Told not to chat so much or hum at work.

[whatisforteamum]

So today I was told I'm too chatty at work.
Sometimes I hum apparently.The role is a busy active one with customers and colleagues. One lady dislikes me so
reported me.The thing is I do work while I chat and I've always been like this.
I'm even thinking of seeking an ADHD diagnosis and I'm quite hyperactive.
I'm not upset by the personality assassination yet I don't know how to stop.
How can I stop realistically?
Another boss said I was cheerful and like a breath of fresh air.😁

“My need to fill the silence” - this says it all. Your poor colleagues.

Sorry, you're sick of "snowflakes" but you're also encouraging OP to cry that she's being discriminated against? Isn't that quite snowflakey behaviour? Make it make sense 😂

And what if the colleagues have a condition that makes this kind of noise unbearable?

Compromise is key? I can only see one person’s needs mattering at the moment. Discriminated against for what? Humming?

It sounds as though they have gone from another workplace to this one and don’t like the way they work.

Fine. The old happy chatty noisy place might welcome them back then.

🙄
There is absolutely no need to ‘fill the silence’ ffs! That’s an incredibly selfish attitude of ‘Bugger everyone else’.
Thank goodness I no longer go to work, my tolerance would be zero.

Well it has been resolved.
I now try my utmost to chat less.The colleague is now being viewed as a trouble maker as this isn't a lone incident and I got my contract there.
Compromise is always key in these situations.

The humming can definitely be an adhd thing, so yes maybe getting a diagnosis might help. The replies on here about how annoying it must be reflect that a lot of people aren’t aware that it’s linked to adhd. Hopefully if your colleagues knew they’d be more tolerant.

Glad it's resolved OP :)

Working in hospitality is not the same as working in an office - you should be able to express your personality - it's part of the reason you are good at your job.

It's great that you now have more self awareness though, so perhaps some good has come of it all for you as well.

OP works in hospitality, not in an office. It's her job to fill silence and be chatty.

Sounds to me like she is very well suited to her job and someone has just taken a bit of a grudge against her.

@lowclouds what? No, it’s not her job to fill silence with humming and jibber jabber. That’s the least relaxing thing on earth. Be friendly and welcoming - yes.
She clearly is doing her colleagues’ heads in and possibly some customers too.

Chatting and talking is the norm in hospitality surely?
humming would drive me up the wall though, I had a colleague who was repeatedly humming “carol of the bells” over Christmas. I nearly throttled her.

Why is the colleague being viewed as a trouble-maker for making a legitimate complaint — as in, you admit you hum and chat a lot? And what does ‘I got my contract there’ mean?

I've recently moved desks in the office and my word the colleague next to me is very irritating with their muttering and complaining all the time.

I chat too much when I'm in the office but it's because hardly anyone is ever in anymore and noone goes in regularly. I'm trying to be friendly but I overheard someone saying I talk too much. Now I'm so self conscious of it. The funny thing is when wfh I don't speak a peep.

I mean OP obviously has an extroverted personality which is well-suited to working in hospitality (and possibly why she's there in the first place rather than in an office).

This has increased OP's self awareness which is good, but it sounds like the person complaining is also a bit of a trouble maker.

Why a trouble maker? I remember working in hospitality as a student and with similar 'extrovert' characters who would be all chatty and engaging with customers but do actually none of the heavy lifting as in clearing tables, tidying the bar and other less fun stuff which was always irritating!

If you read OP's posts, this person has also gossiped about her and obviously wants her job, so seems to have a motive to drag her down in her boss's eyes.

OP also has pretty good insight into how annoying it can be to listen to incessant chatting, she has self-awareness and can reflect on herself.

I hate people being chatty and loud in the office as much as anyone else and would tell them to be quiet - but this situation sounds more complex than that.

Yeah, I don’t understand that either.

The person who reported me applied for my post.
Apparently complained about the previous person too.
I was told I have good customer service and No IDEA I hummed at all.
I think the chatting is like a compulsion like anxiety.
I passed my probation so I'm happy.
No one has EVER reported me in my life.
No reason for my colleagues to ostracise me or criticise my every move.
Self awareness has been good though.

Happy for you OP 😊

True

I worked with someone who hummed and also sang the same line of the same song (badly) constantly. I actually considered handing in my notice as it used to annoy me so much. She also was a chatterbox but that did not bother me.

Maybe she was stimming as a way to self comfort or regulate purplecorkheart.
Kitchens are normally boisterous places this one is much quieter.
That said she could ve told our boss and not the area manager.
I was informed the green eyed monster is at play here.

Michellescarn I do pull my weight as I can work and talk.
I positively love multitasking and I'm not afraid to get my hands dirty.
I've been in the industry for several decades.

I have Mr T in my head now:

"Quit that jibber jabber fool"

Ahh sorry OP, cant be a nice feeling.

But tbh people who have to fill every moment with sound, grind my gears. They don't realise not everyone wants to hear their voice all day.
eg if you're humming as well as chatting then, you are one of those people who just can't keep their mouth quiet for a few moments and always need to be heard. It can be a disturbance.

You're there to work so it's not essential you over-chat, and hum. Its not your private space. In your shoes I would reign it in a bit, and maybe hum on your break.