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Things that make you RAGE about your parents?

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Derby2022 · 05/02/2023 17:11

Okay, bit of a light-hearted topic whilst dinner is cooking

What things make you RAGE when talking to your parents?

This has all stemmed from a bit of a snappy row Ive just had with my mother this afternoon for context:

My mother has this thing where if, in the first 10 seconds, she isn't interested in a topic or what I or my sibling has to say she'll sigh and go "yeah yeah get to the point" - I've always found it quite rude, YES I know there are some people who do waffle (looking at the woman at the end of every staff meeting with the questions...) But I just find it so rude to say that, especially when the "point" is what you/I am currently explaining! It comes across to me that the person has zero interest in the conversation and just wants you to shut up.

Does anyone else think this is so rude?

ANYWAY, was talking to my sister about Mum and she mentioned she finds it really rude/irritating when Mum makes comments about the neighbour's garden...it's nothing to do with her and my sibling is getting sick of hearing about next doors bloody rotten fence!

So MN's tell me things that make you RAGE about your parents - to give me a chuckle!

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Boneweary · 05/02/2023 17:14

I agree with you - it is rude.

Mine are dead now, but my dad used to steal tomato ketchup, sugar and so on from Wetherspoons and similar places. And stash them in a bum bag. It was absolutely cringeworthy.

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Derby2022 · 05/02/2023 17:20

Boneweary · 05/02/2023 17:14

I agree with you - it is rude.

Mine are dead now, but my dad used to steal tomato ketchup, sugar and so on from Wetherspoons and similar places. And stash them in a bum bag. It was absolutely cringeworthy.

Yes! My ex bf used to INSIST on taking sachets and they then would sit in the fridge for months "in case of emergency" despite the fact I always had ketchup and mayo in the big bottles anyway! I'd find that so annoying too!

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Laloca2000 · 05/02/2023 17:20

My mum has completely rewritten our history. She was a crap mum and a crap wife yet will pontificate to me and my siblings about how things were so much better the way she did things and how we are all failing as parents. She is an absolute expert on raising children it would seem and has conveniently forgotten just how rubbish she was when we were all young. Her views on discipline are hard line and frankly quite scary yet she knows best cos we all turned out alright. Erm no we didn't . We all have varying degrees of self esteem issues, lack of confidence and prone to depression plus other things, thanks in large part to her.
Fortunately we all have a fairly good sense of humour cos otherwise....

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Redebs · 05/02/2023 17:21

Laloca2000 · 05/02/2023 17:20

My mum has completely rewritten our history. She was a crap mum and a crap wife yet will pontificate to me and my siblings about how things were so much better the way she did things and how we are all failing as parents. She is an absolute expert on raising children it would seem and has conveniently forgotten just how rubbish she was when we were all young. Her views on discipline are hard line and frankly quite scary yet she knows best cos we all turned out alright. Erm no we didn't . We all have varying degrees of self esteem issues, lack of confidence and prone to depression plus other things, thanks in large part to her.
Fortunately we all have a fairly good sense of humour cos otherwise....

Gawd, that must be hard to hear from her!

LocalHobo · 05/02/2023 17:27

If I talk about single female friends, my mother always infers that they must be lesbians. When I tell her that they are happily single she assures me I am being naive. Despite my assurances that, were they seeking a partner of the same sex, they would do that quite openly and no one would even raise an eyebrow, she, once again, gives me a sly smile and infers I am stupid.
I can't imagine where this attitude comes from and it makes me rage!

bunhead1979 · 05/02/2023 17:28

My parent had a 30 minute rant today about a man i don’t know, AND they don’t know, but was a friend of a friend 30 years ago. See that makes me want to say “come on, get to the point” but i’m not rude i just nod here and there.

Just generally very very bogged down and judgey about other peoples business.

Mushroo · 05/02/2023 17:32

My mum talks whilst she’s chewing food. It makes me feel sick.
As a teenager I told her it was gross, as an adult I’ve raised it politely as possible but she still does it!

She’s lovely and well mannered other than this and it’s reached the point I can barely tolerate a meal out with her.

Carryonroundthecorner · 05/02/2023 17:33

These are funny.
My dad will only talk about himself, rugby, the male sex of the family or football. Every song he sings always sounds like an Elvis impersonation.
He also went through a phase in the 90s of saying lovely jubly every time a waiter or waitress/shop keeper spoke to him. He even used an East London accent even though he's from up North. I think he idolised the guys in only fools and horses. He used to genuinely like venga boys and play it loudly. He's not offensive I'd say probably at worst a bit daft.

ifonly4 · 05/02/2023 17:33

bunhead1979 My DM does the same constantly. So long winded, I often can't take it all in. On top of that the final point is usually that another person has upset her.

Occasionally we do have a two way conversation, but it's usually DM ranting, when I do get chance to comment, I usually get cut over so don't finish unless I talk over her. Sadly, there's a lot she doesn't know about our lives as no point in trying to tell her.

Have to admit it's very draining. What's a shame is that she does genuinely care.

JamSandle · 05/02/2023 17:34

My dad always criticises the physical appearance of my boyfriend. Every. Single. One.

Mabelface · 05/02/2023 17:38

Not keeping on top of medication then whingeing that they don't feel well.

