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Ioan Gruffudd/Alice Evans

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Notatallanamechange · 28/01/2023 00:46

Don’t know if anyone has followed this, but she had an arrest warrant issued today for failing to appear in court for breaching a restraining order he has for domestic abuse. Their poor children seem like an afterthought.

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Rosiefifi · 28/01/2023 20:08

Rainbowsandbutterflies1990 · 28/01/2023 19:55

Quite frankly is everyone perfect in every situation or incredibly difficult situation they ever have in life? R u perfect in ur life?

I think not being a shitty dad is pretty basic criteria. He chose to put on his social media thank you for making me smile again, do his daughters not make him smile ? Why did he need to rush into another living together relationship when his unhinged ex has primary residence of the two people who need him most. He was away for months in the UK with Bianca , Bianca seems to follow him everywhere does she not a have a job? When the eldest discussed a trip out together he refused and started going on about his girlfriend no suggestions of an alternative activity. He could have gone then self isolated he hadn't seen them for months. I would walk on hot coals if I hadn't seen my DD in months

We all know Alice is unhinged and nasty , the girls are relying on Ioan to be the stable parent who puts his kids first. I'm not saying he couldn't have a relationship but he could have just dated.
The daughters must be going through hell and they have no control. It's not that long until the oldest reaches 18 couldn't he have waited until the divorce was sorted and the kids settled ?

LoekMa · 28/01/2023 20:13

Rosiefifi · 28/01/2023 20:08

I think not being a shitty dad is pretty basic criteria. He chose to put on his social media thank you for making me smile again, do his daughters not make him smile ? Why did he need to rush into another living together relationship when his unhinged ex has primary residence of the two people who need him most. He was away for months in the UK with Bianca , Bianca seems to follow him everywhere does she not a have a job? When the eldest discussed a trip out together he refused and started going on about his girlfriend no suggestions of an alternative activity. He could have gone then self isolated he hadn't seen them for months. I would walk on hot coals if I hadn't seen my DD in months

We all know Alice is unhinged and nasty , the girls are relying on Ioan to be the stable parent who puts his kids first. I'm not saying he couldn't have a relationship but he could have just dated.
The daughters must be going through hell and they have no control. It's not that long until the oldest reaches 18 couldn't he have waited until the divorce was sorted and the kids settled ?

couldn't he have waited until the divorce was sorted and the kids settled ?

Why should anyone let their ABUSER dictate how to live their lives? She was very open about her intention to drag the divorce out as long as possible. Regularly referring to the fact that Angelina and Brad's divorce has taken nearly 7 years now.

I'm sure women who can't accept an Ex moving on would love this straw-man line of reasoning. It was never about the kids. Its always been about punishing her punching bag for leaving.

Rainbowsandbutterflies1990 · 28/01/2023 20:16

Rosiefifi · 28/01/2023 20:08

I think not being a shitty dad is pretty basic criteria. He chose to put on his social media thank you for making me smile again, do his daughters not make him smile ? Why did he need to rush into another living together relationship when his unhinged ex has primary residence of the two people who need him most. He was away for months in the UK with Bianca , Bianca seems to follow him everywhere does she not a have a job? When the eldest discussed a trip out together he refused and started going on about his girlfriend no suggestions of an alternative activity. He could have gone then self isolated he hadn't seen them for months. I would walk on hot coals if I hadn't seen my DD in months

We all know Alice is unhinged and nasty , the girls are relying on Ioan to be the stable parent who puts his kids first. I'm not saying he couldn't have a relationship but he could have just dated.
The daughters must be going through hell and they have no control. It's not that long until the oldest reaches 18 couldn't he have waited until the divorce was sorted and the kids settled ?

U r talking like everything u say is a fact and u know them personally. Hpw do u know more wasnt said and u just havent been shown it? We do not know everything. U also have no right to decide when he should start living with someone. Since when does the new partner need a job? To be classed as ok? He has a right to have another relationship and decide if they live together, he can write posts on his social media . These are not 'shitty' dad things. I can imagine it being incredibly difficult to try and parent when u have the ex partner involving themselves in the relationship between child and other parent. And having to put up with abuse.

