Please share your MIL and her sheer audacity stories!

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My MIL is getting on my last nerve. She’s incredibly rude, thinks she has some sort of ownership over my son and has verbally abused me through a pregnancy loss. There’s honestly a special place in hell for her.

So I ask you, Mumsnet, to make me feel better and share your MIL stories with me.

I love my step MIL she is fantastic, loving, hands on and all round great person. FIL we also have a great relationship with and I look forward to spending more time with them.
MIL is none of the above but I won't bash her as it is too outing. We have tried to build a good relationship. SIL and her children all feel this way about her too.
Some of these stories are horrendous!

Off you pop then

Lots of mumsnetters are feminist except when it comes to older women - they apparently fucking HATE them

You are free to do that. I’m sure lots of MILs do have toxic DILs. This thread is about MILs though, and for those of us who have an extremely difficult relationship with ours, sometimes it is helpful to just vent, know that we’re not alone and even laugh about some of the crazier things.

I can see why you don't get on with your MiL.

Sometimes? It's every frigging day. Surely you've all got it off your chest by now? If people talk about their friends the way they talk about their MiL they'd be told they're nasty and not a good friend.

I think there's some truth in this. MN is very ageist.

I love my step mil and my sister loves her mil. My actual mil is hard work. Not all families are perfect and people need to let off steam. If you don't want to read about difficult mil don't open the thread. It's not hard.

Yes it is.

I can see why you don't get on with your MiL.

Oh don't be daft. You sound ridiculous.

If I want to object to my toxic MiL on this thread it's nobody's business but mine. Call it misogynistic but that's sheer ignorance and hiding the issue behind a label.

Same.
Until you've experienced toxic family members it's hard to genuinely believe it can happen. It works both ways and I'm sure there are some truly awful DILs out there....so MILs feel free to start that thread.

My MIL does not deserve my DC or DH. Very happily NC with her and FIL.

If you don't want opposing views, don't post on the internet.

We have come away for a few days with my mil and fil.
Mil has -
Mentioned how much better DS is for her - 3 times. Fyi they babysit about once every two months
Told us we 'pander' to him. He's

You don’t have to click on the threads. You can just scroll past. There’s plenty of other stuff to read on here and it’s not up to you to dictate how many people can start threads about a given topic.

People who start threads about friends who behave appallingly are generally offered support and advice.

I'm finding the MIL's getting upset on behalf of strangers very telling. Janet is that you?

Baublesandbangles, I never said I didn't want opposing views

Sorry posted too soon

A disabled 7 year old who needs a lot of support
Threw a strop because ds was playing on his switch and she wanted tv on
Called DS naughty
Fil has-
Riled ds several times by teasing him (ds gets upset)
Had ago at ds for no reason then said "what doesn't school challenge him"

Fair enough but for balance I just want to say my Mil is an absolute dream. She's so kind and helpful with my LO but never oversteps. Totally agree with pp who say if they raised your DH well then they can't be all bad! Hope I'm as good a dil to her. My siblings also both love their Mil.

Sometimes? It's every frigging day. Surely you've all got it off your chest by now? If people talk about their friends the way they talk about their MiL they'd be told they're nasty and not a good friend.

Why are you so worried about my poor MiL?
I assure you she can give as good as she gets.

I dislike her because she's plain nasty not because she's my MiL. Do get off your high horse.

I would never be friends with anyone who behaves the way my MIL (and FIL as it happens) behaves. I'd have blocked their numbers and avoided them in public years ago.

However I love their son so I make allowances, but I'm not a doormat. They don't get to behave however they want just because they raised my husband.

And how dare you judge me for sharing my experience? I should just shut up and put up? Why? Because I'm a woman? If husbands shared the exact same stories I think you'd react very differently.

Ffs where has the MIL police come from 😂

I genuinely think there is something about the mil/dil relationship. Maybe an element of competition. Maybe because sons are often rubbish at staying in touch and dil unfairly gets blame. Mils often want to help/advise and it may not be reciprocated which can cause dis harmony. My mil very much favours her dd's family and is very kind/supportive in a way she just isn't to us. I've always said the perfect grandparents would be the ones my dn have.

They’ve had their cages rattled 🤣

Horrible thread. I've had 2 MILs and they were both amazing, generous women. They both had daughters of their own but treated me like their own daughter. My first MIL in particular was kinder to me than my own mother ever was. I miss them both but they brought up their sons to be wonderful men.

One day some of you who are criticising will be the MIL.

I might start a thread about our darling mothers....

As the parent to boys, threads like this are awful.
It is good to remember that all families are just different, not necessarily wrong for being different.