Has there ever been an AIBU thread where the other party have found it and responded?

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Not really ATAAT but just reading a thread where the poster was renting an inherited house out to a friend for well below market value and then the friend moved out when asked to pay a higher rent.

For some reason it got me wondering if the friend found the thread, what would their response be? And subsequently got me wondering if there's ever been a thread where a poster was having a moan about another individual and that individual had found the post, realised it was about them and responded?

Don’t agree with this at all.

the headteacher has a right to reply - why should she take undeserved criticism on a national forum? She shouldn’t.

I’m glad she called the poster out.

I recognised a post about a harrowing event that happened in our family. I didn't tell the OP I knew them because it was just too sensitive to "call her out" about. She lied to get more sympathy though which annoyed me because the truth of the situation would have gained her a lot of sympathy anyway.

There was one once where a woman complained about her husband and got a lot of sympathy. He came on and said the reason he was less active and physically helpful than he used to be was because he had had a career ending and disabling sports injury. He also had some very compelling evidence that OP was cheating. Thread was removed shortly after.

I do really want the other side to most things on here, even the ones where I'm on OP's side. I especially want them for the nightmare teen ones. Not that I haven't got sympathy, but I remember as a kid how my parents would present me to people, and while they didn't say anything that wasn't true, they'd completely leave out everything I had to complain about, up to and including physical and emotional abuse.

I suspect that happens a lot on here, since there are so many OPs whose antagonists, teens or not, seem to have literally no reason to act as they do. Behaviour may be entirely wrong and unjustified, but there will always be a reason amd thought process, even if it's not a good one. When someone is accused of acting like an arsehole and absolutely no reason is given for their behaviour, I'm always very suspicious.

It's a good giveaway of a reverse. Would anyone trust their opponent to represent their viewpoint fairly to others, by pretending to be them?

This happened to me quite recently. Someone posted a scenario in a Facebook group I'm on, and then I came across a post on here that was pretty much word for word the same situation (not just a similar situation as in they must have copied and pasted their post). It's not someone I know personally and I've completely forgotten the names and user names but I remember thinking if you wanted to you could go through their Mumsnet history and find out on quite a lot about them.

Should add, there is a woman on here with a really horrible long running issue. Her ex once found a thread of hers and added his side of things...and turns out he really is just as big a prick as she's always said.

I vaguely remember one about an owner of a gift shop in a touristy Cotswold town. The owner came on the thread and his posts pretty much cemented the consensus of him definitely being the unreasonable one!

I remember one in which an op asked if anyone knew how they could get back their roof box and contents which had fallen off their car on the motorway. They’d been back and checked the verge and couldn’t see it.

Someone replied saying “Citroen Cactus, M6?” and described how they’d seen it happen because they were a couple of cars behind and that it was frankly astonishing it hadn’t killed anyone, and that the box clearly hadn’t been secured properly or was the wrong type for the car.

You have to remember anything you read is going to be skewed towards the OP and not representative of the truth.

I've only ever seen sick puppets in action and they get banned pretty quickly.

There was one last week where someone was dissing and author’s research and he turned up to defend himself . It was all good fun and very good natured in the end.

I think a lot of AIBU threads are shown to the offending party to back up petty arguments.
And they continue to bicker offline.

I definitely remember a thread where OP had been providing absolutely loads of free childcare for a friend's child (who was the same age as her child and OP thought two girls were close friends). Friend's child then proudly turned up talkigng about her birthday party to which OP's child wasn't invited. Everyone agreed OP should stop providing free childcare and OP decided to follow this advice and have a discussion with her friend that she was no longer going to do all the pickups etc. When she had discussion OP thought it was obvious her friend had read the thread since she was obviously expecting the discussion and just accepted it really quickly. I don't think she actually posted on the thread though.

I've seen a thread I suspected very strongly was from a school mum I know as the details were quite identifying. The issue she was discussing didn't actually involve me or my child but others in the same year group. If it was her she had written it from a very one sided angle which massively misrepresented the issue (and made me realise how one sided alot of the threads on here probably are). I didn't post on the thread or tell anyone involved about it though.

There was one before Christmas where a bride insisted all guests were to wear green. It went on for ages and The Op came on and said she had just had a message from the bride saying people could wear what they like. I guess she saw it, or someone told her

@fallfallfall I’m genuinely curious as to what your DIL posted online and whether it justifies your actions. Can you please share?

Nonsense. Posting generic information that is publicly available isn't unprofessional.

Ahhh so this is why no one posts what their DH’s “outing” hobby is 😂

It’s nearly always the cyclists who are total knobs!!

I don't work in a school so I'm probably way off, but I don't see a problem with a HT name changing to their own name and posting something factual that doesn't give away any information about individual children - sort of like a press release. "My name is Jane Smith and I'm the head of School. I can confirm that the admissions criteria were rigourously applied and no child skipped places on the waiting list due to their parents' connections." That sort of thing, I think is fine.

Presumably PP didn't post "I'm the HT and OP's son is a complete nightmare who hasn't behaved a day in his life, I can't wait until he leaves"

@JenniferBarkley
I feel the same way. If the HT just left a factual, professional response under their own name I don't see the issue. If they revealed personal details about a family in the school or engaged in a petty argument then yes that's massively unproffessional.

Just because you don’t believe it to be factually accurate, someone’s perspective is still valid and the responsibility of the head teacher to understand and manage accordingly.

Ha ha! So "your truth" is the truth even if it's bullshit? "Perspective" isn't facts FGS

Horrified 😂

@Roussette was that the one where the owner was daughter of previous resident who'd had dementia diagnosis and couldn't be persuaded to make any changes? There was nothing wrong, just that it hadn't changed from the 70s.

Let me repeat my earlier post for the benefit of you, @ThroughThickAndThin01 and@JenniferBarkley

No real Headteacher would engage with a problem parent on a public forum. Apart from being highly unprofessional, the school's social media policy would not allow it. Our policy didn't allow any member of staff to identify where they worked on any form of social media. And that's standard for schools these days.

When a TA can't refer to their school, even positively, the idea of a head actually engaging with a complaining parent on here (especially given this places 'close relationship' with the Daily Mail) is just farcical.

As a pp has said, doing so would result in disciplinary procedures.

I remember a family member of a longtime poster registering with Mumsnet with the same username as her bar a number or underscore, pretended to be here and made a post saying her toddler had died 🤯

Gosh I remember that! I felt very sorry for the cafe owner, but I guess she needed it pointing out!

I’ve recognised a post posted here and in a group on FB but that’s it.

The archery one was great.