MarshaMelrose · 28/01/2023 20:17

Habber · 28/01/2023 20:07

Surely I don’t need to tell you that verbal abuse and harassment is still illegal even if it isn’t physical? But yeah, she has hit him and she has also sexually harassed him

I'm not asking you to tell me anything other to link me to the physical abuse you claim she committed, if you wouldn't mind.

She hit him but mostly verbal, pretty badly

Because I can't see anything detailed in his custody filing or in the DVRO.

LoekMa · 28/01/2023 20:19

Bianca seems to follow him everywhere does she not a have a job?

Are you worried about her pension? How's that any of your concern? His financial disclosure has shown that she stepped up in the recent months andhas been footing their joint bills.

Ofcourse you're probably just worried about her being financially exploited right? It would be best she just let Ioan become homeless and then he could move back into the garage like Alice told him to - but you already knew that. You read the documents.

MarshaMelrose · 28/01/2023 20:22

@LoekMa

The evidence is out there.

Can you link me to it? Because I can't find any evidence of physical violence. I can't see it in his custody filing where he lists verbal abuse. Nor is it mentioned in the awarding of the DVRO. Where else should I look for it?

ClaraThePigeon · 28/01/2023 20:22

MarshaMelrose I'm not Habber but it's on line 13 on page 13 of the custody documents.

Ioan Gruffudd/Alice Evans
MarshaMelrose · 28/01/2023 20:26

Thank you, @ClaraThePigeon, I appreciate that.

ClaraThePigeon · 28/01/2023 20:27

You're welcome.

Rosiefifi · 28/01/2023 20:30

LoekMa · 28/01/2023 20:19

Bianca seems to follow him everywhere does she not a have a job?

Are you worried about her pension? How's that any of your concern? His financial disclosure has shown that she stepped up in the recent months andhas been footing their joint bills.

Ofcourse you're probably just worried about her being financially exploited right? It would be best she just let Ioan become homeless and then he could move back into the garage like Alice told him to - but you already knew that. You read the documents.

Well unless she's a multi millionaire which I doubt , the constant holidays aren't going to be a thing and healthcare is incredibly expensive in the US. I hope her movie does do well.

LoekMa · 28/01/2023 20:35

Rosiefifi · 28/01/2023 20:30

Well unless she's a multi millionaire which I doubt , the constant holidays aren't going to be a thing and healthcare is incredibly expensive in the US. I hope her movie does do well.

which I doubt

precisely. You nor Alice nor her minions have any way of knowing what her financial set up is like.

For all anyone knows she might have won the lottery and is keeping it quiet, I know I would.

The crucial point is, she is NOT responsible for his family. Ioan is trying to live within the means available to him, Alice feels entitled to a life "she has become acustomed to" without doing jack to contribute.

Oh no wait. She is being very active with one of the children to ensure the financial blackmail continues.

He needs to stand his ground.

Truelive · 28/01/2023 20:37

You should get your facts straight. He was back from the Australian filming, left her half a year later and moved into a small apartment nearby. Has always said he wants 50% custody, she has turned the children against him as a way to get revenge that he escaped her.

redrobin57 · 28/01/2023 20:45

Just read through all these comments, so it's interesting to see the support for an abusive partner.
No-one has mentioned that she had an affair with one of the lead actors in Vampire Dairies. Her children were very young at the time. Ioan agreed to take her back for the sake of the children
At one point,they had 2 nannies plus a cleaner, so Alice could continue her career but apart from Vampire Dairies, she never had a career in Hollywood. She got a bad name in the industry because of her bad behavior on set.
He hired Gloria because he was worried about Alice's behavior when he had to work aboard. In the court documents, he described having to leave for Australia with Alice flat out drunk on the kitchen floor as she had been drinking since 11 am in the morning.
As for the school, he never agreed to it but Alice went behind his back when he was working in Australia. Despite her go fund me, she had plenty of money stashed way, as she stole $100,000 from his account. He has financially paid for everything since the separation up until March 2022 . Even now he still paying for things that should have been her responsibility by now. He had to borrow money from his parents to stop the house from going into foreclosure.
People have said that he should of move back to the UK as he would of had more opportunities there. Yes, that is true but that would mean Alice agreeing to moving back. She was never going to agree to that as she is American by birth. In any custody battle, the children would have stayed with her because American judges will not side with the non American born partner unless there are exceptional reasons. Kelly Rutherford found that out the hard way when she managed to get her ex's grrencard rescinded which led to an automatic ban from the States. The judge in that case sided with the ex husband and the children had to move to Luxembourg where he lived.
Now with the latest episode,that exception has been reached.

