Help, lent our house to friends daughter over Christmas and Alexa has just shown they were playing the music full volume at 3am

[Matchingcollarandcuffs]

Friend is seriously ill so her family can’t stay at their house this year so have lent their daughter our house for 4 days as favour.

Just seen on Alexa they’ve been playing full volume rave music at 3am, we live in a terraced house.

DH is stressing, I’m not really about state of house but I am about neighbours. Think I can only take something around when we’re back to apologise about noise.

WWYD?

I'm sure Alexa will tell her.

Get her number and phone yourself! Why on earth would you let someone stay in your house without having their contact details

And it’s not really “a nightmare” I’d it, it’s rude, antisocial etc and unacceptable but it’s hardly like she’s turned the place into a crack den

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I would tell her thr neighbours have complained, you are upset at the audacity to do this at someone else's home. She needs to leave immediately and you will call the police to remove her if necessary.
Then I would change the locks. Not the sort of people you want to have a copy of the key!

"Dad has popped around and said all fine, they were asleep and he pointed out we can see their activity."

That will scare the bejeezus out of them. They'll be gone by lunchtime...

I would tell her thr neighbours have complained

But they haven’t. Maybe Alexa’s not telling the truth.

@Youngatheart00

& what miracle sound proofing are you imagining?

Loud rave music at 3am not disturbing the terraced neighbours - what planet are you in?

Wouldn’t disturb us. We both go into a coma when we fall asleep.

Ditto!
Son as baby slept through all music if he occasionally went to live gigs -

I have a problem with AI, and I don't have an Alexa and never would. I'm not saying it is impossible. I don't trust Alexa at all.
However her dad said she found them all asleep, indicating a party. There should only be 1 person there. Also searching for questions this particular individual has form for.
In this situation I'm inclined to say it is the truth and I'd be demanding she was out within an hour.

Also to the poster that says neighbours may not have been disturbed what nonsense! I live in a street of semi detached houses and I have been disturbed by neighbours several doors down. Also thinking back to my youth when I lived on a terraced street, if someone had a party most of the street knew about it.

I really can’t say more detail but there is a reason daughter can’t spend long with her mum, and can understand why this could be a v difficult time for her. I feel I’ve already over shared

I'm not surprised they were asleep at 8 if they were up at 3! You need to get a phone number for them and tell them to apologise to the neighbours, any more issues and they are out.

Im glad they’re all fine. How about your new neighbours? Or don’t they matter?

You need a phone number for this young woman. If there is a recurrence of the issue, better to be able to contact her, rather than bothering her family when they are already presumably super stressed. Stop being wet, and ask for a contact number.

You don't seem to be doing much about this apart from sending the dad round who says 'everything is fine'. My neighbour is like this, loud parties going on all night. I can guarantee you everything is not fine.. not for your neighbour. They will be majorly pissed off, regretting their move and yes they will of been disturbed and will spend the rest of the day knackered, worried that it's going to happen again tonight and again on Christmas night.. which it will likely happen again on christmas night.. it happens christmas night here with my nightmare neighbour. Get her number, call her and tell her to leave. Ridiculous your just letting it continue, which will be ruining your new neighbours christmas.

This! And if you don't, don't be surprised if your neighbours retaliate in one way or another.

@Blossomtoes

DEEP ENVY!

I understand your reticence to give details.

But if daughter is staying with you because she can't stay at home due to mum's illness, she would have seen her mum and stayed with her if she was well surely?

You don't have to answer, I'm just thinking out loud, as you do when I should be doing other things like prepping something or something.

The new neighbour I will apologise to, house guest has been told to behave, I don’t want to ‘stalk’ them but will check once later. I can ask a further neighbour if there's been bother, have no contact details for NDM

Yes, it’s a great super power to have!😉

@greenhousegal

Maybe, maybe not.

maybe her mum could cope better with her when she was well, but just can't now she's so I'll.

maybe the daughter only visited for the day before, but wanted to be nearer this Christmas.

who knows, but it doesn't make any difference to this situation, so go peel your spuds 🤣🤣 I need to Oreo too, but likewise faffing around in here 🤣

@Matchingcollarandcuffs I appreciate your friend is going through a lot with his wife & 'a party' probably seems like 'so what' to him today. I can't blame him. He's checked your house us ok & probably can't deal with much else, poor bloke.

do you have any others neighbours numbers or another friend who could get your new neighbours number & your house guests number for you? I know it's Christmas Eve, but I'd do it for you.

I house/dog sit for friends regularly & I'd be bloody annoyed if sodding Alexa was reporting my every move, but she'd be bored witless, certainly no parties! Though my friend would encourage me to have one 🤣

you need to contact your new neighbours, you can't allow 'house guest' to potentially ruin their first Christmas in their new home AND worry it's you & this is just the start of things.

Just came across this again and wondering what happened? Did the neighbours say anything when you got back?

Thankfully the nearest neighbour was away, the new neighbour said he couldn't hear but obviously don't actually know.

Expensive full bottle of bourbon my dad had given 17yo DS was empty, some of my prescription drugs missing (pregabalin, she'd been asking Alexa about drugs) and washing machine fecked and needs a new drum as they'd put a single duvet, single bedding plus king sized bedding all into the machine all at once. Washing machine had bounced right out of the space.

They'd unplugged a load of lights/devices, probably as they couldn't work them, and were saying the odd snarky 'tell the people we're having a party' remark when they were still there.

Her dad is mortified, has offered to cover any costs but thankfully insurance covers it (DH was honest as to what happened).

Tbh DD came down with strep on Christmas Day and was really ill so we were just glad to get her home, to her bed and our who understands her health.

Bloody hell. That's what you get for doing someone a kindness. That's seriously awful, op.

Horrified. To be honest I don’t think I would have gone through my insurance (surprised they’re even entertaining it to be honest). She should pay. Might give her pause for thought about her behaviour…