Do you and your partner share a bed?

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So this week dh has been poorly so I've slept in the spare bed so that we both have a chance of getting some sleep. The problem is that I'm quite happy and could stay like this.
Is that really bad? I'm going through the menopause and have no interest in anything physical which probably is influencing my opinion atm, but how normal is this?

We share a bed but have seperate duvets. I was reluctant at first but I honestly wouldn't change it now. You can be close if you want but also seperate if you choose. He runs warm so has a thinner duvet than me

I love being in bed with DH. We snuggle and chat every evening before sleep then he sleeps and I read, then I snuggle down into him to sleep myself.

I'd hate to be away from him every night.

Yes we sleep together the three of us, me, husband and the baby. No snoring issues and we all sleep better all cuddled up.
Sometimes I have nightmares and he is able to reassure me and make me feel safe.

It may be that people are more inclined to go for separate beds as they get older. We coped okay initially - had babies sleep along side us, toddlers coming in and out etc, so sleep was disrupted anyway.

I never used to have any problem falling asleep and could sleep through DH's snoring. When I hit the menopause though I developed insomnia and became quite anxious about needing to get to sleep before DH started snoring - which of course makes it impossible to get to sleep. And then he started to get anxious about letting me get to sleep first so some nights we'd both be lying awake for hours! We struggled on with me often ending up on the sofa in the small hours. Then, as dcs went off to uni, there were more beds available so if one of us was particularly tired we'd just start the night off in separate beds. In the last year or so though we've finally bitten the bullet and just go to separate rooms every night. I sleep so much better!

I’d sleep in a different house from my (amazing and very much adored DD but she is disabled and wakes every night around 3-4am (or earlier) and DH because he shuffles and snores. I think I sleep in 20 minute bursts.

@AlmondBake that's why I put the sentence I did in brackets.

No - he prefers to sleep downstairs with the dog. It makes me
sad.

We don't share a bed since I hit menopause and was pouring with sweat all night long and thrashing about. I took myself off to another bedroom. I put on weight and started to snore loudly and had a lot of nasty physical changes including atrophy, sudden onset asthma and sudden disc problems which GP said were all down to hormonal changes in menopause. So we are in separate beds - in fact, separate rooms. I never, ever thought that would happen, but nobody would be able to sleep in the same room as me.
When I was a kid, some married people had twin beds in the same bedroom! It was thought to be cleaner. That would be lovely if I didn't snore.

I cannot share a bed and sleep well.
I don't know why but I just cannot sleep well with someone near me. It puts me on edge.

For some reason I just don't feel the need for closeness and intimacy at night. I need a quiet, dark place to fidget and be myself and recharge.

It has knocked my self esteem in the past, but life is short and I have accepted it.

I wonder if anyone out there is like me

Yes suscord ME!

I'm in my 50s, was married for 15 years and have had several relationships since divorcing in 2008.
I have never been able to sleep next to someone.
I hate the feeling and it gives me high anxiety.

The bed sharing issue killed my last relationship.
I tried my best to sleep together, but he would be woken in the night by my heart beating so hard with anxiety that it was vibrating the mattress!!

I can't even explain what I don't like.

It starts off being ok & being temporary but it's the kiss of death to intimacy. It was a big factor in our marriage ending.

Intrigued to know how it affects sex life of those who don’t share a bed?

Apparently haven't separate bedrooms didn't dampen down queen Victoria and Prince Albert

22 years married, we sleep separately now. My snoring, overheating and us moving from the countryside and now having the higher noise levels in a town are the main reasons for sleeping separately. Also we work different hours so try to avoid disturbing each other.

our sex life has changed over the years, but we never needed the act of getting into bed with each other to get frisky and still don’t! Nor does it need to be at ‘bedtime!’

Double beds came out of the necessity to keep warm and limited space in years gone by.

Not normal at all. Been through menopause with dh. Together

We’ve been married for over 30 yrs and still happily share our king size bed , at the moment the dog is snoring in between us but he goes in his own bed when I turn the lights out .

We share a bed. Could not imagine otherwise. However, friends of mine sleep separately to their DHs. Each to their own, whatever works I think.

I need my space . Husband sleeps in another room L

Hate anyone breathing on me or touching me with their feet or snoring, snorting, farting or turning over. Having my own room has been a game changer for me and actually improved intimacy.

I don't share a bed with my oh because he snores like a fucking pig! We haven't shared a bed for 7 years and it was actually the best thing for our relationship, we rarely argue anymore and both get better sleep.

I share a bed with my DH. But, it's past 2am and I'm wide awake due to his snoring. Very tempted to go into the spare bedroom.

We sleep Sunday night to Thursdsy night apart and back together at weekends when it doesn't matter as much if we disturb one another.

Do what makes you happy.

We do share a bed and I admit the physical closeness is important to me.

We have slept apart for all but 2 years when we first got together, we've been married 20 years.
I absolutely love my bedroom, the peace and quiet of it.
He too is happy, he goes to bed later than me and can get ready for bed without tiptoeing round.

Started off similar to you or after an argument dh would say I had to go on spare bed!
Backfired when I've not gone back on 2 years later.

I love sleeping apart!