Alice managed turn his own fan club against him. That was well before they separated.

She has written to the production teams, directors and actors, threatening to post untrue stories about them and Ioan. She even accused the actress who play the daughter in Harrow, of having an affair with him. This has effected his ability to find jobs anywhere, let alone Hollywood.

Their house was meant to be sold last year but Alice pulled out at the last moment.

I know we tend to laugh about male abuse victims but there way more than people believe. I remember laughing with my colleagues when our office manager would come in and tell us about the latest injury her husband had suffered. We would joke how many more cupboard doors will he smashed into. The truth is that we knew he was being battered by this woman, and we were scared of her as well.Think of how hard it for women to admit they are victims of abuse and then think of how much harder it is for a man.

Yes, I support Ioan but I don't think he is saint and he not the greatest actor around 🤣. I suspect he is taking advice from his legal team and that has led to some odd decisions about the kids. Now the divorce will go ahead before a decision has been made about custody. Originally it was being decided at the same time as the final divorce settlement. Now there is interim period between Feb to July when the final decision will be made separately,from the divorce. This is no doubt a changing situation which Alice's blatant disregard for the law!

whumpthereitis · 28/01/2023 20:48

I imagine Ioan Gruffudd is dealing with issues relating to the children through the courts. I don’t for a second think trying to sort out a schedule with Alice was something he was able to do. He seems to want to keep it as private as possible as well. No idea whether he cheated or not 🤷🏻‍♀️

anyway, Alice has been a nightmare for years with her penchant for picking fights (online and off). It’s sporadically made the media before, but this is the first time it’s been made quite so obvious.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 28/01/2023 20:58

Rosiefifi · 28/01/2023 13:07

Yes they are both British that's why I talked about it . I can't understand why she signed it. Imagine if a SAHM did an AIBU about her DH leaving her for a woman 20 years younger and offering her a very small settlement. MN would be in uproar. I will never believe Ioan is a naive victim because he chose to set up that pre nup and never updated it after the kids were born. He held the power financially in the marriage.

To be honest Alice should offer him full custody she's going to lose anyway with the criminal convictions. I predict his relationship will last 6 months with the girls there.

The MN poster would be told that child support is fine if you have primary care rather than 50:50, which is hugely supported on here, but most of all, that she'd need to get off her arse and get a job rather than expect spousal support when the children aren't babies.

WaddleAway · 28/01/2023 20:58

IG has been requesting 50:50 custody throughout. However he recognised that some therapy was needed for all parties before that could be possible due to him being away working for so long and the parental alienation they’ve been subjected to.

Simulacra · 28/01/2023 20:58

@redrobin57 and these attitudes directly contribute to the amount of women/children dead/traumatised for decades etc - they make us feel like we have to stay, like we deserve it for “making bad choices”, and if we do leave and end up in a refuge/council house/on benefits and unable to work whilst recovering, well we get the same level of shit for that too.

Anyone with this attitude has blood on their hands.

Rainbowsandbutterflies1990 · 28/01/2023 21:07

I think if he was the woman in this situation and she the man there wouldn't even be any he not perfect he's being 'shitty' etc. It would b accepted he's in a really difficult situation and trying his best and the abuser is awful one.

LoekMa · 28/01/2023 21:16

Rainbowsandbutterflies1990 · 28/01/2023 21:07

I think if he was the woman in this situation and she the man there wouldn't even be any he not perfect he's being 'shitty' etc. It would b accepted he's in a really difficult situation and trying his best and the abuser is awful one.

