A thread for those on their own

[Purplepuddle]

Hi Everyone 👋

I thought it'd be nice to have a thread for company for those, like me, on their own over Christmas.

A place with no patronising comments telling us to go for a nice bath or volunteer at a local soup kitchen, no-one saying they'd love some peace over Christmas (not quite the same when you're alone all year round).

Apologies if there are loads of these threads already, I've used Sarah Millicans twitter hashtag before and thought it was great to chat with some like minded people.

For me, I've had a nice December, enjoyed the Christmas markets, ice skating and a few meals out. No stress for tomorrow, no running around buying hundreds of pounds of food nobody Eil eat. I'm also lucky enough to have had a few invites tomorrow which does reduce the loneliness (I'm not going but it makes me feel a lot better knowing I've been thought of).

So hello to anyone on their own, whether you're struggling or quite happy it'd be lovely to hear from you xxx

(P.s as ppl seem to take offence to everything, I'm aware there will be those not alone but having a shit time. Not saying us loners have it worst)

Hi OP, have had a lovely quiet afternoon reading and watching TV - am now stuffed with M&S bouillabaise, drinking cider and watching Carols from Kings. Tomorrow I shall open my presents, watch a Monroe double bill and have roast pheasant for dinner. But mostly I shall eat and drink. I might have a nice bath but IMO every bath is nice. 😄

I'm just on the sofa with my dog drinking beer. I could have gone to see my dad or had an invite from a friend. I am just not feeling Christmas this year, at all.
Like OP, no mad scramble to buy more tat for people, no crowds, overpriced mulled wine etc.
I don't feel sad.

Sounds superb! I've always been baffled by the nice bath comments 😂. I can have a nice bath anytime! I'm currently watching Home Alone 2 (no pin intended) with a tub of celebrations 🍾

Is your dog enjoying the beer?

Hi I’m alone this year had a wobble last night trying not to think of left husband (I was the one who left) feeling sorry for himself but been ok today lovely day with neighbours friends (we are 25 flats in our centre) so a few of us where in the lounge earlier on. Have had my Christmas dinner cheesecake soon dinner tomorrow with the neighbours in the lounge. Hope you all enjoy whatever you do and for those who are sad remember this is one day it will go. Hugs all of us.

Can I join? I am not technically alone but my little one is non verbal, is blind and has a global developmental delay. We've had a quiet day at home and I am now drinking gin while watching crap TV.

Anyone welcome here. Musical Christmas carol soon then Die Hard must see sexy Hans at Christmas 😂😂😂😂❤️❤️

I've spent many Christmases alone and enjoyed them.

Tonight I'm sobbing my heart out.

I lost my job two weeks ago, and it all feels hopeless.

I'm doing my best...got a tree, had a nice supper, have turkey and all the trimmings for tomorrow. A friend said to drive to hers if it all got too much.

I've often been alone at Christmas but never lonely.

Hopefully this thread will lift me up...you all seem to be being stronger and more positive than me

I'm watching the carol service at Westminster Abbey , debating whether to make some hot milk and go to bed .

I'm so sorry x

Christmas hugs and good wishes to you and your little one @bloodywhitecat

Just me and my teenage son . However he is now working so it will be just me until tomorrow evening. I do feel like I need to sort my life out a bit otherwise I’m going to be a very lonely old cat lady once my son leaves home

Also alone. Could have gone to my parents but I am happier on my own even though I do feel a little lonely. Being at my parents wouldn’t change the loneliness

I will go to parkrun in the morning so I will at least see friends then have an afternoon eating and watching what I want.

Find the lack of boyfriend/husband and kids this time of year the hardest. It’s the two things I want more than anything. Maybe next year that dream will come true

Merry Christmas everyone. Thanks for starting this thread OP. I'm alone too. I do have places I could have gone but I am just not feeling Christmasy at all and everything just feels so rushed and hectic. I prefer to spend Christmas alone and have had a lovely day so far with lots of cheese and now in bed

Hope everyone is doing OK

Dear @Pineappleskies I'm so sorry about your job - that's horrid at the best of times, but majorly sucks at Christmas - why DO they do it? it's not hopeless, it only feels that way, trust me. Take up your friend on her (assuming it's a her 😉) offer and forget about the so and so's.

Oh sorry, it is a her.

Year 3 of Christmas alone. Wont see my children or family again. This is the worst. I don’t think I have felt this lonely ever or more like a failure.
I rarely drink but I’m on my 4th whiskey! There is no way I’m going to make it to church as it’s a 4 mile walk.
I won’t be having a Christmas dinner. I’m planning on turning my phone off tomorrow as I will cry if anyone calls.
I don’t really understand why this is worse than other times of year - I think it must be the happy memories of family and friends.

Thank you @MrsDanversGlidesAgain xx

@Garysmum I'm so sorry you are feeling this way, do you want to talk about it?

@Always4Brenner sounds like a nice setup you have 😊, hugs to you xx

Hi @bloodywhitecat definitely welcome!!! Is your girl aware its Christmas? Is she excited or just another day? Hope you two have a good time anyway, look forward to hearing how it goes x

@Pineappleskies I'm so sorry 😞. This sounds tough, I remember Xmas 2018 was mainly spent in tears at how lonely I felt. Do you think you'll go to your friends?

@Newwardrobe welcome :). My bed is calling too!

@Lovelycupofcoffee my cat is currently purring away on my shoulder, it's not all bad ;)

I'd love a boyfriend and husband for Christmas 😁😁😁

Thinking of you @Garysmum xx

I'm alone and terribly unhappy.I emigrated to the UK for love for years looked after my partner and his parents they died during COVID of COVID and its complications.
We got engaged,had some stressful events which I think caused PTSD,he changed but he said I did and now I'm out on my ear not married so no protection.
So many people don't get it he has so much support and I have very little,I worry about the strain on the people that are supporting me.
Tomorrow I go to a community Christmas lunch.

@Purplepuddle No, completely unaware of the day but has enjoyed wrecking my Christmas tree every day for the last few weeks. When I am in the room he doesn't move (other than to roll onto his tummy where he gets stuck) but the minute I turn my back and go to make a cuppa he scoots himself backwards across the floor and heads for the tree. Although he has a diagnosis of being blind we know he can see something as I love to watch the concentration on his face as he tries to make his hands reach out of the glittery baubles, then he tries to figure out how to grab them and when he finally succeeds he arches his back in delight. I admire his determination.

I'm alone but having a meal with my dad tomorrow. And the cat is with me!

Today I've done all the cleaning, changed the bedding, 2 loads of washing, a spin class and now in a cheese coma watching Netflix
Boxing Day I'm going to do a spin and weights class, have a bath and general relaxing
27th I'm batch cooking chilli for the freezer and going to make nachos
Then back to work