Lo! The ultimate cheeky fucker has been found

[learieonthewildmoor]

A friend of mine died suddenly a few weeks ago. He had separated from his wife last year and had made a will.
He had been invited to a wedding next year. The mother of the bride texted his ex-wife asking that money from his estate be used to buy a gift for the couple.

Everyone who knew and loved him is still reeling from his death. But the important thing for this woman is her daughter still gets a gift from him. How in the name of all that is good and holy would you ask that?
My friend, God love him, was a tight bastard and would have been buying the cheapest thing on the registry; which makes it even worse somehow.

@Razzle5’s posts seem pretty reasonable to me - in tone and in content. I don’t think she deserves a nasty character assassination.

i apologise Razzle5.

My earlier post is far too personal. I know nothing about your personality & my post was out of proportion. I hope you weren’t genuinely hurt by it.

Wow, thank you. I appreciate that.

No, wasn’t hurt in the slightest. Tis a completely anonymous forum after all!

Unfair on the bride
she will know her own mother
why temper her excitement and happiness

Oh it was sorted without any paperwork!

They went from brawling to just accepting verbal statement that FIL had given it to one of the brothers? 😯

I'm rarely speechless but Jesus wept, this is a different level inappropriate!!! How could anyone ever ask this? Just wow!

I don't think it was the words that fixed it. I wasn't present, but the dent in my frying pan didn't get there on its own.

Soon after my mum died very suddenly, at the funeral one of her “friends” asked me for her sewing machine. My mum was a wonderful crafter. The woman concerned already had two sewing machines.

I just said, no I want it to remember my mum. And what’s more if I were to give it to someone, it would be my auntie Jean (my mums best friend).

people are weird.

The simple harsh reply is that the executor/executrix will distribute the estate in accordance with the will.

The one where you suggested the OP had made the whole thing up.

The one where you asked why this woman had the phone number of the deceased’s estranged wife, even though it wasn’t relevant or something the OP could be expected to know.

The one where you suggested it was okay for a charity to repeatedly chase the bereaved for sponsorship money.

The one where you suggested the poster who had been struggling with a family feud over who owned her home was moaning about nothing, because it could all be sorted very easily.

Your repeated dismissal of someone describing distress at being chased about the value of a vulnerable relative’s home.

Your ongoing defence of charities picking holes in the valuation of a dead person’s property, to the distress of their loved ones.

I hope he haunts her from beyond the grave.

That is quite the Interpretation of me very simply outlining what trustees are legally obliged to do. And asking for annual value of estate means they adhere with legal obligations.

So your DH whacked his brother with a frying pan. And no further questions asked? Wow!

Oh my word, just as you think you'd heard it all! Beyond hideous!

Top comment.

Who was the bride/MOB to him or has OP deliberately left that out?

Wow That’s just mad! The only question I have is if your friend was only separated at the time of his unfortunate passing surely then it isn’t his “ex wife” but his widow.

but 100% I mean cheek doesn’t even cover that request from the mother of the bride

You win. You absolutely found her.

Lol 😂 😂😂😂😂😂

some people, when my dad died next day i was at his house sorting a few bits out, knock on door a neighbour asking for his microwave, and did i know what i was doing with his washer or fridge freezer.words escaped me .

Take some of his mankiest worst tat and put it in a lovely box with a note saying that in his will he specified that he wanted the bride to have XXX. put a pair of his unwashed knickers in the bottom of the box and ensure it's left out in the sun a couple of days. Have a note on the top stating that the mother of the bride is allowed to open the present.

If I was his executor I would be awfully tempted to get some blackedged paper and a black edged envelope and say .... Sorry Mr ?is unable to attend please find enclosed a lock of his hair for the bride to keep as a personal momento.
I have a very warped sense of humour and really hope I don't upset anyone but I really don't see that I am any worse than the brides shitte of a mother 😱 what a POS .
I feel sorry for the bride having a mother like that.

This this! So this!
OMFG I cannot actually believe she did this! This is the absolute worst thing I’ve ever heard a person do!

Wedding gifts can customarily be given up to a year after the marriage. I would suggest waiting for several months, and then letting the bride know what her mother had said. If she didn't know anything about it, then give the happy couple something nice--don't penalize THEM for the bride's mother's appalling insensitivity.

In the meantime, I wouldn't answer this woman AT ALL. Unless, of course, it should reach her ears from a third party just how DESPICABLE her behavior is.