Exactly. There would be NO discussion of how dangerous Alice's behaviour actually is. Constantly showing Ioan that she does not care what the law says, she's "coming for him".

That's why I suspect deep down Alice minions are women who either wish they could have treated their exs the way Alice is treating Ioan, or they are women who already plan on going scorched earth on DH when their marriages collapse.

How anyone can ever justify her behaviour is mind boggling. No amount of heartbreak justifies committing a CRIME.

Imagine if men demanded more empathy because they committ a crime against women and justify it by saying, I snapped, she left me.

And we're just like aaaw, that's understandable.

Christ on a bike.

Habber · 28/01/2023 21:17

MarshaMelrose · 28/01/2023 20:17

I'm not asking you to tell me anything other to link me to the physical abuse you claim she committed, if you wouldn't mind.

She hit him but mostly verbal, pretty badly

Because I can't see anything detailed in his custody filing or in the DVRO.

It is all in the DVRO filing. Sorry but it is. Its a lot of reading but you will be able to find it

He described months and months of verbal abuse to his face, email and via the kids, his mum and employer. During lockdown she told him he was annoying her homeschooling the kids, was useless, piece of shit etc, the recording of her saying to her 12Yo on her birthday ‘I will find a new daddy for you and someone who appreciates me’ was whilst they were still together! She got blackout drunk in the morning the day he was due to fly back to Australia, passed out on the kitchen floor then hit him round the head. She also exposed herself to him on their driveway during a child handover. She sent about 7 letters and emails to his employers telling them he was a coke addict who spent $1 million dollars on prostitutes etc etc (no evidence of this). She stalked BW’s ex husband (who committed DV against BW) to dig up dirt on her and posted it all over the internet. She also posted private recordings and messages of her own kids.

I don’t really know what else you need, it's all out there in plain sight, she’s never hidden any of this distain for Ioan and his family. People are describing to you serious acts of abuse he’s reported. She has a restraining order, from a judge and she’s going to be arrested for breaching it, the law agrees she is a DV perp

Habber · 28/01/2023 21:29

Here are some posts from Ioan about Alice in the court docs
maybe this will answer some questions about how he talks to his kids and how Alice vowed to ruin his life 2 years ago, before BW appeared

Ioan Gruffudd/Alice Evans
Ioan Gruffudd/Alice Evans
MarshaMelrose · 28/01/2023 21:32

Habber · 28/01/2023 21:17

It is all in the DVRO filing. Sorry but it is. Its a lot of reading but you will be able to find it

He described months and months of verbal abuse to his face, email and via the kids, his mum and employer. During lockdown she told him he was annoying her homeschooling the kids, was useless, piece of shit etc, the recording of her saying to her 12Yo on her birthday ‘I will find a new daddy for you and someone who appreciates me’ was whilst they were still together! She got blackout drunk in the morning the day he was due to fly back to Australia, passed out on the kitchen floor then hit him round the head. She also exposed herself to him on their driveway during a child handover. She sent about 7 letters and emails to his employers telling them he was a coke addict who spent $1 million dollars on prostitutes etc etc (no evidence of this). She stalked BW’s ex husband (who committed DV against BW) to dig up dirt on her and posted it all over the internet. She also posted private recordings and messages of her own kids.

I don’t really know what else you need, it's all out there in plain sight, she’s never hidden any of this distain for Ioan and his family. People are describing to you serious acts of abuse he’s reported. She has a restraining order, from a judge and she’s going to be arrested for breaching it, the law agrees she is a DV perp

But most of this is verbal. However, according to him in his custody filing, she struck him once on the head and neck. Not acceptable at all.

Like I said, she's beyond crazy.

But this is where they find themselves. She's not going to stop til she's in prison. So whilst waiting for that, he needs to go earn some money doing whatever he can so he can stop cadging off his girlfriend and he has money to look after his two children he decided to have with a woman who told him on their engagement night that he was boring and she hated him.
Who could have guessed it would come to this? 🙄

WaddleAway · 28/01/2023 21:35

No abuse is acceptable, physical or verbal.

