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Board and lodging. 23 at home; £27k pay?

141 replies

Fordian · 09/02/2023 18:34

DS is in his first job post Uni, earning £27k. He owns a car to get to work.

We are DH and I in a 4 BR house, which we own, Hampshire.

I buy all the food, do most of the cooking tho he'll help prep, do the dishwasher. He'll hang washing and take it back in, will vacuum (if asked).

How much board and lodging would you charge, ooi?

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Coxspurplepippin · 09/02/2023 18:35

£100 PW?

Crazydogmumma · 09/02/2023 18:39

I charged my post uni child £300 per month- which enabled them to save quite a lot
of their salary for a deposit. I was able to save the ‘rent’ money and give it back to them to help with costs when they moved. I think it was sensible to charge rent as it helped them to budget their money and get used to paying regular bills. I will do the same for my second child when they return from uni in the summer.

Fooshufflewickjbannanapants · 09/02/2023 18:41

We charge a third of whatever they earn.

Anon300 · 09/02/2023 18:42

If I didn't need the money. I wouldn't take anything.

JumbleSailor · 09/02/2023 18:43

£200? To cover share of food and bills only.

CuteCillian · 09/02/2023 18:43

Very similar situation here and I'm charging £100 pw which, as previous poster, I'm planning to return to DC when they need a deposit for a place of their own.

PurpleReindeer2 · 09/02/2023 18:45

I think £500 /mth which is about 25% of his take home pay is more than reasonable. If you don't need the money you could consider saving it all/some of it for him and giving it to help with a deposit for buying himself a flat/house further down the line.

Mangolist · 09/02/2023 18:45

Our son is earning 27,500 in his first post graduation job and living back with us for a couple of years. We're charging him 350 a month which includes his phone rental. If he was renting on his own where we live, he'd be paying at least twice that, so he's doing OK!

Changingplace · 09/02/2023 18:45

A third of their take home pay, it’s good for them to understand the value of what it costs to run a home.

If you don’t technically need the money put it aside for them, if you do then fair enough that’s their contribution towards running the household as an adult.

Coxspurplepippin · 09/02/2023 18:46

Also, I think £100 is enough if they're being sensible about savings - if they were wasting money I'd probably charge more and stick some in savings for them. Sounds a bit infantilising but teaching them life ain't cheap.

kitcat15 · 09/02/2023 18:46

I took 200£ a month of my youngest when he was here....I don't want to make a profit out of him

Ponderingwindow · 09/02/2023 18:46

If they are good savers and you can afford it, I would say live for free and they must put at least 30% into savings every month. Should be buying own toiletries and any special
groceries independently. If not good savers, they give you the 30% to put away

if you can’t afford to subsidize, bill them for the increased costs and then make sure any excess goes to savings either directly or through you.

Ihatepcos · 09/02/2023 18:47

£0 if they're saving to move out.

Northernsoullover · 09/02/2023 18:48

kitcat15 · 09/02/2023 18:46

I took 200£ a month of my youngest when he was here....I don't want to make a profit out of him

Profit? Your home running costs must be tiny.

kitcat15 · 09/02/2023 19:01

Northernsoullover · 09/02/2023 18:48

Profit? Your home running costs must be tiny.

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But the heating wouldn't be on any more because he was here hardly.....he was out a lot as young people are....so hardly ate at home.....he helped with chores and looking after dog.....if you can't help your kids out a bit its a crying shame I say

kitcat15 · 09/02/2023 19:02

Ihatepcos · 09/02/2023 18:47

£0 if they're saving to move out.

Well noone would agree with you..they are all out to fleece their kids on here🙄

Porkyporkchop · 09/02/2023 19:02

JumbleSailor · 09/02/2023 18:43

£200? To cover share of food and bills only.

That’s what I thought. £50 a week to cover the basics.

Original poster
Fordian · 09/02/2023 19:03

Thanks for the replies so far.

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Decafflatteplease · 09/02/2023 19:06

I'm going back like 20 years but DH and I lived with parents for a while to save up for our own place. They wouldn't take any money off us but instead I did bits round the house for them as I worked part time they and DH were full time. So I did all the ironing, bought and cooked the dinner 2 nights a week, did the shopping, cleaned bathrooms, hoovered etc. Basically did day to day house stuff. Would something like that work for you?

DelphiniumBlue · 09/02/2023 19:06

I reckon £250 breaks me just about even for a contribution from DS for bills and groceries. DS has recently increased his contribution to £350 so that he can put on the heating during the day while working from home ( his suggestion). I'm not quite sure that it covers it, but he chips in for top-up shops and takeaways and I want him to be able to save. I don't think there's a rent element in that, though.

Pumpkinween · 09/02/2023 19:11

£500pm

Quitetheminx · 09/02/2023 19:11

My son is 19, didn’t go to uni, earning £21k and is saving to train to be a pilot through modular route. I don’t take any board but he pays for his own phone, petrol and car insurance and of course his social life. He’s remarkably good at budgeting and saving. If he wasn’t I’d take board and give it back at the right time. I’m planning to help as far as I can with his training costs and given how well he manages money, I see every penny he’s able to keep as an investment in his future

Anon300 · 09/02/2023 19:12

kitcat15 · 09/02/2023 19:02

Well noone would agree with you..they are all out to fleece their kids on here🙄

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If people are taking a third of their kids take home pay at 27k then they are fleecing their kids. It is not costing hundreds a pounds a month in extra fuel bills and food.

Anon300 · 09/02/2023 19:13

Pumpkinween · 09/02/2023 19:11

£500pm

It's not costing you an extra 500 quid for them to live with you though is it?

Coxspurplepippin · 09/02/2023 19:16

Anon300 · 09/02/2023 19:13

It's not costing you an extra 500 quid for them to live with you though is it?

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I think it's fair to look at all household bills - council tax, power, water, broadband, food, household spends (washing powder etc) and something for actual rent. If you charge £100 PW, (and I think it's confusing because some people are doing weekly and others monthly), that's what, £16 per day, give or take? That seems like a bargain tbh.