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Neighbours smoking marijuana in garden

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Mercibuckets · 20/12/2022 20:22

We have new neighbours who appear to be very heavy marijuana users. They were outside smoking with umbrellas when it snowed and this is the third time they’ve been out today. I’ve had enough because the smell comes into our house even with the windows closed, principally my 7 year olds room and the kitchen. They also had a very loud party until 3 am at the weekend.

It is a normal residential street with mainly school age families and elderly people. The neighbour on the other side of them is in her 80s and has dementia. They must be working as the cost of housing is very high, but I’ve no idea how they can sustain a job given the amount of drugs?

I thought about popping over, but I’m nervous if it goes wrong they might be unpleasant. Would a community police officer come out to speak to them? I’ve never experienced something like this so grateful for advice on what to do.

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VeniVidiWeeWee · 21/12/2022 01:22

earsup · 21/12/2022 00:09

It's not illegal to smoke it in own home so police not interested....you might have a word so they could sit somewhere else.....

How the hell can it be illegal to possess cannabis but it's legal to smoke in your own home?

A bit of critical thinking may be in order here.

TheMatriarchy · 21/12/2022 04:01

Buy them a vape for Christmas, greatly reduces the smell to almost nothing, and is much more economical.

THisbackwithavengeance · 21/12/2022 05:05

Usual drug apologists on this thread.

If you smoke weed and buy from dealers then you are complicit in the trafficking of 14 and 15 year old children from countries like Vietnam who work in the houses and industrial settings where your weed is grown.

Educate yourselves.

TheMatriarchy · 21/12/2022 08:24

Its a plant for goodness sake, chuck about some seeds and it'll grow in your garden too. Its growing all over the UK and is legal in a great number of countries including in Europe now. Coming from Vietnam how ridiculous, its not heroin! It has many many health benefits which have been proven time and again, and has never killed anyone (unlike the ghastly alcohol available in every corner shop). Educate yourself. Pearl clutching drama nonsense.

THisbackwithavengeance · 21/12/2022 08:36

TheMatriarchy · 21/12/2022 08:24

Its a plant for goodness sake, chuck about some seeds and it'll grow in your garden too. Its growing all over the UK and is legal in a great number of countries including in Europe now. Coming from Vietnam how ridiculous, its not heroin! It has many many health benefits which have been proven time and again, and has never killed anyone (unlike the ghastly alcohol available in every corner shop). Educate yourself. Pearl clutching drama nonsense.

You misunderstood me. Vietnamese children are brought to the UK in the backs of lorries and on small boats to work in grow houses. They are essentially indentured slaves to criminal gang masters and are told that they have no choice as they have to pay off huge debts for the cost of their journey to the UK. They are often mistreated and abused.

This is not my opinion. This is a fact. Google it.

I have no problem if people want to buy weed from dealers, that's your own business, but know the facts and be grateful that your own kids are well looked after and have not been sold into slavery.

Bard6817 · 21/12/2022 08:46

THisbackwithavengeance · 21/12/2022 08:36

You misunderstood me. Vietnamese children are brought to the UK in the backs of lorries and on small boats to work in grow houses. They are essentially indentured slaves to criminal gang masters and are told that they have no choice as they have to pay off huge debts for the cost of their journey to the UK. They are often mistreated and abused.

This is not my opinion. This is a fact. Google it.

I have no problem if people want to buy weed from dealers, that's your own business, but know the facts and be grateful that your own kids are well looked after and have not been sold into slavery.

No one wants to admit their complicity in modern day slavery. Much easier to tell themselves it’s a harmless plant grown by some good guy just round the corner, community service….

I’m sure there are some good guys who grow a plant or two….

But this is not the vile nasty super strength stuff, usually grown in underground caverns (to avoid detection), where people are chained up, beaten, forced to work, including women and children, to pay off debt, hide from authorities, generally taken advantage of because of their vulnerable status for some reason.

Yeah, alcohol is so much better…. When you dismiss that modern day slavery exists.

Greenfairydust · 21/12/2022 08:53

I had this when I lived in a flat in London. A man who lived below smoked wed on his balcony and the smell would travel up to my flat. I hate the smell of it.

I posted something general about it on our residents Facebook group, asking people to be mindful that the smell was travelling to other flats through the windows. He sent me a really nice message apologising and saying he would be more careful and the issue stopped.

So it really depends on whether the neighbours are sensible people or not.

I would try having a brief, friendly chat first asking them not to smoke close to your windows.

If the friendly approach fails and they don't do anything if this is rented I would try to contact the estate agents/landlord who probably won't be impressed that someone is using drugs on the property and are holding lour parties.

And no people can't just do what they want in their properties. If it impacts on other people's enjoyment of their home, then the issue needs to. be addressed.

I think too many people who use weed seem to think that it is OK to present it as something harmless, that almost everyone does and that has no consequences. It isn't. it is still illegal, many people hate that smell and it is often associated to other anti-social behaviour.

LovelyRachel · 21/12/2022 08:57

No one wants to admit their complicity in modern day slavery. Much easier to tell themselves it’s a harmless plant grown by some good guy just round the corner, community service….

Yes, this 100%

As for the PP who lacked basic critical thinking skills - probably smoked it away years ago 😉

lurchermummy · 21/12/2022 09:09

Interesting responses. I am a landlord, lovely house in a "naice" area, professional tenants. The NDN of the house called to tell me the tenants have been smoking weed in the garden. They were very unhappy about it. I'm due to do an inspection soon so will be looking out for signs of smoking in the house (against the tenancy agreement) but otherwise was thinking there is not much I can do, neighbours complaint is just hearsay really.

