What’s the best life advice you have been given?

[RosieLeaLovesTea]

Interesting one - what is the best life advice you have been given and what you would pass onto someone?

@tunthebloodyalarmoff so women who work don't bring up their own children? Wow that's news to me, I thought I'd been bringing up my children whilst also working but apparently they were being brought up by who? Nursery? A mythical being? Also, news flash, some women work whilst their male partners stay at home, shock horror!

This one needs explaining :-)

Money does not buy happiness but it does give a person a certain level of freedom.

@FrazzledFirefly eating the frog is the process of identifying your most difficult task of the day and completing it before you do any other work.
Mark Twain's quote: “If the first thing you do in the morning is to eat the frog, then you can continue your day with the satisfaction of knowing that this is probably the worst thing that will happen to you all day”

Ah, thank you - that makes sense.

Don't get involved!

1. Talking is like toothpaste,once out of the tube,you can never get it back in. 2)Borrowing money makes you poor.

You cannot be a perfect parent for if you were how could your children ever live up to you? Therefore they will feel they are lesser.
It is better to acknowledge, admit and apologise for your mistakes, if you never apologise how will your children learn to.

There are some people in this world who will try to do you down. Don't do 'their job' for them.

If you have a difficult decision to make sometime in the future (moving house, change job etc) and don’t know what to do, keep all your options open.

Often as the critical decision time gets closer, circumstances change and the choice because easier or more obvious.

You can save yourself a lot of worry and anxiety. Still make whatever plans you need.

Surround yourself with good friends and seek their counsel often.

Never trust a man who wears a polo neck with a suit.

I'll quote all of your advice here! I wish I had received a couple of those this year!

I've been given this advice after the fact, when it was too late - trust your gut!
If it feels wrong and keeps feeling wrong, it probably is. It probably isn't just nerves or cold feet. It probably is wrong for you.

Agreed

Own your mistakes

If you want to get good at something, don't worry about how long it takes. A friend casuyally said that to me when I complained how klutzy I was at dancing as I am dyspraxic. Everyone else picked up the steps sp much more quickly. I listened to her, practised longer hours and was asked to do some public performances.

Another friend said Never make iumportant decisions at times of high emotion and that is an excellent one.

But the best advice ever was from a man I worked with when I was heartbroken and felt my life was over. He said, draw a square , divide it into nine equal squares and fill each one with an aspect of life that is important: Family, friends, health, home, finances, work, hobbies, community contribution, romance etc. Then work on each one every week to improve it, as if all have equal importance. That way when something or more than one thing falls apart in your life, you have plenty of other stuff in good working order to support you. I taught this to DC and have seen them use it during horrible times in their lives. It's kept me afloat often.

Don't catastrophise - it's easy to whip ourselves up into a state by worrying about the what ifs, the worst case scenarios. Deal with issues if they arise because what you think may happen may not

Similarly, if a problem seems insurmountable, break it down into manageable bits. For example, a woman stuck in a bad relationship with no income and no support may think she can't change her situation. But the problem can be broken down into small steps, eg step one, look at the benefits calculator, step 2 contact Women's Aid. Small steps in the right direction, even just researching options, is better than taking no action at all

Never put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket.

Resentment; is like you drinking poison BUT expecting the other person to die

Never fall out of love with your partner at the same time as they do...

I have a similar one.

If you have a difficult decision to make and you can’t decide, pick a time and a date sometime in the future - it could be 2 days time or 2 months. When that time arrives you will know your decision.

Always start a new job with four living grandparents.

Always start a new job with four living grandparents
what does that mean?

@Vitriolinsanity

Always have ice, Tonic and a lemon in the fridge. My Nana

Wise woman, your Nana!

I can only assume it's so you can get time off to attend four funerals. Hope the poster was joking...

Don’t marry a man who wants the same things in life as you do that you don’t love.

marry the man of your dreams.

fortunately I realised it before I truly ruined my life!

I suspect that is the case. If so, poster can always 'invent' living grandparents and parents and any number of people for whom she can take compassionate leave.