Is it really the norm to be completely hair free for sex now?

[Getdone]

I was married for 30 years, I kept myself tidy if I was likely to be going swimming but that's about it. DH never seemed to mind or express a preference for anything else.

I was part of a conversation with a bunch of middle aged, mostly single, admittedly quite drunk, men and women (don't ask me how the conversation came up!) and the consensus seemed to be that anything other than a completely hair free woman and a well trimmed man was "disgusting".

I've told them all that if the ever get the opportunity (they won't!) they'll have to take it as it comes 😆

I really can't imagine setting myself up for that sort of maintenence, even if I wanted to, but is it really the norm?

I prefer a bald vag. Sex feels better.

I see a lot of bottoms and there are lots and lots of hairy ones

There are also lots of trimmed or waxed ones

I think it's a bit weird to remove pubuc hair and make a woman look like a child. But seems to be cultural e.g. many women born in hot countries.

No idea if it is the norm but hair is protective and removing it not good for your health.

There's no medical or hygienic reason for removing some or all of your pubic hair. But the removal process can be painful and cause many side effects, including:
Genital itching, sometimes severe
Genital burns from waxing
Abrasions or cuts during shaving or waxing
Stubble, rash, bumps and ingrown hairs
Bacterial infections
Increased risk of contracting or transmitting viral infections, such as herpes simplex or HPV, due to cuts or skin irritation that make the skin more susceptible
Contact dermatitis from shaving products

Unless you have pubic lice or never wash it's not cleaner, it's bad for your health.

@Baconsprouts I am comparing the habitual ripping out of hair and shaving often causing ingrown hair, painful rashes and chemical burns from hair removal cream (all for a fee, part of a much bigger cost for maintaining beauty which men do not bear) to it yes. Did I say they were the same? No. Do I think the consequences of both are equitable? No. Foot binding was horrific and caused women to live in horrible pain and with deformities that hair removal doesn’t touch. But I do think it is on the same spectrum.

As usual during debate on any public
forum the worst conclusion is jumped to, all nuance ignored and name calling ensues. Seriously, why can’t we exchange views cordially anymore?

I'm really confused by all the posters knowing what their daughters do...I'm close to my mum but I've never told her what I do with my pubic hair!!!

Same!

Didn’t you know, this is MN. Everyone knows what their husband is doing, what their child is doing and they even know what their best friend’s sister’s dog is doing!

Or - this is MN and people talk about a whole range of things with their families that you might not talk about with yours.

Always the 'little girl' thing. Why? Are shaved armpits reminiscent of little girls? What about defuzzing of faces? It's nothing to do with children and everything to do with women feeling that they need to exhibit no body hair I don't agree with the need but I also regret that it's anything to do with secret paedofiles

It’s not even Close to being on the same spectrum

Hair removal creams and shaving is painless, waxing is pretty painless too.

Why is keeping it short and groomed 'normal' but removing it 'abnormal'? Has it occurred to you that this is just an opinion and no more right or wrong than anyone else's? I hate stubble so I'm not shaving. It's easier to just whip it all off once a month. Done and dusted. Re growth is soft and feathery. Forget it for 4 weeks.

Odd you are confused that people have different relationships with their parents.

I regularly discuss my sex life, bits, waxing issues with my mum, Nan, aunts etc. heck I even chat about most of this with my dad.

Some people are closer to their families than others

@Baconsprouts

Oh I’m close to my parents. Infact I seen my mum today, we went to the theatre. Did I tell her that I sat on my husbands cock last night in the living room? Erm no. Ever heard of boundaries?

I am au natural, my DP trims but I have to say I'm not a huge fan as the spiky hair can be a bit sore sometimes. 2 DD's are sporty so because of attire they have to wear shave everything the other DD I can't be stars and is as nature intended.

Waxing is not ‘pretty painless’, hair removal cream stings like hell, and shaving causes micro cuts and ingrown hairs (as well as itchy regrowth).

Is that your profile on plenty of fish?? 🤣

I think that this issue should be treated the same as the hair on your head. You will have a preference, and any given man you date might have a preference for say long or short hair. What matters is that you have it however you like.

For me, the 'expectation' that I keep my body a certain way for the pleasure of a man is unacceptable. And any strong reaction from men either way I do honestly find strange - why care that much, surely it doesn't feel that different, and doesn't look bad enough to be off putting? Either way any man who for whom how I kept my body hair is a deal breaker would not be a man that I wanted to have sex with. Fine to ask or express preferences depending on your relationship, but no insistence or expectation.

My DP would definitely prefer it off and has said so, I just said no.

No it’s not nonsense at all, I don’t want to go to bed with a hairy troll with a long beard and hair everywhere, living in a cave type, I expect my men to be clean and nicely groomed so I do the same. Does that mean I go for the hairless barbie poem star look? Absolutely not.

Waxing is pretty painless for many women, some hair removal cream stings, and you only get ingrown hairs if you don’t shave properly and do appropriate aftercare.

@Sandra1984 sounds great to me, please send your discarded trolls my way 😁

Your boundaries are a lot different to mine, doesn’t mean people don’t have them if they don’t align with yours.

We chat about trying new stuff, funny sex stories, heck even tips!

Hair down there definitely makes a difference with oral sex.

DH likes his balls sucked, I only do it if he shaves as I don’t like the hair in my teeth after. Same applies in reverse, he doesn’t want a mouthful of hairy minge.

@Baconsprouts

Yeah id rather not get sex tips from my dad but you do you 😂

@Baconsprouts you get sex tips from your parents......?

Yep, and vice versa, especially after they split and entered the dating pool themselves!

If DH and I ever have a slow patch mum is the first I call to chat about it to, she always has some tricks up her sleeves.

I don’t know many friends who don’t discuss sex with their mums at the very least.

MN is always so insular with stuff like this though