What’s the worst thing you’ve found out about someone after they’ve died?

[Watisthis]

Going through a big shocker at the minute. Has anyone ever had something massive come out after a loved one has passed away?

I don't think they meant a child's funeral, but the deceased's secret child.

Ah that makes much for sense! Was truly baffled by that one trying to work out how that could occur /who was in the coffin etc🤦‍♀️

@CeriB82 i wasn’t my mum’s 1st born

Neither was I 😥

So glad it wasnt just me

I thought she meant a real giant rabbit too, possibly dead as it was boxed up

😱😁

@gourmetperle

Sorry!!!!
The deceased man had a secret family that no-one knew about. His child from that family turned up and his 'main' family got rather a shock. But your interpretation would make the good start to a film or book. 😁

Whoosh….🙄

Loving the naivety over the rampant rabbit! It’s a type of vibrator.

Lots of scandal on both sides of the family in my case, but no shockers after their deaths. I think the lack of contraception and the misogynistic moral values of earlier times created so many scandals.

My grandmother was a maid in the big house and became pregnant aged 18. Probably the ‘young master’ as she was shipped off to Wales to have my uncle. She met my grandfather there and married him two months before my dad was born.

My other grandmother was married to a sailor and was living in Portsmouth. Her first two children, John and May, were her husband’s but she shacked up with my grandad (another sailor) and had my auntie Dot 15 months after my auntie May! Quick worker. Moved back to Wales and had another 4 kids with my grandad including my mum. Divorce took 7 years to sort out so she finally married my grandad.

When my mum was born, my grandmother would have still been officially married to her first husband, and my actual grandad was away at sea so mum’s birth certificate falsely had the first husband’s name on it as it would have been scandalous to have left it blank. Then when mum married my dad, her own dad was on the marriage certificate. Made it very tricky when she needed a passport as her birth and marriage certificates didn’t match.

(Names changed)

Yes, I realised that afterwards ta.

🙄

When my mam died, she left money to my stepbrother who I love very much, and nothing to me, but it still hurt.
She had savings accounts for his two children, but nothing for mine.
I took her to every hospital appointment, took her on days out, was a generally decent daughter - nothing exceptional, just normal.

I cleared her room out after her death and found EVERY birthday and Xmas gift I had given her for the past 7 or 8 years still wrapped up.

Yup, I was of no interest.

That's the worst thing I found.

I can't believe people are still giving away their stories on this thread. Mad.

My ex boyfriend is adopted, and had been told that his biological mum was an unmarried woman from a strict Irish catholic family and had been sent to England to give birth, and that his parents adopted him when he was a few weeks old, having gone to the orphanage and chosen him.

he was also told that the orphanage deliberately didn’t keep many records, and that his biological mum would have returned to Ireland shortly after his birth.

So he didn’t ever bother trying to trace his biological parents

At his mum’s wake, his Aunty (mum’s sister) got more and more drunk over the course of the afternoon, and when we said goodbye to leave, revealed that she was his birth mum, having got pregnant as a teen. It was his mum’s idea for them to adopt him, and they promised the Aunty that she could be involved in his life, but they pretty quickly cut her out, including moving abroad for years.

it was really sad and the train journey home with him after he heard that bombshell was pretty memorable

We found viagra and a vacuum cock pump apparatus when 96 year old FIL died. Nice to know he was more human than he led everyone to believe

Porn stash in the house and loads of fleshlights under the bed! 😂

Because it’s anonymous and who actually cares if it’s in the paper? 🤷🏼‍♀️

A few skeletons in the cupboard doing family history. DH found that his great-grandmother was actually not, someone had an illegitimate child, and her brother took the child on.

And it's possible that my great-grandmother committed bigamy as she remarried when it wasn't at all certain her previous husband was dead (just after WW1). She had an interesting life with four husbands altogether!

We may have been to the same funeral :-)

Why do a lazy "journalist's" sh*t-work for them, though?