CyberSpaceTraveller · 28/01/2023 21:36

redrobin57 · 28/01/2023 20:45

Just read through all these comments, so it's interesting to see the support for an abusive partner.
No-one has mentioned that she had an affair with one of the lead actors in Vampire Dairies. Her children were very young at the time. Ioan agreed to take her back for the sake of the children
At one point,they had 2 nannies plus a cleaner, so Alice could continue her career but apart from Vampire Dairies, she never had a career in Hollywood. She got a bad name in the industry because of her bad behavior on set.
He hired Gloria because he was worried about Alice's behavior when he had to work aboard. In the court documents, he described having to leave for Australia with Alice flat out drunk on the kitchen floor as she had been drinking since 11 am in the morning.
As for the school, he never agreed to it but Alice went behind his back when he was working in Australia. Despite her go fund me, she had plenty of money stashed way, as she stole $100,000 from his account. He has financially paid for everything since the separation up until March 2022 . Even now he still paying for things that should have been her responsibility by now. He had to borrow money from his parents to stop the house from going into foreclosure.
People have said that he should of move back to the UK as he would of had more opportunities there. Yes, that is true but that would mean Alice agreeing to moving back. She was never going to agree to that as she is American by birth. In any custody battle, the children would have stayed with her because American judges will not side with the non American born partner unless there are exceptional reasons. Kelly Rutherford found that out the hard way when she managed to get her ex's grrencard rescinded which led to an automatic ban from the States. The judge in that case sided with the ex husband and the children had to move to Luxembourg where he lived.
Now with the latest episode,that exception has been reached.

Alice managed turn his own fan club against him. That was well before they separated.

She has written to the production teams, directors and actors, threatening to post untrue stories about them and Ioan. She even accused the actress who play the daughter in Harrow, of having an affair with him. This has effected his ability to find jobs anywhere, let alone Hollywood.

Their house was meant to be sold last year but Alice pulled out at the last moment.

I know we tend to laugh about male abuse victims but there way more than people believe. I remember laughing with my colleagues when our office manager would come in and tell us about the latest injury her husband had suffered. We would joke how many more cupboard doors will he smashed into. The truth is that we knew he was being battered by this woman, and we were scared of her as well.Think of how hard it for women to admit they are victims of abuse and then think of how much harder it is for a man.

Yes, I support Ioan but I don't think he is saint and he not the greatest actor around 🤣. I suspect he is taking advice from his legal team and that has led to some odd decisions about the kids. Now the divorce will go ahead before a decision has been made about custody. Originally it was being decided at the same time as the final divorce settlement. Now there is interim period between Feb to July when the final decision will be made separately,from the divorce. This is no doubt a changing situation which Alice's blatant disregard for the law!

Wow, you know a lot about this. Some of it not in the press that I can find. Like her affair and that IG agreed to take her back.

Is that you Bianca?

Rosiefifi · 28/01/2023 21:37

LoekMa · 28/01/2023 21:16

Exactly. There would be NO discussion of how dangerous Alice's behaviour actually is. Constantly showing Ioan that she does not care what the law says, she's "coming for him".

That's why I suspect deep down Alice minions are women who either wish they could have treated their exs the way Alice is treating Ioan, or they are women who already plan on going scorched earth on DH when their marriages collapse.

How anyone can ever justify her behaviour is mind boggling. No amount of heartbreak justifies committing a CRIME.

Imagine if men demanded more empathy because they committ a crime against women and justify it by saying, I snapped, she left me.

And we're just like aaaw, that's understandable.

Christ on a bike.

Why would anyone lower themselves to Alice's level she's quite clearly insane. Most women would never put their children through that but if a woman was in a relationship with an substance abusing narcissist they probably wouldn't go off half way round the world and leave the kids with the abuser for months at a time. That's the part I don't understand. __I would literally quit my job and find something rather than leaving my kids with a monster.

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