Told not to chat so much or hum at work.

[whatisforteamum]

So today I was told I'm too chatty at work.
Sometimes I hum apparently.The role is a busy active one with customers and colleagues. One lady dislikes me so
reported me.The thing is I do work while I chat and I've always been like this.
I'm even thinking of seeking an ADHD diagnosis and I'm quite hyperactive.
I'm not upset by the personality assassination yet I don't know how to stop.
How can I stop realistically?
Another boss said I was cheerful and like a breath of fresh air.😁

I've also worked in Hospitality. As you know it's not all chatting to customers and even when doing that you've got to get a move on or other colleagues will end up carrying your work - theres set up & take down too, lots of preparation to be done. So if that's when you're chatting then yes it can be off-putting. Not sure why some pp's seem to think it's cool as it's not office-based

I am quick deeceecherry.
I did notice the reportee stops when they talk.
Every question she stops to answer which is time wasting imo.
Mostly their gossiping has stopped which was really dreadful.
I've never known anything of the kind since school.

Blip thank you.😀

Sounds like between the 2 of you with those ways you both need to read the (work) room then and just crack on

Probably not staying now.
The woman who reported me is talking,singing and gossiping.
A bit of a toxic place tbh I can't trust anyone which hasn't been fun.

So your talking and singing and gossiping is wonderful and everyone loves it and it's great, but you don't think if she does the same it's OK and you want to leave?
Honestly think you are going to get very stressed and will ultimately no longer enjoy the job.

She has since clarified that it's the latter, and I agree this makes all the difference. Repetitive manual work in silence? No. She can wear noise cancelling headphones if she wants quiet. Imagine builders on a site being asked to work in silence?!

Michellescarn no I think it was lovely to hear her sing and chat.
I do think it is deeply hypocritical though.🙄
It has put a nasty spin on things to be told my colleagues don't like me.Im walking on eggshells now while they chat ALOT.
I can honestly say I've never had an experience like it.🤣🤣

Oh look - an eyeroll.

I’m surprised you can hear them over the happy hummy noise that you make.

Hypocritical or no, you don’t seem happy either way.

They are too quiet and you don’t like it.

They emulate you and you don’t like it.

If you think it was lovely to hear her chat and sing, why are you girning here about it?

Is it a nasty spin on things because you are no longer the centre of attention?

It sounds as though they can’t win.

I shared an office with a coworker who drank water from a flask very loudly. It did my head in so I was very grateful when our manager got a radio and started playing music while we worked. Normally I would prefer not to listen to music but it was better than the over-the-top gulping of water. The music was at a low volume but still. It did cover up some of her gulping noise and the smacking of her lips when she ate breakfast at her desk (after being at least 45 minutes late most days).

When we came back after the final lockdown she didn't gulp her water anymore. I am guessing it was because when she worked from home it was in the same room as her children were doing online school. I am so grateful to her children!

It is rally hard to have someone around making a noise you have no control over and depends on the amount and place. I have worked in offices which are lively and have radio on in the background and it was fine. But would struggle in my current role to have background noise. It may be that this person is miserable and not in step with this particular work environment. But it sounds like you may be a little hard to work around sometimes.