Please share your MIL and her sheer audacity stories!

[whyismymilsuchadick]

My MIL is getting on my last nerve. She’s incredibly rude, thinks she has some sort of ownership over my son and has verbally abused me through a pregnancy loss. There’s honestly a special place in hell for her.

So I ask you, Mumsnet, to make me feel better and share your MIL stories with me.

😧 How the hell did she get in?????

What's wrong with that? You agreed to come for dinner, you didn't specify what you wouldn't eat. Good on her, she wanted Xmas Dinner with family.

Like there aren't enough MiL bashing threads on MN already

@UWhatNow I am going to be really honest I am envious of my friends who had lovely relationships with their MILs. Unfortunately too much has happened and I know what mine has said about me. Some people are just hard work

This is from two Christmases ago when Boris announced very last minute that families could only get together on Xmas day. We had arranged to see PILs on boxing day, but Xmas eve they say that have to come Xmas day now.

I say not a problem, but I have only got food in to cater the planned Xmas dinner for us, and MIL is a vegetarian and FIL won't eat the type of meat we have so would they mind bringing something with them that they can eat? Maybe a nut roast, bit or turkey or whatever they were planning, we'll make it work.

I go through considerable effort changing my ingredients to make all sides vegetarian, scramble around to make enough for everyone. PILs turn up on the day with cheese cobs, and absolutely refuse to touch any of my food. We sat at the Christmas dinner table with full plates of Xmas dinner and they sat and ate their cobs. I'm still not entirely sure what point they were trying to prove.

My MIL is a complete and utter bitch and I genuinely hate her.

If I ever behave the way she has to my son's partner then I would absolutely deserve a post bashing me on MN.

My inlaws are lovely.

Told all her friends about my miscarriage like it was gossip.
It happened three weeks before Christmas on a year we were spending it with DHs family, and therefore going to various events which her friends (family friends) would be at.

Needless to say it felt like being winded every time another one of her friends came up to me to discuss "my unfortunate incident".

Am I the only one who doesn’t get what was so wrong here….she couldn’t spend actual Xmas dinner with her son and dil and bought the festivities forward. No big deal.

@SchnauzerEyebrows it’s not known who let them in. After they’d left, the midwife and HCA found me in tears and were mortified that the four of them had managed to get onto the maternity ward.

I have sons and my plan to avoid this fate is…be a decent human being and not treat my future DILs like shit.

I don’t understand how anyone can be offended by this unless you identify with the sort of behaviour that’s being described.

My MIL has the sheer audacity to be grieving, just like me, the loss of her son, my DH.
And what a good and thoughtful man she brought up.
@whyismymilsuchadick this is such a spiteful thread. I'm sure you are perfect. Why on earth did you marry such a monster’s child?

It’s mostly women on this site so mostly daughter-in-laws rather then son in laws. There are plenty of SIL who dislike either the MIL or FIL.
My sisters husband hates his MIL(my mother)because she is an awful person to my sister (so he is in the right). My sister really likes her PIL. They raised her lovely husband.
Unfortunately, there are many toxic families and just because their son or daughter gets married doesn’t mean they stop their toxic behaviour. People tend not to need to start threads on the great things in their lives. So if they have lovely PIL they won’t start a thread about how great they are.

My mother in law gave me a slimming world leaflet. I threw it in her bin!

My mil now is an amazing lady and I adore her-she’s everything I want to be when my kids have partners

my dd’s granny was an evil witch

she did many things to spite me and make me feel I was doing it all wrong with newborn dd but the worst was the time she went on holiday with her boyfriend
for context,we lived with her for a short time-i paid a lot of rent-and she waited until I’d gone out to have baby dd weighed at the clinic

she took everything that wasn’t nailed down-from my knickers to my hairbrush and packed it and off she went

i got back to none of my possessions in the house-I had the clothes I was stood up in

a week later,she got back and all my stuff was ruined-torn,stained or broken-she laughed it off,telling me it was all knackered before she took it (it wasn’t)

i had to replace everything on a very tight budget

we moved out into our own place and she just seemed to forget she had a grandchild-my dd wasn’t the golden child that her other grandchildren where

