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Daughter keeps ranting at me about GS weeing the bed

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Cantcook4shit · 04/02/2023 23:13

I know I'm being judgemental. But I'm so fed up with it.
Grandson is 5 he often stays over1 or 2 nights. No accidents in bed no problem what so ever. He likes to take a toddler sippy cup to bed with him. He has one drink in the no more. As I said no accidents its not even a discussion or a thing.
Practically every day I have my daughter ranting at me. That he's peeing the bed several times a night she swears blind shes not letting him over drink or giving him. Drinks through the night. But I don't believe her . What Gos in comes out. So she just be putting something in ...
Pull ups don't work as he rips them . And also soaks through them .
I know I'm sounding judgemental. But I'm just so fed up with hearing it every day.
Its things like omg I can't take this anymore he's pissed 3 times I can't get anything dry . I don't know what to do. It just don't stop bla bla. It's stressful listening/reading it . I know its stressful for her . But I don't think she's helping her self. And it's not fair on him.
Whats she want me to do ???
Yes I know I'm sound like a right bitch . I fully support her with alot of stuff very supportive but I can't fix this when she's doing nothing.

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thaegumathteth · 04/02/2023 23:23

Huh? What are you being judgemental about? Is GS grandson? He can't help it.

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Cantcook4shit · 04/02/2023 23:27

thaegumathteth · 04/02/2023 23:23

Huh? What are you being judgemental about? Is GS grandson? He can't help it.

No he can't help it. He's only little . But he's completely dry at my house. But not at his own house/dd house . I'm just fed up with dd ranting at me.

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GrazingSheep · 04/02/2023 23:27

He is 5 years old. A small boy. Your daughter sounds awful.

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GrazingSheep · 04/02/2023 23:28

Is he afraid of her?

YourGazeHitsTheSideOfMyFace · 04/02/2023 23:28

I’d be concerned that he is unhappy or afraid with his mum/at home. Perhaps worth thinking about.

RJnomore1 · 04/02/2023 23:29

Is he in night pull-ups?

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Cantcook4shit · 04/02/2023 23:33

I'm pretty sure he's not scared of her. As when he stays without her he asks for her . Asks to go home ect. And when they are here together he says can we go home now mummy when he's had enough. I think if he was scared he would not ask to go home.

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Cantcook4shit · 04/02/2023 23:34

RJnomore1 · 04/02/2023 23:29

Is he in night pull-ups?

Yeah she's tried nappts pull ups and the ones called dry nights . He rips it off anyway so don't think it makes a difference.

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BlueWhiteHat · 04/02/2023 23:36

Were the huge gaps for dramatic effect?

GetOffTheTableMabel · 04/02/2023 23:39

Is it possible that he is attention seeking? At 5, children will take negative attention over feeling ignored. He may be doing it deliberately or he may be not be doing it exactly deliberately but because he subconsciously craves her attention. What happens when he does it? Does he get to sleep in your DD’s bed? Does he get to go downstairs for a bit while she sorts things out? If he only does it at her house, it’s because on some level, it works for him, even if he’s not exactly aware why himself.

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Cantcook4shit · 04/02/2023 23:39

Cantcook4shit · 04/02/2023 23:34

Yeah she's tried nappts pull ups and the ones called dry nights . He rips it off anyway so don't think it makes a difference.

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Nope there is a problem with posting and leaving big gaps like my op . For people using Samsung phones. There's a thread about it

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SNWannabe · 04/02/2023 23:39

Tell her to stop moaning at you. But I’d also be telling him to stop taking off the pull ups- at 5 he is more than able to follow instructions and that would piss me off too(excuse the pun!)
I wouldn’t mind about the peeing at night, some kids aren’t ready young… but I’d be annoyed if they took off pull ups and then wet the bed.

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Cantcook4shit · 04/02/2023 23:40

BlueWhiteHat · 04/02/2023 23:36

Were the huge gaps for dramatic effect?

Nope there is a problem with posting and leaving big gaps like my op . For people using Samsung phones. There's a thread about it

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BlueWhiteHat · 04/02/2023 23:41

Ah sorry haven’t seen anything about it affecting certain phones.

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Cantcook4shit · 04/02/2023 23:43

SNWannabe · 04/02/2023 23:39

Tell her to stop moaning at you. But I’d also be telling him to stop taking off the pull ups- at 5 he is more than able to follow instructions and that would piss me off too(excuse the pun!)
I wouldn’t mind about the peeing at night, some kids aren’t ready young… but I’d be annoyed if they took off pull ups and then wet the bed.

If might need that he does not like them and he's uncomfortable.

I just don't get what's different between here and there.

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JenniferBarkley · 04/02/2023 23:44

Have you posted another thread about this recently, there was a thread about a little boy who was very difficult at home with his mum but a dream at school and with his grandparents. Bed wetting was just one of many areas discussed. It screamed masking, and sounded like the little boy's mum was having a very difficult time.

TheWildRumpyPumpus · 04/02/2023 23:44

Has anyone asked him why he manages to stay dry at your house but not at home? Using an approach of “what do you think makes the difference at GM house?”. He’s 5 so should be able to talk about it

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Cantcook4shit · 04/02/2023 23:45

BlueWhiteHat · 04/02/2023 23:41

Ah sorry haven’t seen anything about it affecting certain phones.

www.mumsnet.com/talk/site_stuff/4684524-big-paragraphs-appearing-when-i-try-to-reply-to-threads?page=6&reply=123653227

Been going on since end of last year

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Thenewsisnext · 04/02/2023 23:47

BlueWhiteHat · 04/02/2023 23:36

Were the huge gaps for dramatic effect?

Why do some people go straight for the critical nasty reason rather than presumably just a tech issue??

ShopoholicIn · 04/02/2023 23:48

BlueWhiteHat · 04/02/2023 23:36

Were the huge gaps for dramatic effect?

I thought it was only me who had it..😂

ShopoholicIn · 04/02/2023 23:49

Cantcook4shit · 04/02/2023 23:40

Nope there is a problem with posting and leaving big gaps like my op . For people using Samsung phones. There's a thread about it

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Oh sorry.. yes samsung here....with

Large

Gaps

watsthecraic · 04/02/2023 23:50

Has she spoken to the HV?

Crumpetdisappointment · 04/02/2023 23:51

are there plenty of lights on do you know so that he can freely go to the loo?

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Cantcook4shit · 04/02/2023 23:52

JenniferBarkley · 04/02/2023 23:44

Have you posted another thread about this recently, there was a thread about a little boy who was very difficult at home with his mum but a dream at school and with his grandparents. Bed wetting was just one of many areas discussed. It screamed masking, and sounded like the little boy's mum was having a very difficult time.

Yes.... that's why I said im being judgemental because I know I am.

But with this particular issue I don't think shes helping herself. For him to be weeing as much as he is she much be over watering him

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Cantcook4shit · 04/02/2023 23:53

ShopoholicIn · 04/02/2023 23:49

Oh sorry.. yes samsung here....with

Large

Gaps

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Mind the gap

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