A thread for those on their own

[Purplepuddle]

Hi Everyone 👋

I thought it'd be nice to have a thread for company for those, like me, on their own over Christmas.

A place with no patronising comments telling us to go for a nice bath or volunteer at a local soup kitchen, no-one saying they'd love some peace over Christmas (not quite the same when you're alone all year round).

Apologies if there are loads of these threads already, I've used Sarah Millicans twitter hashtag before and thought it was great to chat with some like minded people.

For me, I've had a nice December, enjoyed the Christmas markets, ice skating and a few meals out. No stress for tomorrow, no running around buying hundreds of pounds of food nobody Eil eat. I'm also lucky enough to have had a few invites tomorrow which does reduce the loneliness (I'm not going but it makes me feel a lot better knowing I've been thought of).

So hello to anyone on their own, whether you're struggling or quite happy it'd be lovely to hear from you xxx

(P.s as ppl seem to take offence to everything, I'm aware there will be those not alone but having a shit time. Not saying us loners have it worst)

May I join? It's just me and the cat. I can't travel to family because of her and my partner is currently living abroad. I have a really horrible period and am getting over a cold so I can't even have a glass of wine. I had a little cry earlier but am going to try to make tomorrow nice. The house looks really pretty and I have some nice food in. Maybe I'll have a bath 😂. Might feel better enough by then to have some champagne- I bought one of those mini bottles. I'll then watch Love Actually and probably have a cry again.

On my third single Xmas. I hate Xmas anyway but it would be nice to have not only someone to share it with but someone to share the load of it all too. Didn't really have that even when I wasn't single.

To top things off dd1 who has decided to alternate weeks staying with me and her dad just showed up with an entire bag of fucking washing that neither her or her dad saw fit to do. If I needed any indication of how little anyone thinks of me I just got it.

I dont even want the dinner I've spent a fortune on.

I'm opening the booze in a.minute when dd2 goes to bed.

Bah.humbug every one!

Aw bless him I bet he loves the colours etc.

I recognise your username and know it’s your first Christmas without your DH as well. I hope you and your little one have as good a Christmas as possible xxx

Also OP and everyone else, have a good Christmas x

Best wishes to everyone. It's a trying time...it'll be over before we know it.

woman, late 40’s, self employed, I live by myself in my flat in central London. Have spent all morning walking, going for coffee and enjoying an empty city, then all afternoon at home. Made myself some nice very healthy food. I have no TV (lucky me as I hate it), so have been listening to my favourite podcasts all afternoon while lying on the couch and self reflecting on my life and the changes I would like to do.

After 3 stressful months I needed this alone me time and can’t care less about Christmas to be honest. Life is good 😊

Since Covid I can hardly be bothered with Christmas. I do miss the Christmas's of old when the kids were little, but my kids are now 26 and 29, and I don't have any grandchildren. My husband died in 2016, so it's our 7th Christmas without him. He loved it - and organised it all. The Metro radio advert with the girl crying about her late Dad's garlicky pigs in blankets kills me every time.

I've been on a diet for months due to high cholesterol, so I'm going to eat bad high fat things all day tomorrow, read and watch tv.

I do recommend The Glass Onion and Knives Out on Netflix if anyone is looking for good films!

My daughter is flying over from NI with her boyfriend on the 28th, my son is driving up too, so we'll have a meal out and toast the new year in while we are together.

I hope everyone has a peaceful day :)

Thank you . I have had some lovely messages tonight from my previous little ones which has been lovely and it makes the days less difficult.

A peaceful Christmas to all on this thread.

Ditto. Year 2 of Christmas completely alone, no tree, no decs and all hope of DS perhaps surprising me this year extinguished by 5 pm. Just me, the cats/ dogs and memories of 25 years hosting Christmas for my late parents, their respective partners as well as ex DH kids and his mother.
I'm in shitty rented accommodation, skint feeling crap physically and mentally and with only my faith and my ability to shut down on the untenable keeping me going.
My Christmas miracle arrived at 7 this evening with my wonderful Moroccan Muslim neighbours at the door with their two gorgeous little girls and a plate of food plus a beautifully wrapped gift for me. Cue one very soggy, tearful mess stuttering my thanks, counting my blessings and with a present to look forward to opening tomorrow morning!
and 🎁 to you Garysmum and thanks OP for the post .

