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Is anyone awake? I’m expecting bad news and I can’t sleep

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MyCake · 13/12/2022 04:32

My dh is unwell and we have no idea what is wrong. We are getting scan results this morning but they were only to rule things out so probably not conclusive. However, I can’t see how this isn’t going to be something serious as he has declined so rapidly.

I feel sick. We’ve already lost most of his income through him being off work so I’m also worried sick about money. We have enough savings to manage another 2 months at the most.

My dc are already suffering, despite them
mot fully understanding how serious the symptoms are, as dh is pretty much housebound and I can’t physically drive them to all the clubs and places they need to go by myself.
I also work full time although thankfully I’m a teacher and break up this week.

My heart is broken just looking at him disappearing in front of me. The doctors are slow to take his symptoms seriously so sadly by the time he was sent to hospital he was already unable to work and very ill. It could of course be something very treatable but at the moment I feel suffocated with the fear of the worst case scenarios.
I am writing this as I’m lonely and scared and wondered if anyone is awake to say hello.

I have name changed in case anyone recognises me from this post. If you do, please don’t mention this as I am doing a great job of appearing strong on the outside.

OP posts:
jenny38 · 19/02/2023 09:09

Just for reassurance, a family member also had long covid (off work for months) they had covid again recently and wasn’t any worse afterwards. Hope it’s the same for you OP

Ohtheyresickagain · 19/02/2023 12:35

Sending love @MyCake

Reigateforever · 19/02/2023 23:32

Hope the appointments are still okay for DH on Monday.
Sending you hugs and Flowers. Take care.

Original poster
MyCake · 20/02/2023 00:37

I forgot to update but dh tested positive on Friday too in the evening. I was isolating but he developed a runny nose and tested. At least we have been able to spend the weekend in the same room!
We are not too ill but we do feel pretty crap.

OP posts:
Conkered · 20/02/2023 08:19

So glad you're not too ill with it. Hopefully you can both get plenty of rest. I suppose this will mean rescheduling DH's appts? How frustrating.

Mirabai · 20/02/2023 09:18

Sorry to hear that - does that mean DH can’t go to his appt today? I hope you manage to switch to a telephone appt.

theoldhasgone · 20/02/2023 14:46

I assume he can't go his appointment now, what terribly bad luck.

You have all my sympathies.

Mirabai · 20/02/2023 14:52

These days you can usually switch a F2F appt for a telephone one.

Original poster
MyCake · 20/02/2023 22:53

Things have gone from
bad to worse. It almost sounds like I’m making it up now 😞 It feels relentless.

He has a new appointment in 4 weeks with consultant for nerve tests etc and endoscopy next week.
He tested positive this morning but thankfully negative this evening as his mum (who I think I mentioned is very unwell) has taken a significant turn for the worse. His sibling has driven him there as dh is far too dizzy to drive still.
I am trying to be fairly upbeat for the dc and am working from home to stop me getting anxious or bored. I’m still firmly testing positive and feeling shit!

Please unfollow the thread if you’re sick of my moaning and no answers about dh. I’M sick of my moaning and no answers about dh!
You have all kept me going at times xx

OP posts:
Noonesperfect · 20/02/2023 23:04

So sorry OP. You are not moaning, you are sharing your worries and concerns. I think you've been so strong and amazing OP. Hope you feel better soon Flowers

Conkered · 20/02/2023 23:19

I know what it's like when your life is like an endless, unbelievable soap opera - definitely entitled to a bit of support!

Pirrin · 20/02/2023 23:45

Oh nooo, it's like you're living the "when it rains it pours" saying. Nothing useful to add, but hang in there, hoping and praying for a bit of good news for you Sad

Original poster
MyCake · 21/02/2023 03:18

I can’t sleep. I’m literally back where I was at the start of the thread except I’m now waiting for bad news about MIL and still have no actual news about DH.

OP posts:
StartupRepair · 21/02/2023 03:30

I'm sorry this is so tough for you. Don't apologise for moaning - you are dealing with so much.

rainbowstardrops · 21/02/2023 06:14

Please don't think you're moaning, you are sharing your worries with people who want to support you - albeit from afar and behind a screen.
Have a virtual hug from me Flowers

picklemewalnuts · 21/02/2023 06:48

I'm glad he's been able to go and see his mum, at least.
What a pig of a situation.

Reigateforever · 21/02/2023 08:01

I am sorry to hear you are suffering from covid, fingers crossed that it will pass quickly this time. Although you have been able to re make the consultant appointment however as it is a few weeks away, I hope there is a cancellation list which DH is on.

SweetSakura · 21/02/2023 08:05

You aren't moaning at all. It's so hard when multiple stressful situations all happen at the same time.

And I had my own long journey to diagnosis so I am rooting for your DH to get answers before too much longer as I know how hard it is when you don't know what's going on. And I know the relief when you get answers and can start treatment

Kamia · 21/02/2023 08:37

I don't want to sound cliché but there is light at the end of the dark tunnel. You will get through this and there'll be happier times. Just hold on to the thought and have hope.

brooksghost · 21/02/2023 09:15

I started following this thread when you first posted- I was having an insomniac moment at 4am.
I've not posted on the thread before, but I just want to wish you a speedy recovery from the covid and offer some virtual support for your DH and your MIL.

Shoemadlady · 21/02/2023 20:38

We're all here and hand holding virtually. Keep your chin up you're doing a great job supporting everyone even if you feel the opposite x

thaegumathteth · 21/02/2023 21:53

Oh OP that just sounds so shit. I wish I had inspiring words to say but I don't but I'll just commiserate with you that you've been dealt a bad hand and send lots of hope and love that you'll be all coming through the other side soon.

Original poster
MyCake · 21/02/2023 23:03

dh has called a few times. He feels dreadful, particularly the pins and needles and numbness, but is glad he went.
MIL is very unwell now but comfortable and seems pain free.

Dc2 has started vomiting this evening so that’s 48 hours of school! You couldn’t make it up!!
Dc1 is still not right (although still testing negative for Covid) but we’ve spent hours watching Sherlock together which has been lovely. He’s normally in his room or out with friends so even though it’s crap that he has been unwell, he’s spent most of the past 4 days in the living room with me :-)
Dc1, dc3 and I ate A LOT of pancakes which has also been lovely (poor dc2 will have to have his when his tummy is better!) I also booked for all the dc and I to watch ant man at the weekend.

Tried to put some positives into that update!!

OP posts:
Newestname002 · 22/02/2023 01:11

Dear OP. Please don't feel you are moaning - you have several loads on your shoulders and bearing up incredibly well, though you may not think so. This place is a tower of strength and we are supporting you with our thoughts and prayers. I hope you are sleeping well now so you have the strength to face tomorrow. Sending you best wishes for the coming days. 🌹

Ladybug14 · 22/02/2023 01:36

We're here for you @MyCake ..... Good, bad or indifferent news. Tell us everything xxx

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