Told not to chat so much or hum at work.

[whatisforteamum]

So today I was told I'm too chatty at work.
Sometimes I hum apparently.The role is a busy active one with customers and colleagues. One lady dislikes me so
reported me.The thing is I do work while I chat and I've always been like this.
I'm even thinking of seeking an ADHD diagnosis and I'm quite hyperactive.
I'm not upset by the personality assassination yet I don't know how to stop.
How can I stop realistically?
Another boss said I was cheerful and like a breath of fresh air.😁

Chatty is fine but humming would make me murderous after a while.

I work with a whistler and as lovely as she is, I sometimes fantasize about stapling her lips together.

You may think that you continue to work while chatting but the colleague you are chatting to may slow down or stop.

Topee do you know me.

I'd be furious is someone hummed next to me all day at work and chatted endlessly. Id ask for me or them to be moved. It isn't acceptable to do this at work. I have zn autistic friend at work and she makes a lot of noise at work to the point she was almost sacked. She's asked me to tell her if she steps over the line so I do, but we are friends outside of work so can be honest with each other.

QueefQueen80s that is what I'm thinking.
I find it hard to be quiet or still.

Could you ask a trusted colleagues to let you know when you are humming and talking too much, maybe announce it as a new year resolution to talk less.
it doesn’t sound like your working in the confined space of an office, so don’t see a huge problem with either humming and talking and would imagine customers appreciate someone cheerful and chatty.

I work with.someone like this she's a lovely person but sometimes it's just a bit much. Especially if it's first thing in the morning. I think humming would be my final straw

Oh god the humming would drive me insane. My FIL hums and whistles all the time and it does my head in - at work would be 10x worse!

We had a hummer, a tutter, a sniffer, and a knee jerker at work, all bloody annoying. Chatty people, all well and good saying you can still work but what about those who can’t cos they’re disturbed by your chatting. But worst of all, those who sing along to the radio BUT just the last word of the line. Spevial place in hell for you Nigel when all I can hear is ‘Queen,17, Queen, tambourine, dance, jive, life’.

I suspect a lot if people are imagining a quiet office and you humming it chatting all the time and how it would do their head in.

In hospitality, someone who is getting on with their job, smiling, chatting to customers at the same is an asset. I suspect even the humming would be seen as nice by customers.
i mean I’d rather have someone who is smiling and humming along the music serving me than someone who is grumpy and serious!

Chatty people, all well and good saying you can still work but what about those who can’t cos they’re disturbed by your chatting.

Would really prefer a non chatty, serious person serving you ‘because they’d be disturbed by the chatting’ though?

Yes one colleague looks like she chewed a wasp.Miserable .

Even manual work you still have to concentrate to some degree, including hospitality.

I’ve previously left a job because of the noise of one person. The constant humming I couldn’t cope with and it did impact my own performance. Manager split us as much as
possible but there would still be times I would have to suck it up.

It got to the point that I had murderous fantasies. Got signed off for a bit as I realised I was in crisis, went back and walked out mid shift after I picked up a knife. (I do have personality disorders)

Roundandnour sorry to hear that.
If I suppress my personality it will be hard to be so cheerful though.I will try obviously.

Are you one of those people that has to give a running commentary of what they're doing?

There's an old woman at work like this, luckily not in my office but occasionally I go to her office and she sits in the corner muttering to herself whilst everybody ignores her

The humming would be v annoying

They are basically telling you to calm the fuck down. I can imagine it’s like having a Stacey Solomon around you 24/7 fuck that.

Yes must be hard to work with someone with any type of disorder. Anyone who isn't neurotypical should stay indoors.

You never know who you are working with though. Sociopaths, psychopaths etc always seem friendly, charming, likeable etc until they aren’t.

No one is suggesting that people should stay indoors. Just be mindful about those around you. Look at ways in which you can stop or minimise certain behaviours like the humming. You can still be cheery, friendly and chatty without it.

Please shut up. It's annoying.

Half the people out there have some kind of disorder doesn't mean you can use it as an excuse. You still need to be aware of your behaviours when sharing a space with others. I have a disorder that makes me want to kill irritating people but I don't because people don't like that

That is a bit of a leap. No one is saying stay indoors. Merely asking you to be quiet.

My job, no doubt like many others, requires deep concentration.

So aye, I would be the one with a miserable, wasp chewing face.

You probably think you are being entertaining and a bit marmite but you could well be making work difficult for others around you.

You're actually lucky someone has mentioned it because almost certainly it won't be one person that has a problem it will be a few.

In our open plan office there is one person that is incredibly distracting to others around her. I have moved areas because I just can't concentrate on a conversation let alone work without her voice ringing above everyone else. I like her a lot but it's really very selfish behaviour

Yep that's what people are saying 🙄....
If you're this truculent at work too that's probably annoying people too!

Oh god Dh and I I adore my dad but he is a hummer / singer it’s absolutely maddening. Can’t say anything would hurt his feelings

You might be getting your own work done but you'd probably cause me issues getting mine done. The humming would make me hate you.