Goawayangryman · 21/12/2022 11:23

@Amybelle88 sorry to say that CBD flower is totally illegal in the UK. Extracts that have been certified to not contain THC are a different thing and perfectly legal providing regulated. If it's that, he's fine. If it's flower, he is breaking the law. Companies who sell CBD flower will tell you it's legal but that is not correct.

Amybelle88 · 21/12/2022 13:41

Goawayangryman · 21/12/2022 11:23

@Amybelle88 sorry to say that CBD flower is totally illegal in the UK. Extracts that have been certified to not contain THC are a different thing and perfectly legal providing regulated. If it's that, he's fine. If it's flower, he is breaking the law. Companies who sell CBD flower will tell you it's legal but that is not correct.

Hi, thanks for the information.

He buys a product that contains no THC.

LlynTegid · 21/12/2022 13:55

Do they drive? That would be a factor in any response. If they do I would consider either their employer if known or the police.

They are whether they consider or not, racists and contribute to the small boats migration issue and as noted, modern slavery.

Goawayangryman · 21/12/2022 14:38

Certified no THC isn't the same as legal, though. Any form of flower product is illegal even if it contains no THC.

Frequency · 21/12/2022 14:43

They are whether they consider or not, racists and contribute to the small boats migration issue and as noted, modern slavery.

Does OP know where they buy their weed from?

Most adult/professionals I know who smoke regularly buy online from overseas suppliers because it's cheaper.

theemmadilemma · 21/12/2022 14:48

SliceOfCakeCupOfTea · 20/12/2022 20:38

Weed smokers can be just normal people who hold down jobs OP. That might surprise you but honestly, you sound quite naive.
Many people smoke for pain, mh reasons, in lieu of any other vices or just because they want to.

I would mention something to them about the smoke coming in your house to your kids room and ask if they can smoke elsewhere on their property but be prepared for them to say no.
Move your kids room, move house, or learn to live around others.

This. I'm a smoker, middle management job.

They're probably perfectly nice people and a little nose blind to how much other people notice it. Try a chat first.

LBFseBrom · 21/12/2022 17:15

There is plenty of home grown weed available in this country, 'head' shops too. You just have to know where to look.

Ponderingthemeaningoflife · 21/12/2022 21:15

I had/have this problem OP. My neighbours are very nice so I turn a blind eye nose, as I would get occasional whiffs at periods throughout the day (they smoke it on and off all day). But in the heatwave it was diabolical, we obviously had all our windows and doors open and with no wind our whole house stunk, even the bedrooms on the opposite side to their house (semi detached) stunk.

So as per my PP I sent my DC out to ask loudly what the smell was. It wasn’t such a problem after that, I think they genuinely hadn’t realised how much it carries. It’s not a problem now in winter, I’m pretty sure they smoke it indoors.

Greenfairydust · 21/12/2022 21:23

@lurchermummy ·
''Interesting responses. I am a landlord, lovely house in a "naice" area, professional tenants. The NDN of the house called to tell me the tenants have been smoking weed in the garden. They were very unhappy about it. I'm due to do an inspection soon so will be looking out for signs of smoking in the house (against the tenancy agreement) but otherwise was thinking there is not much I can do, neighbours complaint is just hearsay really.''

It is not ''hearsay'', it is your neighbours telling you that your tenants are causing a nuisance and using illegal drugs. Dismissing a complaint as ''hearsay'' is a rather irresponsible. Any decent landlord would be concerned.

ComeOnThenFanny · 21/12/2022 21:33

theemmadilemma · 21/12/2022 14:48

This. I'm a smoker, middle management job.

They're probably perfectly nice people and a little nose blind to how much other people notice it. Try a chat first.

Also a smoker, good job, no issues other then the usual life shit. I've smoked weed almost every day for 25 years. I don't drive or operate machinery, and nobody else is at risk. I smoke in the shed in my garden.
We're not all filthy scumbags robbing pensioners, you know.

Goawayangryman · 21/12/2022 22:29

There is an issue with ethical supply though, for most people in the uk, unless you grow your own, which is a terrible idea if you care about not going to prison.

It's illegal, and therefore made and distributed by criminals.

Frequency · 21/12/2022 22:57

The police aren't interested in people who grow one or two plants for their own use. I've grown it before. The person I get it from on the rare occasions I smoke is just a retired bloke who my dad knows. He's about 5ft2 and 6 stone wringing wet and is definitely not trafficking Vietnamese children and hiding them in his two-bed terraced house.

I'm not saying it doesn't happen, it does, but not everyone who smokes weed buys from a sketchy dealer. Most people buy it online or from someone they know who grows it.

StillDancingEvenOnTheRainyDays · 22/12/2022 00:29

Frequency · 20/12/2022 21:44

Druggie scumbags?

A young, working couple who smoke a bit of weed on their downtime are hardly scumbags.

It's ridiculously common these days. In fact, there was a thread on MN not so long ago where plenty of middle-class mummies were comparing their high.

And if the person who linked to the cookie shop on that thread is on this thread - thank you. You made Christmas shopping and my plans for NYE much easier this year Wink

Have to agree about the online shopping. Mine is due any day now as a present from me to me, a little micro dosing treat for the festive period shall we say.

I’m nearly 11 nights sober - double digits! I plan on staying alcohol free for as many more as I can.

DontStopMeNow7 · 22/12/2022 02:09

I would handle this and speak to the community support police for advice. If they suggest you ask them to stop doing it outdoors because of your children then do so. Keep a record of every time they do this. Eventually the police would have to act if you keep reporting it.

theemmadilemma · 22/12/2022 08:46

@StillDancingEvenOnTheRainyDays there's a few support groups you could look at on FB. Stoned Sober is a good one. 😁❤️

theemmadilemma · 22/12/2022 08:50

@ComeOnThenFanny Yes, over 25 years here. There's a large number of middle aged women who smoke weed quietly.

And it's going to help with menopause symptoms too!