Just me and my lovely British shorthair this year, who is currently snoozing in his basket.

First proper day of rest in a while not thinking about assignments and exams and work and admin. I like that everything stops for a few days. Had a nice nap on the sofa this afternoon with the cat curled up next to me.

Roasted chestnuts this eve and had them with a big garlic bread and G&T while watching TV.

I’ve spent quite a few Christmases alone and am very hermitty in general, but there’s still always a small hint of sadness I associate with it. I know that it’s not a magical day for everyone though, and I don’t envy people who have to spend it with people they don’t want to like I’ve had to do in the past.

Tomorrow I’ll do much the same but with even nicer food.

Cheers everyone

On last course mint chocolate and coffee must be crunchy as well Elizabeth show ones. Cheeky devils no longer in a circle around the box but in three rows so there’s less I suppose. Hang in there everyone for those of you suffering 24 hours be all over.

How did you roast your chestnuts it’s my first year of having them in the oven?

@pantherrose ditto the shitty rented accommodation and thinking of you. Your neighbours sound incredibly kind though. And that is what gives me faith - there are some wonderful and kind genuine people out there. x

I'm tempted to forget Christmas and do Netflixmas instead. Moved the tv to the bedroom earlier and cleaned the house - including (sorry) the bath ready for a Christmas bath :). Veggie lasagne for me tomorrow but I cooked it a month ago and it's in the freezer, or might just do something really easy like pasta and pesto.

Am I allowed to join? I'm on my own with my 4 year old but she hates me, every day is an absolute battle and not looking forward to tomorrow at all. Her father was very abusive and she witnessed a lot, she hits me and screams at me, tells me she hates me and I just see so much of him in her. I don't know if this will be my last Christmas with her as her father and I are going through court proceedings so he may well get next Christmas.
I was seeing someone earlier this year who was separated, but he decided to go back to his wife because he didn't want to lose access to his kids full time, he's the love of my life and I'm heartbroken still. He still messages me every day to tell me he loves and misses me and I'm the one he wakes up and thinks of. I miss him so much and wish he was with me for Christmas.
Tomorrow will consist of breakfast, Christmas day Mass, picky bits, lunch and presents and hoping little one doesn't tell me she hates me. I'm sorry if this doesn't qualify as technically being alone, I just felt so alone and wanted to post x

I think a nice bath should become a Christmas tradition for those of us on our own.

Tomorrow will consist of breakfast, Christmas day Mass, picky bits, lunch and presents and hoping little one doesn't tell me she hates me. I'm sorry if this doesn't qualify as technically being alone, I just felt so alone and wanted to post x

You're not alone, @FatherTedCrilly . Lots of us are here and on our own, willingly or unwillingly.

Score Xs in them, put in a baking tray and roast in the oven for 20-25 mins at 180ish. Put them straight in a tea towel when they come out, ball it up and squeeze so the shells crack. Then peel immediately and grimace while you burn your fingers. I love them

That sounds so tough @FatherTedCrilly. Make yourself cosy at our Christmas table

I (sort of) chose to be on my own but that doesn't make feeling lonely much easier. I don't even have Christmas snacks in!

❤️❤️ Thank you xx

May I invite you to try the Christmas Puzzle
Please post which is your favourite.
Hope you enjoy them - Dan

I wish showers here I’d never in a normal bath now arthritic. I’d love a hot bath.

Thank you so much. This helps enormously happy Christmas.

Hellooo to all!

Not only am I alone, I have have the bug that's going around so feel utterly fed up.

I'll be checking on here in between napping and nose blowing! I can't even chat to anyone on the phone because my throat is too sore to speak.

Grrrrrr...