Is it really the norm to be completely hair free for sex now?

[Getdone]

I was married for 30 years, I kept myself tidy if I was likely to be going swimming but that's about it. DH never seemed to mind or express a preference for anything else.

I was part of a conversation with a bunch of middle aged, mostly single, admittedly quite drunk, men and women (don't ask me how the conversation came up!) and the consensus seemed to be that anything other than a completely hair free woman and a well trimmed man was "disgusting".

I've told them all that if the ever get the opportunity (they won't!) they'll have to take it as it comes 😆

I really can't imagine setting myself up for that sort of maintenence, even if I wanted to, but is it really the norm?

For women of mid- twenties and younger, that does seem to be the case. Too much effort in my case

No idea generally but definitely not the norm for me (44)

Maybe for you oral sex isn't better without hair but for some people (me included) it is. You can't possibly speak for everyone on that matter. I also feel cleaner without hair.

I see a lot women's public hair/lack of. It's probably 50/50 in terms of removal completely and maybe 70/30 in favour of at least some 'tidying up'. Though that may be skewed by women removing it prior to seeing me as they feel self conscious (I don't care, that's not what I'm looking at!).
Personally, like a PP, I have a 'small curated area' most of the time as I have a natural tendency to be very bushy and it needs some control for my own comfort/pleasure. I actually shave down there more than I shave my legs, I will happily go around in shorts/skirt with visibly hairy legs.

I'm hair free but it's personal preference. Took it off once and now hate hair there. DH couldn't care less

I don’t purport to speak for everyone, and equally, it’s not ‘glorious’ for everyone.

Re cleaner - it’s really not. Previous posters have explained why that’s the case.

I find the idea of being hairless ridiculous. We're a species of animal related to apes. Hair is kind of part of our make up.

I don’t like being completely hair free because I’m not a child and it itches too much when it grows back. I trim it fairly short and keep it tidy though. DH is fine with that (I’ve asked him!) and if we were ever to part ways anyone else would have to accept it too! DH likes it short or waxed so I go with short!

I’ve been thinking about this as I I’ve been on a couple of dates with someone and next date is at his. I’ve never been one for all off, but I’ve been thinking is that the norm? Do people just shave it themselves? I don’t want to go for a wax, jeez no. I’ve got a bikin shaver - shall I just go for a short setting on that? One other thing why I’m thinking it’s got to come off is the wrong side of 40’s I’ve noticed a few grey pubes! Arghh. No-one wants to see that, off they come I guess!

I’m middle aged and keep it neat. I wouldn’t shave it all off.

Shave everywhere randomly when I can be arsed or for special sex occasions. I do feel sexier with it all off but it is time consuming to get rid of it when you frankly have better things to do.

why wax then? It’s often a clean fetish…but seeing men who remove their own pubes…for me it’s a huge turn off….I don’t want a man who spends hours grooming his bits….it’s all a bit vain and self involved…like my men a bit more outdoorsy and natural.

Do you urinate and bleed from your head? Does your scalp produce mucous all day?

I think it really just depends on the couple. While I am happier and more comfortable shaved and prefer my husband trimmed it doesn’t always go like that and honestly sex is sex and he doesn’t care either when it really comes down to it. I think some people say one thing but do another. If you really love each other then you’re not going to make each other feel like crap over something so small. Especially once kids are involved you’ve got to jump on the opportunities when they arrive or else you will get nothing! 😂

Hairless men are not sexy to me. That’s definitely my age, as it seems smooth, preened men are ‘hot’ nowadays.

Smooth chests and no pubes just isn’t going to turn me on AT ALL. I like men, not Ken Dolls.

Not here.

Tbf DH and I are so old and tired we count just doing it as a win.

The hairiness or otherwise just wouldn't feature ...

For what it’s worth, as a bloke I don’t really like fully shaved or even a tight shave
on women.

Don’t get me wrong, it wouldn’t bother me much if my partner were shaved, and I’m sure I’d get used to liking the look… but my preference is definitely for a full bush…
it’s just really sexy

All my pubes fell out when I had chemo and I hated it! I hated the fact that when I looked in the mirror naked I could fully see my minge, I felt like it was staring right at me. And I didn't like zero hair round the back either, I felt like I squeaked when I walked.

But that's just because I'm not used to it I suppose, I wouldn't feel like that if I always removed it. My friend always has everything off and says it just makes her feel cleaner.

From experience……no guy is going to turn down sex because a woman isn’t clean shaven (hairless), yes they might prefer you to be but it’s not going to make them turn down sex.

And I don’t get men that shave either, dated a guy in the summer that had no hair and it gave me the ick.

Those that take it all off and don’t wax (don’t think I can face that) - hair removal cream or electric razor (or any other method). Help, date no 3 at his this week! And yes I know I shouldn’t care what a man thinks but the grey pubes have made me decide it’s got to come off incase the lights are on!

To posters saying everyone in the changing room is pube-free - that doesn’t surprise me at all. Knowing how many people think hair is disgusting / dirty / funny means there’s no way I’d get naked in a communal space. If there’s no private changing room I’ll use a toilet stall to get changed at places. I would expect some regular gym-goers wax or shave not because of personal choice or what men want, but because it’s the safe choice socially. Ditto giving birth.

I was single about 15 years ago and I had sex with a man who told our mutual friends I was 'hairy' down there!! To be clear I'm blonde with light/minimal hair and I had waxed the sides!! He was expecting a landing strip apparently!!

Exactly. Not a chance I’d get changed in a communal changing room knowing people think my pubic hair is disgusting and unhygienic 😂

@BedTaker Have I misunderstood or are you saying the back is so hairy you can actually tell when the hair isn't there?!

For me tidy and trimmed - when I can be bothered!

My husband of 20 years has never mentioned a preference- think he’s just happy to be getting some.

He has a very hairy back and chest & regularly gets me to shave his back which is fine but he once did his chest - I found it to weird and actually quite unattractive glad when it grew back! I doubt he would ever shave anything below.