Children are boring

[Bobbin35]

Very much following on from a thread on here about Greg James. It’s very true for me children are boring and I don’t want children. It’s very annoying that friends of mine insist I be interested in their child beyond asking how they are. If I started ensuring all my friends liked dogs, horses (that I own) I think I would lose friends very quickly but many of my friends assume I am their friend so therefore have to also be interested in their child. I’m not a bad friend I just don’t want to talk children at all just as I wouldn’t want to bore anyone I know about my horses if they are not horse people!

I really doubt she's jealous, and she actually started the thread as a follow on from another one

But I wouldn’t go on a dog website to make sure I told everyone just how boring and shit dogs are would I? I just wouldn’t get a dog.

You mean like people do on here every day? 😂

You enjoy being a parent, you sound like a good one and you love children. That is very fab.

I'd have been shit. I don't enjoy the company of children. I don't enjoy doing child centric things and so I didn't have them and avoid being around them.

That means that our paths are unlikely to ever cross. For which both s are no doubt grateful.

I'll carry on boring people about my dog.

You carry on boring people about your child.

*'thesurrealist · Today 20:20

But I wouldn’t go on a dog website to make sure I told everyone just how boring and shit dogs are would I? I just wouldn’t get a dog.

You mean like people do on here every day?'*

This is mumsnet though, you've missed the poster's point.

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It is an oddly antagonistic thing to say to a group of parents. Why not air it on a child free interest site.

'It is an oddly antagonistic thing to say to a group of parents. Why not air it on a child free interest site.'

I think when people love to make a point of telling people with dc they dislike them/find them boring etc it is because of their own misery or even jealousy for some. They are either unfulfilled in some way, bitter or just miserable in general. I find loads of things boring but would never feel I had to start a thread on them. Also how can somebody make sweeping generalisation grouping all children who are human beings (human beings they have not met) as 'boring'; how utterly ignorant and awful.

Boring people will be boring about any subject, whether it's their children, their blanket dislike of children, their latest threesome with the neighbours, or post-Kantian philosophy.

Yep!

This isn’t Dogsnet. That’s my point.

AIBU to ask why you're on Mumsnet then?

Apparently there are lots of threads on MN that aren't about children so every reason to use it if you're childfree. However it doesn't explain why such a user would start a thread specifically about children.

Most parents don't realise their kids are average and there is nothing wrong with being average. There is a reason it's called the average. Yet every parent thinks their child is a genius. There have been studies done that shows 90% of parents think their child is above average, which mathematically cannot happen.
Then milestones which everyone gets to all of a sudden become a competition, "well mine took their first steps at 6 months, mine said their first words at xyz age". Everybody hits these milestones, sorry to say your child is not special they are just normal. And then everyone has to hear about it, like the kid has just created unlimited energy or found the next super drug. He took a step dorethy. A step. Like every humans before and after him. It doesn't make him a genius. And I get that you're excited, but to most people it is very dull news that we have to make a big deal out of to justify there is not much else going on in your life once you have children as it all revolves around them.
I understand once you become a parent your entire life shifts and changes focus and what I've found is that most people have nothing else going on except for their children, so it becomes their entire existence and soon have nothing else to talk about, so every conversation becomes dominated by talk about their (average) children that they think are in the upper quartile of absolutely everything.
And we cannot pass by the fact that children are boring. They offer very little to conversations. This is not their fault they are just limited with life experiences and anything they have experienced which may be remotely interesting, chances are, as the parent you were there as well.

@RealisticParent101 oh wow that is a very strong generalised viewpoint. I actually haven't found that within my Mum friends group. If anything we talk about dcs being late with developments! If it goes the other way we're not showy about it, and more like "hope it stays that way" etc! Usually one of them has bolted, or done something they're not meant to do and we will laugh about it

I also don't believe any of us think our children are interesting to anybody other than us & close family. I think because we have the same aged children we enjoy sharing their similarities, our lives are similar.

As for not adding anything to the conversations, again you cannot speak for everybody. I actually enjoy engaging with my dcs, they're at nice ages IMO and make me laugh; I'd much rather that than a tedious droning on conversation with certain adults I know! Maybe when they were toddlers I'd gave agreed more.

My young child told me today, just randomly, that boobs are for saving people from the sea. They stop people dying. I said, that's interesting, tell me more and he went on to say that he loved me and we should watch monkeys dressed up as people on you tube.

If this is my life. Then it's a happy and not boring one.

Children are boring? No they are not.

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