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Lo! The ultimate cheeky fucker has been found

318 replies

learieonthewildmoor · 28/10/2022 15:04

A friend of mine died suddenly a few weeks ago. He had separated from his wife last year and had made a will.
He had been invited to a wedding next year. The mother of the bride texted his ex-wife asking that money from his estate be used to buy a gift for the couple.

Everyone who knew and loved him is still reeling from his death. But the important thing for this woman is her daughter still gets a gift from him. How in the name of all that is good and holy would you ask that?
My friend, God love him, was a tight bastard and would have been buying the cheapest thing on the registry; which makes it even worse somehow.

OP posts:
Tirediam · 28/10/2022 15:55

@NooNakedJacuzziness yes yes yes

MrsR87 · 28/10/2022 15:55

Wow! I can’t believe people like this actually exist. I honestly don’t know how I would respond to that!

InFiveMins · 28/10/2022 15:56

NooNakedJacuzziness · 28/10/2022 15:55

Get them a ouija board so they can say thank you

Absolutely this!!

Irishfarmer · 28/10/2022 15:56

wow that is low!! I don't know what I would do.

NooNakedJacuzziness · 28/10/2022 15:56

Ps - sorry for your loss OP, didn't mean to be flippant!

EconomyClassRockstar · 28/10/2022 15:57

Banjaxx · 28/10/2022 15:41

Psml at everyone saying the grieving ex partner should confide in the most gossipy friend she has and let her do the work of letting the word get around… um… do I really need to point out that’s exactly why we’re all on this thread discussing it 😂 OP I think you’ve just discovered who you are in the ex partners friendship circle!

My favourite comment on the thread! 😂

Ledwood85 · 28/10/2022 15:59

Send an urn full of ashes/sand/whatever.

AlmaCogansFrockFan · 28/10/2022 16:00

As presumably the ex-wife wasn't invited she could reply "Who dis?" . Agree that the mother of bride's behaviour is appalling

RudsyFarmer · 28/10/2022 16:00

I think I’d forward the message to the bride to be and let her sort it. I’m sure she’d be absolutely horrified at what her mothers been up to.

Iamthewombat · 28/10/2022 16:00

NooNakedJacuzziness · 28/10/2022 15:55

Get them a ouija board so they can say thank you

I feel bad laughing at this, under the circumstances. But, I am really laughing at this.

VerifiedBot2351 · 28/10/2022 16:03

No way!

SheilaWilcox · 28/10/2022 16:04

Dear CF, as he considerately died before the wedding, please use the money saved by him not attending to buy the couple a gift. Thank you for your condolences, as you can imagine, we are still grieving.

Sorry about the loss of your friend OP.

VickyEadieofThigh · 28/10/2022 16:06

I'd get a small photo of the deceased, put it in the cheapest frame I could find and send them that, with a note reading "I thought this was the best possible gift for Mr & Mrs Grabby - something to remember him by..."

ShineOnYouLikeMorningStar · 28/10/2022 16:10

MaggieFS · 28/10/2022 15:47

Yes that's a good point, ask if a place setting and a meal are being provided for the ashes.

Definitely this. And when she replies "are you joking, he's dead", you just reply, yes he is.

itsgettingweird · 28/10/2022 16:10

learieonthewildmoor · 28/10/2022 15:22

And she did it by text! His ex- wife hasn’t replied: what on earth would you say to that?

I think I'd just reply with a load of laughing emojis.

After all - this has to be the worlds unfunniest joke?

I'm sorry for the loss of your friend OP. Flowers

listsandbudgets · 28/10/2022 16:11

That's utterly appalling.

How about a companion cremation urn with a gift tag saying "Even death will not part you" or maybe "until next time we meet". There are some nice examples here on Etsy
Companion Urns

I think you've found the ultimate CF story OP I've never heard the like.

itsgettingweird · 28/10/2022 16:12

Banjaxx · 28/10/2022 15:41

Psml at everyone saying the grieving ex partner should confide in the most gossipy friend she has and let her do the work of letting the word get around… um… do I really need to point out that’s exactly why we’re all on this thread discussing it 😂 OP I think you’ve just discovered who you are in the ex partners friendship circle!

Grin
thesnailandthewhale · 28/10/2022 16:14

Send a book on manners and etiquette x

Dahliasstillinbloom · 28/10/2022 16:16

learieonthewildmoor · 28/10/2022 15:22

And she did it by text! His ex- wife hasn’t replied: what on earth would you say to that?

Something beginning with f and o I think.
Absolutely unbelievable and I bet the cf doesn’t see how crass she is.

greenhousegal · 28/10/2022 16:17

I'm having trouble believing this, but I'd be tempted to reply that I (ex-wife) inherited everything and I wasn't invited. May dear "John" rest in peace. All the best, Mary.

slowquickstep · 28/10/2022 16:18

I sure as hell would let the Bride know what her Mother had done.

Razzle5 · 28/10/2022 16:20

How do you know out of interest?

Razzle5 · 28/10/2022 16:21

slowquickstep · 28/10/2022 16:18

I sure as hell would let the Bride know what her Mother had done.

I wouldn’t. Just stirring drama at what is a very meaningful celebration. In any event, she will no doubt be fully aware of how utterly insensitive and thoughtless her mother is.

Razzle5 · 28/10/2022 16:22

greenhousegal · 28/10/2022 16:17

I'm having trouble believing this, but I'd be tempted to reply that I (ex-wife) inherited everything and I wasn't invited. May dear "John" rest in peace. All the best, Mary.

Me too

Ohbluepeter · 28/10/2022 16:22

Oh definitely the best CF story recently

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