CottonSock · 05/02/2023 17:40

My dad invalidates every opinion I have. We don't talk much.

longtompot · 05/02/2023 17:43

I avoid talking about politics with mine as we are very different and some of her views make me cross

Kfjsjdbd · 05/02/2023 17:44

My retired mum always says ‘you must almost be as busy as me’ when I tell her about my full time job, two young children and house renovation. She genuinely thinks she has more on her plate. It makes me so angry.

doodlejump1980 · 05/02/2023 17:45

My Dad doesn’t trust anyone in the gp surgery apart from the doctor. So won’t tell the receptionist or nurse triaging him what’s wrong so then doesn’t get the urgent appointment he so desperately needs. He ended up in hospital last Christmas - very lucky not to lose his leg, because he won’t ask for help. He’s so fucking stubborn!

CantFindTheBeat · 05/02/2023 17:48

LocalHobo · 05/02/2023 17:27

If I talk about single female friends, my mother always infers that they must be lesbians. When I tell her that they are happily single she assures me I am being naive. Despite my assurances that, were they seeking a partner of the same sex, they would do that quite openly and no one would even raise an eyebrow, she, once again, gives me a sly smile and infers I am stupid.
I can't imagine where this attitude comes from and it makes me rage!

I've got your mum's sly smile in my head now, and it's giving me the rage too on your behalf!

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 05/02/2023 17:49

My Mum positively revels in others misfortunes in a way I find ugly but can't express to her because of her penchant for dramatic offence taking.

MsJinks · 05/02/2023 17:53

My mother just talks - and talks - and talks - for my own amusement I sometimes have timed how long it takes until either I say something, and I mean literally a word, or she (rarely) asks how I am - been an hour before, usually around 40 minutes- but she then still continues. So she’s elderly now with a bit of dementia and carers/workers have asked if it’s since she got old/since she lost my dad - but no, it actually isn’t - it’s been since I knew her over 50 years ago, (and before) even getting asked to be quiet in my dance class or spending an hour standing waiting in the street as she collared a stranger. She loved being a teacher and my dad adored her, even when she was risking his fear of lateness getting somewhere, and obviously I love her but the talking is hard 🤦🏻‍♀️

Whyisitsososohard · 05/02/2023 17:55

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 05/02/2023 17:49

My Mum positively revels in others misfortunes in a way I find ugly but can't express to her because of her penchant for dramatic offence taking.

Are we sisters?!! My mum really seems to hate it when others are happy and does seem to feel like others get what they deserve if things go wrong.

And also massively sensitive so if I dared say actually you're being vwry judgmentand unpleasant it would be the most offensive thing ever.

We actually recently had a falling out and I said some things I've been keeping in for many years. Without going into boring detail the fall out caused huge disruption in my life and cost me money. They both acted as if they were the wounded party and moped around in devastation for weeks. Until I eventually just pretended everything was OK as I couldn't handle the drama anymore.

So emotionally immature. I don't know how they survived working etc. They're 65ish now and although people talk about boomers having certain traits I actually feel lots of their behaviour is just their personality.

Soz not that lighthearted!!

fairypeasant · 05/02/2023 17:55

I rage that they voted Brexit, and stole our futures. But can't mention it, and they won't believe any issues are due to Brexit.

Hups · 05/02/2023 17:57

Their bickering. It really is any time, any place.
It's like watching a tennis match.
Mum will be wittering on about her garden to my right, dad will be wittering on about the price of bread to my left, so you have one ear on her and one on him.
I'm sat with my head swivelling from one to the other until mum tells my dad to shut up, which makes him laugh.
Then the bickering starts.....again!
It's exactly the same on the phone, I'll be chatting to my mum and dad will be wittering on in the background with my mum eventually snapping at him to shut up.
To be fair, they've just celebrated their 70th wedding anniversary so it obviously works for them.

imnotthatkindofmum · 05/02/2023 17:58

The utter vitriol my mum talks about Meghan Markle. Like she's actually bloody met her, she even say things she has said to other people like she was party to her conversations.

Personally I have no opinion because I don't actually know her 🤷🏻‍♀️ as I tell my mum every time.

She reads the daily fail as well. (My mum I mean I'm sure MM avoids that!)

Whyisitsososohard · 05/02/2023 17:58

Kfjsjdbd · 05/02/2023 17:44

My retired mum always says ‘you must almost be as busy as me’ when I tell her about my full time job, two young children and house renovation. She genuinely thinks she has more on her plate. It makes me so angry.

Omg this too. I work full time and take on freelance work. Obvs my choice and it's not a competition but it gives me rage. She often acts like any of my leisure activities are a luxury, like I have so much time. Like if I make gifts or cook.

imnotthatkindofmum · 05/02/2023 17:59

Also she's a bit deaf and my dad talks quietly. She'll just talk over our conversations which is infuriating as he has interesting things to say not just slagging off Meghan Markle!

imnotthatkindofmum · 05/02/2023 18:01

fairypeasant · 05/02/2023 17:55

I rage that they voted Brexit, and stole our futures. But can't mention it, and they won't believe any issues are due to Brexit.

Oh yes both my parents and in-laws voted brexit. Our business at the time was very euro focussed. DH actually said to his dad " you are aware of what I do right?!" FIL was convinced it wouldn't affect us.