A thread for those on their own

[Purplepuddle]

Hi Everyone 👋

I thought it'd be nice to have a thread for company for those, like me, on their own over Christmas.

A place with no patronising comments telling us to go for a nice bath or volunteer at a local soup kitchen, no-one saying they'd love some peace over Christmas (not quite the same when you're alone all year round).

Apologies if there are loads of these threads already, I've used Sarah Millicans twitter hashtag before and thought it was great to chat with some like minded people.

For me, I've had a nice December, enjoyed the Christmas markets, ice skating and a few meals out. No stress for tomorrow, no running around buying hundreds of pounds of food nobody Eil eat. I'm also lucky enough to have had a few invites tomorrow which does reduce the loneliness (I'm not going but it makes me feel a lot better knowing I've been thought of).

So hello to anyone on their own, whether you're struggling or quite happy it'd be lovely to hear from you xxx

(P.s as ppl seem to take offence to everything, I'm aware there will be those not alone but having a shit time. Not saying us loners have it worst)

Oh I said your girl!!! I am awfully embarrassed and sorry 😳. Sounds like he's fascinated by that tree!!

Too tired, emotional and stuffed to post in detail tonight but thank you for creating this and I look forward to joining in tomorrow.

merry Christmas 🎅🏻

Yes, I was chatting to my good friend who is just so stressed trying to organise everything. A day of cheese sounds much nicer

Thank you for the support.
I did enjoy my first Christmas alone but I haven’t seen my family in months now. I’ve done stockings for the children which I won’t see them open again. I really thought I was cool with it and let their dad have them again as I did last year due to to his family situation.
For the third year in a row my family is unwell. I am immune suppressed and have done nothing at all for 3 years - diagnosed at the wrong point! No cinema, no dinners, no parties, no travel. My world is soul drainingly small. I do admit I’m feeling sorry for myself but sometimes it’s helpful to have a good cry. I can be a sociable creature and I really don’t want the rest of my life to be spent like this. I’ll pick myself up tomorrow or Monday and the wheel will keep spinning.

I hope that everyone on their own is able to find something positive x

Is he still your partner? Sounds incredibly tough. Have you got a job here now? It's hard to make friends as an adult but can definitely be done

I had that on as well didn’t watch Carols from Kings as always listened to that with ex now trying completely new things for me alone. So if that’s on every year that can be my carols.

is there room for another one?

I'm on my own too, I did have plans to spend xmas eve with my adult kids but they got a better offer at the last minute. I didn't mind being alone tomorrow when I had plans for today but feeling a bit crap now.

That’s awful about your job it really is heartless bastards just before Christmas as well. Hugs lots of them.

The more the merrier here. Welcome.

Sounds fab @Pelo22 , any Netflix recommendations?

Merry Christmas to you too @YellowAndGreenToBeSeen

@username9000 ugh I'm sorry your plans have changed. Do your kids know it's upset you?

Totally allowed to feel sorry for yourself. Putting a brave face on 24/7 is draining

Kind of alone. I have a teenager who isn't talking to me and doesn't leave the bedroom. I'm drinking Baileys and cuddling the cat.

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Nope hes not still my partner,doesn't want to be he doesn't need me for anything anymore.I's horrible just had my 60th this week and now I have to look for work.

Thank you I’m very lucky very organised and even with the little money I get I’ve made a fabulous Christmas. But I never forget those sad or in helpless misery usually someone else fault drink abuse etc. I count my blessings tonight it’s a hard one Christmas it can be the happiest times or the saddest and I’ve had both. Hugs all of you.

I'm on my own. I've got food in to cook but I probably will just eat nibbles instead.

My heart breaks for you especially having to look for work hugs.

I’m on my own this Christmas. I’m divorcing but we are still living awkwardly in the same home. He has gone off to his family, and my child is diplomatically having Xmas with her DPs family.

I haven’t done a tree or any decorations. I woke up this morning thinking how lovely it was not to have had to be running my arse off like usual. Earlier this evening I started wandering if I’d made a mistake not to join up with someone.

Then I started remembering what I would be doing if we weren’t divorcing. We’d either be with his family or possibly down the pub. I’ve given up drinking but he spends most of his time drinking all through xmas (he’s a big social drinker). That reminded me that I haven’t enjoyed Christmas with him for years.

So I’m happy sitting here with my bacon sarnie, the TV and my knitting. I can’t believe how much money I’ve saved.

Best wishes to everyone. It will be over in a couple of days

That’s really tough. Hugs. I wish you luck and forging new paths in 2023. It might be worth joining a local activity group - I used to belong to walking group and there was a great range of people there. Just a thiught

we need to arrange a zoom so we are not all alone.and maybe have a good cry together.

haha. She's enjoying her mother enjoying her beer

I’m alone tomorrow, recovering from Covid. I’m not bothered really, Christmas is my least favourite time of year, it has been for a long time. I’ll visit my dad when I’m better.

Sounds like a productive Christmas

Sounds like you dodged a bullet!

I am on my own by choice. Was invited by friends to do Christmas with them but I just wanted peace and quiet. Still exhausted from getting Covid and as an introvert I just don't get the fuss about Christmas.

I went to the local market this morning, had a walk by the sea, found myself a lovely leather bag in a charity shop and then went home, had bath, made myself a lovely dinner, had some cake and now watching films on my laptop. Bliss.