Told not to chat so much or hum at work.

[whatisforteamum]

So today I was told I'm too chatty at work.
Sometimes I hum apparently.The role is a busy active one with customers and colleagues. One lady dislikes me so
reported me.The thing is I do work while I chat and I've always been like this.
I'm even thinking of seeking an ADHD diagnosis and I'm quite hyperactive.
I'm not upset by the personality assassination yet I don't know how to stop.
How can I stop realistically?
Another boss said I was cheerful and like a breath of fresh air.😁

I will see how it goes for me.
Some people like a busy noisy environment .The person who reported me chats too.im allowed to chat to the customer s.It builds a good rapport and I know what they like and advise accordingly.

No I don't speak loudly.

I’m ND and your humming would drive me fucking nuts. Whistling also goes right through me. Don’t assume your colleague is NT. Plenty of ND people have noise issues.

Spacerschoice you are right.one person's happiness is another person's hell.

I can't whistle and agree it is horrible.

I used to work a lady who me weird random noises, she had Autism and this was years back but totally acceptable. I'm sick of this increasingly annoying type nanny state/snowflakes. Report her for discrimination. discrimination. Keep humming

At the moment, OP has no diagnosis of anything, and has only said they are maybe thinking of seeking one.

But what about other ND people who would find humming intolerable?

OP herself says she’d find whistling horrible, she needs to acknowledge that others may have a similar reaction to humming.

I kind of agree though.In the time I've been in the workplace I've worked with young and old loud and quiet several different backgrounds and just got on with it.Look at others strengths.
They have had issues recruiting and retaining staff and she put in a complaint about the previous lady.!
If I really was that sick of something I would leave myself.

🤣

🤣 and one person's peace is another's boring and draining.
In a customer focused environment I like fun happy people.

Would you describe yourself as having a "bubbly" personality, by any chance?

You might like fun happy people.

They probably really would be fun happy people if they weren’t being annoyed out of their skins by someone who can’t be quiet.

So, instead of suggesting they leave if they don’t like your noise, why don’t you leave if you find them ‘boring and draining’?

I’m getting an inkling that there is a distinct possibility that they aren’t the problem.

Used to do a class with a guy who whistles under his breath the whole time. I tried headphones to block him out, but wasn’t always successful (and not meant to be wearing them in class for safety reasons - think workshop rather than classroom type situation). I ended up really losing my temper and screaming at him as got to the point I was ready to kill him. The noises may not seem much to you, but to someone with ME and attendant sensory issues, it left me utterly drained and in physical pain. Be quieter and think of your colleagues please

They probably really would be fun happy people if they weren’t being annoyed out of their skins by someone who can’t be quiet

Like the trio who sat behind me for months. Im trying to input financial data, they're sitting there talking for hours - and I do mean hours - until the day I turned around and told them to zip it after they spent pretty much the whole day yakking. And this wasn't just one day, it was ongoing - I don't think the three of them ever did more than a couple of hours work a day. We had no line manager to complain to about them, but I did notice that when they had someone to report to the trio was split up pretty quickly.

YOu'll be driving people round the bend, OP. People who are trying, like I was, to do my job to a deadline but being continually distracted.

I loved having happy people around me. They were among my favorite team members. But they weren't hummers and they didn't talk all the time. And they definitely read the room and the needs of those around them.

MrsDanversglidesagain I feel for you I really do.This is a manual job with no concentration required.
My area boss told me to carry on as I am this week as the customers like it.
The lady who reported me got spoken to.
A cheer up or ship out kind of vibe.
The area I work in requires happy chatty people.

So you are happy to continue to annoy your colleagues then?

No one was saying to not be happy. Or chatty. Just to be mindful that you were annoying others and you are doing that by the sounds of it.

Still as long as you are fine then that is all that matters eh?

Humming is extremely irritating.

My area boss told me to carry on as I am this week as the customers like it

Customers aren't there eight hours a day. Colleagues are. But if you and your manager are happy to piss off colleagues whose help you might need sometime.

It could help to use something else like a fidget toy or chewing gum or sitting on a bouncy ball
to meet the sensory need of humming? Wondering if a different outlet will reduce it? There do need to be reasonable adjustments for neurodiverse colleagues, while other neurotypicals need to feel happy in the workplace too.

Yes because she should have to leave 🙄
no reason not to be happy and chatty, but not to be constantly humming

People who hum, sing, whistle or chat to themselves are in essence attention seekers.

Do it as much as you like out of work but it is not appropriate for the workplace.

Yeh, it's really rude and selfish. Would drive me mad.

Peanutbutterandbananas I thought about gum too.
I am consciously making an effort to be quiet which is odd as the others are talking quite A lot.
I do come from a much chattier and noisy place so compromise is key.
We also have music too now which helps my need to fill the silence.