Help, lent our house to friends daughter over Christmas and Alexa has just shown they were playing the music full volume at 3am

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Friend is seriously ill so her family can’t stay at their house this year so have lent their daughter our house for 4 days as favour.

Just seen on Alexa they’ve been playing full volume rave music at 3am, we live in a terraced house.

DH is stressing, I’m not really about state of house but I am about neighbours. Think I can only take something around when we’re back to apologise about noise.

WWYD?

If you’re absolutely sure it’s right ( ie there’s no way someone else could have been doing it at a different location on the same account), I’d message her directly and just be fairly blunt about it. Or if you have the neighbours’ number I’d ask them if they were disturbed and if so, then message your houseguest.

Uhh well you can either step in or continue to let your neighbours christmas be disturbed by these antisocial idiots?

Are you able to contact the daughter staying and say, our Alexa reports volume, can you please turn it down as it will impact our neighbours. If you don’t have direct contact with the daughter, message the sick friends partner, and if you don’t have either of their contact details you’ll have to text your sick friend and tell them to ask their dd to knock it off.

Thankfully neighbours on one side away but the one on the other side moved in last week so don’t have their details.

If I don’t hear from friend today I’ll message them and ask if someone go check the house. I would just disconnect Alexa but she controls nearly all the lights

That's useful. Get in touch with CF who is taking the piss out of your favour and say tone it down or I'll disconnect and you'll be having a dark and silent Xmas.
Aren't you worried about damage as it airways this person isn't very considerate and is throwing parties in your absence.

Our house is a hole and so I’m not especially worried about it, I’ll ask if someone can go visit today but friend is terminally ill, it’s an awful situation. And the CF is there with partner and young child. I really didn’t expect this

I don’t have direct contact details, only via friend

Can you talk to it from your phone? I know you can message between them. Wondering if you can send them a nice, loud literal and metaphorical wake up call?

Do you have a land line at the house? Call that and speak with the CF

If you're sure they're blasting music at 3 am then they lack the respect to be entrusted with your house. I don't blame your dh for stressing out. Tell them you need them to be out of the house asap, preferable today, anyone behaving like that is a totally selfish piss taker and I wouldn't want anything to do with them, nevermind allowing them unsupervised accommodation in my home.

I wouldn't pander around them, they sound like absolute dick heads if that's how they are treating your generosity and kindness.

disconnecting Alexa would just make them find a different way to be antisocially noisy.

you have to talk with them today. yes it will be embarrassingly and unpleasant but you mustn't therefore avoid it.

"our alexa logs all activity automatically and we are shocked to see loud music being played at 3am. our neighbours will be blaming us for this unacceptably unacceptable antisocial activity and you owe them an apology, today, or you will not be able to stay in our home"

Can you be sure that the Alexa information is absolutely correct? Would they really be blasting out rave music at 3am with a young child there?

you could send an announcement to them via the Alexa app … that should get their attention.

Yes, I know she has had issues in the past but assumed she would be ok if friends accepted our offer.

Messaged friend and he’s going to check and has apologised, it was the Alexa logs asking if it was ok to have parties in other peoples houses that got to me.

DH threatening to go home, I trust friend to hopefully to do the right thing (which may be kicking them out)

Our kids slept through everything when they were young, karaoke parties the lot!

Fuck that op. I can drop in on my kids' alexas from my desk at work (via my phone). Drop in on th cf and demand they cut the noise immediately.

Failing that disconnect all the lights and make it as inconvenient as possible for them.

Utterly taking the piss.

They asked Alexa if it's ok to party in other people's houses at 3am!
They are beyond advice, requests, redemption and second chances. I couldn't relax with these people at my home. It would ruin my Christmas. Sadly sometimes in life the more that you help others, the more others just take the piss.

So friend has just replied that he’ll speak to her, when he can get hold of her !? I’ve said he needs to go and check the house (he has a spare key) else DH will drive 3 hours to check himself.

Thus is a nightmare

This sounds awful OP

I'd be tempted to tell them to get out, this CF on a grand scale

Speak to them via Alexa maybe?

Wow, something about all this is eerily dystopian! The reliance on Alexa for so many things…..

OK I have to ask. Why did you lend your house out only to spy on them via alexa??

You can disconnect alexa and they can still use the lights manually.

Yes I find it pretty creepy, and quite frankly unneccessary.

CF is old enough to have a dh and child, CF's parent is terminally ill and now you have had to ask the partner of the terminally ill person to go round and check your house (which you kindly offered up to facilitate visits to terminally ill person) because of partying?
They'd be to the nearest TRavelodge and I'd be having words with my friend's daughter telling her to give her parent some respect.

Isn’t it? I can’t imagine lending someone my house and then spying on them. Very 1984.