammie dodgers to munch on the way.

Classy.

flutterbyebaby · 23/02/2023 15:07

I've just changed my mind, get dressed you lazy arses!

purplecorkheart · 23/02/2023 15:10

I saw a lady in Pennys/Primark in pjs and her dressing gown. This was in a City Centre at around lunch time.

VenusClapTrap · 23/02/2023 15:11

Never seen it at my dcs’ school, thankfully. Never seen it at Waitrose either. I have seen it in Asda, occasionally, and when I do I find it amusing.

QuertyGirl · 23/02/2023 15:17

@River82

You care about my outfit but not my job- nice bit of internalised misogyny there 😁

WFHbore2023 · 23/02/2023 15:22

Nope, not for me. I don't particularly make an effort for the school run, but would never do drop off in my pjs.

Firstly, no thank you. Getting up, showered, dressed and with skincare done sets me up for the day. I'd feel rancid if I left the house in pjs.

Secondly, I think my children would be mortified.

Running out with the bins last minute of collection day is as far as I'd venture in my pjs

afinishedkiss · 23/02/2023 15:32

Lazy, scruffy, slovenly, bedraggled, unkempt.

Put a pair of leggings and a top at the end of the bed every night and take 30 seconds to change before you leave for the school run. Nobody is asking for a full face of make up or taking a straightener to your hair but not rolling up in the bedclothes you slept in is the very least you can do before going out in public.

Those for whom it takes longer to put on said pair of leggings, get up 10 mins earlier. If you can put pyjamas on you can put leggings on.

NO excuse to leave the house looking like you ro9lled out of bed, have some self respect. Your kids must be mortified.

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 23/02/2023 15:36

afinishedkiss · 23/02/2023 15:32

Lazy, scruffy, slovenly, bedraggled, unkempt.

Put a pair of leggings and a top at the end of the bed every night and take 30 seconds to change before you leave for the school run. Nobody is asking for a full face of make up or taking a straightener to your hair but not rolling up in the bedclothes you slept in is the very least you can do before going out in public.

Those for whom it takes longer to put on said pair of leggings, get up 10 mins earlier. If you can put pyjamas on you can put leggings on.

NO excuse to leave the house looking like you ro9lled out of bed, have some self respect. Your kids must be mortified.

They may sleep in the leggings and t shirt... Then what?!? Is it ok because it doesn't look like pajamas?

Unfairestofthemall · 23/02/2023 16:03

On my days off when the kids have school (I work shift work) I often run them into school with no make up, my hair thrown back in a ponytail and a giant coat with my pyjamas underneath. At pick up I'm dressed and have sorted my hair out. As long as my kids are fed, dressed and their lunchboxes packed my appearance shouldn't matter. Its early they are on time and I'm knackered.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 23/02/2023 16:41

As far as I’m concerned it never did become acceptable. It’s lazy and slovenly - there’s a nice old fashioned word for you.

maddiemookins16mum · 23/02/2023 16:43

It’s not acceptable to many but acceptable to some.
Personally I think it’s skanky. Just get dressed fgs.

ReadtheReviews · 23/02/2023 16:55

Never.
People who do = No better than they ought to be, as my gran would say.

River82 · 23/02/2023 17:00

QuertyGirl · 23/02/2023 15:17

@River82

You care about my outfit but not my job- nice bit of internalised misogyny there 😁

I also have a professional job and a serious disability. Neither of those things are excuses to go out in Pjs with unbrushed hair.

It shows a complete lack of respect for the people around you.

You're implying your job and postgrad somehow exempt you. They don't.

River82 · 23/02/2023 17:01

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 23/02/2023 15:36

They may sleep in the leggings and t shirt... Then what?!? Is it ok because it doesn't look like pajamas?

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Yes.

QuertyGirl · 23/02/2023 17:13

@River82

No, I was rebutting throw presumption above that scruffy people are unemployed / uneducated

blacksax · 23/02/2023 17:23

How very common.

As my dear old mum would have said.

QuertyGirl · 23/02/2023 17:34

It's amazing how angry people get about even a little bit of non-conformity, even that which has no effect on them whatsoever.

MeatballHead · 23/02/2023 17:43

No-one is getting angry @QuertyGirl , if you want to look like a scank then you carry on
Lovely to read that so many people think it's horrible though
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Bogeyes · 23/02/2023 17:45

Dirty mingers. Have they bothered to wash?

Needmorelego · 23/02/2023 17:52

@Bogeyes I know a woman. Nice lady, very intelligent. Always wears fancy flowing dresses. Stinks to high heaven because she never washes.
It's not what you wear that can make you 'minging'.

QuertyGirl · 23/02/2023 17:53

MeatballHead · 23/02/2023 17:43

No-one is getting angry @QuertyGirl , if you want to look like a scank then you carry on
Lovely to read that so many people think it's horrible though
Restores my fath Grin

Why do you care though? You obviously do or you wouldn't be bothering with the thread.

Don't you ever reflect on why you think the way you do?