Please share your MIL and her sheer audacity stories!

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My MIL is getting on my last nerve. She’s incredibly rude, thinks she has some sort of ownership over my son and has verbally abused me through a pregnancy loss. There’s honestly a special place in hell for her.

So I ask you, Mumsnet, to make me feel better and share your MIL stories with me.

Mine literally blew our relationship apart over a box of chocolates ..she is pathetic

One Xmas I had a bunch of flowers delivered on Xmas eve from my mother with a very small box of chocolates but for some reason 2 arrived.

We don't do adults gifts at Xmas by mutual agreement. Anyway on Xmas day my mother said oh why don't you let DS (age 18 months) give that extra box of chocolates to MIL. I thought oh ok then that's nice..so my toddler gave them to her.

2 weeks later I get my sister in law phoning me and screaming abuse down the phone how I ruined Xmas because MIL turned chocolate over and it said not for resale interflora and how disgusting and disrespectful I am blah blah blah. How dare I regift a present to her.

Caused the most almighty row between me, my poor husband and his toxic MIL

6 years later thankfully I'm non contact with them. They are completely unhinged.

Ungrateful cow, I should of just eating the chocolates myself.

Years ago my DH and I were living in a flat owned by MIL (paying rent.)
One day I got home from work and she had come over and boxed a lot of my possessions and took them away. Including my old diaries.
I wasn't allowed to be angry because she was only helping by cleaning the clutter away.

I had a miscarriage. My first (I went on to have a few more but I have two healthy children now).

MIL was living with us at that time and she became jealous of dh showing me the attention I needed at that moment.

So she wrote a suicide note, “took” a load pills and went to sleep in her chair.

She was furious dh didn’t pander to her. He called her an ambulance, which she refused to go to the hospital for, and then went back upstairs to me.

This was just one of the many things that caused us to go NC with her

My MIL visits every single day. Expects dinner. Will stay 4-5 hours a day. Repeats the same old stories. Will never lift a finger to help me if she on the rare occasion maybe once in a blue moon washes up a couple of cups she expects a "Omg well done you!"

I'm fond of her, but the visiting every day thing is grating severely on me. I hope that makes everyone feel better it could be worse!

Ex-MIL wanted us to come for Christmas dinner. Ex-DH hated his DPs (long back story!) so he politely declined. For some reason he then agreed for us to go for dinner on Christmas Eve. 🤔

We arrived to turkey in the oven, crackers on the table - basically Christmas dinner! Ex-DH was furious.

Sadly we separated before the following Christmas so I’ve no idea whether he ever forgave her!

😂😂 that's brilliant!

Please don't! This has been done to death already. How about one about bat shit crazy daughter in laws

My MiL once borrowed my debit card to buy Nurofen (she’s a Label Mable - Tesco ibuprofen wasn’t acceptable) and ‘accidentally’ bought herself some new clothes.

There’s other stuff but I’ve blocked it out.

This has honestly cracked me right up 😂

My now ex mil ate a cake I’d made for an event - she knew I’d made it specifically for this event as I’d told her and she said how nice it was, it was decorated and obviously special, and what’s worse I’d left out loads of other treat foods she could have etc but no, overnight the greedy fucker ate the whole thing, came down to crumbs in the fridge and no cake. I was absolutely livid.

I am 15 years married to someone else now and thinking about it still gives me the absolute rage. 😆

This . . .

I was in labour for 4 days with my eldest. Hideous, traumatic birth.

MIL phoned DH demanding to come and see newborn DD. Before the birth we’d said no family (either side) at hospital. I wanted people to visit us at home.

DH said no as I was exhausted and feeling awful.

Short while later, whilst I’m sleeping, my cubicle curtain is whipped aside, in walks MIL with FIL and my two stepchildren. She takes DD out of the crib and sits down with her (saying nothing to me initially). She also took photos of DD and posted them to Facebook announcing our daughters birth.

She’s done other stuff but this one still gets me.

Mine tried to trick me into giving my son ibuprofen when he had chickenpox, after we'd explicitly said he could only have paracetamol.

This makes me sad. My mother in law was amazing, I loved her dearly and I’m sad that I don’t see her as much now we’ve split.
im lucky actually that she didn’t take sides and I do still see her, she phones me each week (doesn’t live close) and there’s always an open invitation to her house.

I feel really sorry for people who have a manipulative or spiteful MIL it must be so hard and put such a strain on things.

I don’t understand this - so if he agreed to dinner was it on a strictly no turkey basis? I can’t imagine how he could be mad about that. Did he not consent to this level of merry-ness? 😂 As a mum of boys, the ‘mother in law’ threads fill me with fear

Same old, same old

I find it hard to believe that all these daughter in laws are perfect. All these threads serve to do is highlight just how threatened a lot of you feel about your husband's mum.

Do you love your husband? Is he a good, decent man? If so, that woman you absolutely despise brought him up so maybe have a bit of respect yourself. I'd like to hear the other side of the story

And nope, I'm not a mother in law as my kids are teenagers. Merely an observation

I actually hate mine. I've got all the batshit stories of crap she's done to me I've cut her dead and she deserves it. It's how she's treated DP that I despise. Watching her smirk with delight when she sees she's hit her mark and made him sad. Bitch.

My ex MIL used to:

• Open my mail
• Go through my laundry and bedroom
• If I was ever in the shower when she was around, she'd turn the cold taps on
• I once gave a very beautiful, well thought out present to her for Christmas and her reply was "does that mean I have to get you something? I let you in the house, isn't that enough??"

A lovely woman I must say 🙄

My mil is awesome and is showing me how to be a good mother in law to my children's partners one day.

Father in laws can be dicks too. This thread is very misogynistic.

My now-MIL is wonderful and we get on so well but there's no denying my ex-mil was just evil. So was her son so the apple didn't fall far from the tree.
My ex-FIL was actually really nice. Very quiet but was there if you needed him.

My MIL at the moment keeps on moaning that she does not have a relationship with me but she has done nothing but moan about me 🤷‍♀️

She has decided to not buy travel insurance and guess what she has needed medical attention whilst currently away. She is happy for my H and I to buy her a year long travel policy because she has no money and we can not afford to bail her out. As I keep on being reminded she is allowed to make unwise choices

When in New York for MIL’s birthday whilst being dragged around shops by SIL my MIL commented that I hadn’t bought anything. I’m not a huge shopper, at the best of times, so just said “nothing I need really” and in then she immediately said “shall we look for a Primark for you?”.

@SouperNoodle I wasn't saying my FIL is a dick either by the way. I've just read it back and it reads that way. Both my in laws are awesome and I know I'm very lucky to have lovely family and in laws. I'm sorry to anyone who doesn't have good people in their lives. But picking on mils specifically is misogynistic. Men and woman can be arseholes.

My MIL was a lovely, kind, generous lady and I miss her so much.

Vile thread. So delightful to know us mothers with sons could be analysed intensely and be picked apart and slagged off with no empathy or forgiveness by our future DILs (who of course are faultless angels). 🙄