Lo! The ultimate cheeky fucker has been found

[learieonthewildmoor]

A friend of mine died suddenly a few weeks ago. He had separated from his wife last year and had made a will.
He had been invited to a wedding next year. The mother of the bride texted his ex-wife asking that money from his estate be used to buy a gift for the couple.

Everyone who knew and loved him is still reeling from his death. But the important thing for this woman is her daughter still gets a gift from him. How in the name of all that is good and holy would you ask that?
My friend, God love him, was a tight bastard and would have been buying the cheapest thing on the registry; which makes it even worse somehow.

Perfect.

An A4 picture of your friend in a cheap Ikea frame, with a note from him promising to return and come visit them one dark and creepy night, would make a sweet gift.

I would like to think this is a wind up but sadly think there are people out that would actually do.

I think I would have to combine a few responses by pp

“are you fucking serious?
have you no shame you greedy grabby ghoul?
what kind of sick weirdo demands a present off a DEAD person”

and tell the most gossipy person as well.

My dear Dad died suddenly and at the time was doing some admin for a very small local charity. A couple of the charity members came to his funeral (I didn't know them) and the wake afterwards at his house, and had the nerve to ask me if they could have the paperwork back there and then. They were then really affronted when a friend stepped in and said 'this is not the time and place' as I was picking my jaw up off the floor.

....but demanding a wedding present takes the CF biscuit...

😂

Does the mother of the bride have the mobile numbers of everyone invited to the wedding?

This one!

Surely, this woman, mother of the bride can demand money from the estate only if her daughter name is on the will.
I would text back "Will check with solicitors if you are on the will".

Love this!! 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣

I only hope you are a troll. I hate to think that there is someone out there who thinks this kind of behaviour is ok.

@JennyForeigner I concur!

I worked for a charity. One of the participants died shortly after taking part in a challenge event. The charity hounded his wife for his fundraising money. It was awful. He had a target of £1,500 and they kept calling, emailing, writing to her until eventually she turned up at the office with something like £800 and said she’d been so busy dealing with everything and she didn’t feel comfortable chasing people for their sponsorship money now he was dead. Awful awful behaviour by the charity.

[Clutches at straws]

Was he a close relative of the couple -- an uncle, or dear family friend, or godfather? Will the bride be devastated not to have him there? In which case, I can sort-of see that a small memento in his honour might be appropriate.

[Abandons straws. Nope, people are just crass]

Long years ago, I was in the office of a certain publication and overheard 'Can I speak to Professor SoandSo? Oh, I'm speaking to Mrs SoandSo? Could you ask him to call me back? [pause] Suddenly this morning? Dear, dear, I'm sorry to hear that, but did he finish writing the review for us first?'

Key word is “story”

I'd be inclined to respond "Of course! No problem at all."

And wait for the follow-up 'reminder' .... and the one after that etc. etc.

Meanwhile, I'd be using some of the ideas posted here e.g. Ikea frame/picture of friend or buy the cheapest, nastiest, tasteless item I could find in B&M, then send it by post to the mother having massively underpaid the postage costs 'by accident'.

But, then, I'm like that ....

This is just insane! I would love to know the thought process behind this. ‘Oh yes, I must ask George’s ex to send a gift, even though they were separated and he died’. Bonkers.

I’m sorry for your loss, OP.

Appalling their approach but….

he did the event, yes? So anyone who wouldn’t donate when he’d done it was surely… also appalling.

And small charities desperate for funds

and… well, it was correct that the money, whether £800 or £1500 was given to them as it was the charity’s

Yep. That is ultimate CF. The bride's mother needs blocking.

Dear CF,

Please reread your message and have a long, hard look at yourself. Then go away.

Yours,
OP

I'd reply. 'Don't worry - whoever we pass his wedding invitation onto will be sure to bring a suitable gift. We'll let you know if the lucky replacement guest has any dietary needs in good time, but as we intend to give it to one of the homeless community I'm sure they won't be too fussy food-wise.'

Tbh I can believe it, my dh just died and there’s relatives who now think they can treat my house like a smorgasbord. I’ve had texts “I want dh name guitar I bought him”

You can’t ask for gifts back just because they died.

I’ve had to change all my door locks because I can’t be certain they haven’t still got a set.

Yes this is a perfect opportunity for passive aggression. Something really tacky and funeral related would be a fitting comeback.

Vinyl album of Blue Oyster Cult's 'Don't Fear The Reaper' - along with the aforementioned book on manners (ideally one clearly aimed at primary school kids).

Vile woman. Ignore.

I suspect there are two sides to this story and the way it's presented has missed out some vital information ...

Why did they ever have a set?

I've got to admit that I was thinking 'nope, never happened' until I read you post.

So sorry for your loss, and sorry that some people around you are causing you additional pain.