i broke up with her abusive son,and he took everything-my bed,fridge,freezer,dd’s cot,my tv,all my furniture-if it wasn’t nailed down,he took it-she only helped him move it all-he hadn’t paid a penny for any of it but I let it go-I was just so glad he’d gone and I slowly replaced it all

hed taken her clothes as well-I got it back,but ex mil and her dd had gone through it all and taken the good stuff for the golden child granddaughter and for some reason (spite) she got her ds (dd’s uncle) to shit and wank into the bag

he then dragged me through the courts for access as ‘it’s free,init?’ (He got legal aid) then seemed to lose interest and didn’t bother with us unless it was to chase me in the street to scream at me

she encouraged him not to pay for dd as ‘that slag will spend all your money on herself son’ (to be fair,he didn’t need any encouragement and never paid a dime-the csa where worse than useless)

i swear this is all true-if someone was telling me this,I’d think it was bullshit

we moved away in the end and dd grew up not knowing who she was-at college she met her cousin and they became friends (all good-he’s a nice lad) and they once walked over to the supermarket where cousin bumped into ex mil and dd told her who she was

ex mil threw a tantrum,started swearing and screaming at dd to ‘fuck off,you slag’ and ‘do one you whore’ etc so dd walked away and burst into tears round the corner

its all my fault that dd doesn’t want to know her father or ex mil apparently-that’s the line they feed everyone

toxic bitch

I might start a thread for MiLs to slag off their toxic controlling DiLs.

I've got 4 sons and I'm going to be the loveliest, nicest kindest MiL ever. I will make it my business to get on well with DiLs.

How do I know? Because MY MiL is the most selfish, self centred, immature, me me me toxic relative I have. I have learned from the best how NOT to be a MiL.

All the people on here taking offence go and start your own threads. Jeez. It's my MiL who is vile not this thread.

Mine put my young DD on a FaceTime call with cousins she didn't know about due to a long time feud between my DH and BIL.
DD now full of questions and confusion and it's so delicate to talk about for DH

Mine has done a lot, but the last straw was this - she came to stay and kept espousing her racist, homophobic and other right-wing rhetoric at the me and the kids, called my then 12 y/o dd a slut because she spent her pocket money on eyeshadow. She humiliated her because she was staying for an extended holiday at our place when our DD’s first period arrived and she wouldn’t shut up about it over the dinner table. When our twins turned 10 a month later, she sent the girl twin a big box of makeup (ironic, isn’t it?) and $50 in a card. Boy twin received a filthy, used ziplock bag of used Lego and $5.00 in a card. After she went home, she kept telling DH how upset she was because she kept leaving messages to apologize for her behaviour and I wouldn’t respond. I hadn’t responded to any of her cards, letters, phone calls, social media messages, anything.
Because there were none. Not a single one. Guess who he believed? Idiot.

Lucky if you have a lovely MIL. Not all do.

I'd love to hear the MiLs side to these stories.

I find it hard to believe that all these daughter in laws are perfect. All these threads serve to do is highlight just how threatened a lot of you feel about your husband's mum.

God no one is perfect.

But you don't know my MiL. You don't believe narcissistic people exits. Good Luck to you.

Not the least threatened. My OH doesn't like her much either. She's not a nice person. Your post just high lights your ignorance tbh.

Love my MIL. She's lovely and we get along great.

DM on other hand asks whenever I see her if I've lost weight yet. I'm not dieting. Told me whilst I was pregnant with first if I want to abort, don't do it and give her baby to raise instead. Told me I was only the vessel carrying her unborn grandchild.

I'll admit I feel threatened by my MIL as she's well known locally for being confrontational and violent. As for how she brought DP up I've always envied the way she made him pay his way from the age of 13 when he started working full time. I'm far to soft on my teenagers and at least wanted them to finish school first you know with things like qualifications and life chances that didn't involve sheer graft.

It's ridiculous and ramps up all the hatred. Why on earth would women with sons be so much more horrible than women with daughters. Answer is, they wouldn't. It says more about the people who keep starting these threads.

And no I'm not threatened because I'm a horrible person. I am lovely to my son's girlfriend, don't interfere, give them their space and encourage my son to treat her very well. I don't like these threads because they're unpleasant and misogynistic. We don't get hundreds of FiL threads. It's always MiLs. And many of them sound like there's another side to the story we're not being told.