I found my mums diary's of when I was going through a horrible break up. She said really horrible things about me, and was really bitchy. She wonders why I went no contact many years before. And left her in a care home.

My dad wasn’t my sisters dad.
mum only told us after dad died.

Not really 'worst'...

I had two friends, lets call them Sheila and Sharon, they were a couple, they ran a market stall for years and my Mother had known them through her work. I met them after my mother died, but she'd talked about them often, they talked to me about her... I mention this to make it clear, I met these people in person at least three times.

We continued to talk online, we ran a FB group together, they took in a friend, lets call her Kate, so now three women in their late 60's/early 70's are sharing a home. Sheila was police before she ran a market stall (joining her partner Sharon on the stall when she retired)... Kate ran another stall which is how they knew one another, I met Kate way back... when I met S & S..

For 5 years, I ran a FB group with these people, they visited my rental property local to them when I sold it, to clear it out and check everything was ok.

They were there for me when I had to go to hospital very poorly, they checked in on me when I was struggling, they were supportive and super kind, knowledgeable, funny...

Then Sheila died... and Kate became sporadic in contact, as Sharon struggled... then Kate went away to visit family in ireland...

Then Sharon died.

Kate didn't exist. Kate had never existed asides from them using the name of a person they'd known from the markets. They had fabricated this person living with them for YEARS, not just to me, to HUNDREDS of people.

There was no 'scam' apart from this invention of a person, they didn't create her to rip people off, they didn't do anything malicious or ill intentioned.

I'd love to know why they invented Kate, she was funny and kind ... but not out of the ordinary at all.

We found out from Sharons brother, and their neighbours.

It's really weird, but we all grieved for this person we'd believed in, rather than being angry we'd been lied to, it seemed better to grieve as if Kate had died like Sharon and Sheila.

@Yemelade i’m so sorry, that is terribly sad. But I can feel the love you had for her emanating from your post, I’m sure she felt it too.x.

My dad passed away many years ago. His dad was always known as having an eye for the ladies and regularly cheated on my Grandma. She knew and it was an open family secret. He was very wealthy (through hard work in his early life) and was extremely generous with family and friends, so they liked to keep on his good side and not rock the boat about things he got up to. Grandad died recently and, at his funeral a lady (not much older than my dad) & her children showed up. Apparently this was his long term mistress and my secret aunts/uncles, who were in there 30s. Most of his family and friends knew about them and embraced them. I have no idea if my dad knew about his siblings before he died. Apparently my grandma also knew this lady as she worked for my grandad, and had done for over 20 years. This secret family knew he was married and had just gone along with everything, working for the family business and accepted his handouts and saw him when it was convenient for him. We later discovered he left most of his estate to my grandma and the rest scattered amongst his siblings. I do not know what provisions were made for his second family while he was alive but nothing was given in death and they have not contested or asked for anything.

How can Kate be made up? You said you met her?

Well I found out that my aunt who was my grandfather’s caretaker was severely neglecting in and it resulted in him having a massive stroke and that was what killed him in the end. He was wheelchair bound and had heart problems at the time. The house was filthy, filled with roaches, mice and there were holes in the walls and the home looked like an episode of hoarders. She was spending the money she was getting from the government that was meant to help him on herself. Meanwhile he was starving, going without his meds and she was withholding his cell phone from him. If it was a matter of her needing help around the house she had four other siblings including my mother who is a licensed nurse who would have been delighted to help out but she never asked. I felt really devastated finding that he was being treated like that. He was one of my few extended relatives who was really truly kind to me and understood me. My cousin called adult protective services on her when he found out thankfully but the stroke had already done him in and he was dying at the time. My relatives were so awful to him when he did it too up until they saw the pictures of the state of the home. My aunt took him money and fled to mexico and we haven’t heard from her since. I hope she parishes from Montazuma’s revenge.

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