What’s the best life advice you have been given?

[RosieLeaLovesTea]

Interesting one - what is the best life advice you have been given and what you would pass onto someone?

They brought up their children though ? That's More important to some people

You can't change other people, but you can change your reactions to them.

Listen more and talk less. It wouldn't be good advice for everyone but it is for me, and I can see my DS needs the same advice.

Thank you, this is me! I hit snooze but then lie in bed feeling stressed about the day ahead. I will follow your wise advice

All good plans end with ‘fuck it’

Also, the image attached.

I have starting making more of an effort to do this, and one thing I’ve realised since doing this is that some people talk way too much!

"What other people say behind your back is none of your business." This has been really useful to me. I've never had anything beneficial from hearing what someone said about me behind my back, in fact it has without doubt always been detrimental.

"If you're not part of the solution, you're part of the problem." IME this is absolutely true.

"Work hard, play hard, give something back".
(from my parents)

As true for adults as for children!

This isn't a saying as such but as I work in Elderly Nursing Care, I often walk past our residents with a smile and greeting on my way home.
If I'm thinking of not doing something because it's a challenge or I can't be bothered I think that one day I'll never have that choice again and just get on and live.
This is often in relation to small things like that walk or meeting a friend that you sometimes can't be arsed to do.
We forget the simple privilege of standing up and going of our own choice that is often removed for many people.
So I suppose after that waffle the advice is just get on with living, don't wait for better times.

My father once said to to me when I was little "if you don't learn to say sorry you won't have a very happy marriage!"

It really struck home and I have always been good at saying sorry and resolving arguments.

My mother was the same. She had a volatile temper and wasn't the greatest in terms of her emotional regulation skills. Some of her raging and storming off and hurling kitchen items was not the best.

But she always hugged us and apologised and we never went to sleep on a row. That counted for a great deal. We knew she loved us.

Don't put off until tomorrow what you can do today - I'm naturally a procrastinater but life is SO much better when you don't put things off.

Wise words. I struggle with it even at the same time knowing it is true !

Also, sit down, open your ears, listen carefully and try to LEARN something.

So many people at so many meetings and conferences - but how many are genuinely open to taking in something new?

Prob not all that many.

If you feel like everyone hates you - sleep
if you feel like you hate everyone - eat
if you feel like you hate yourself - shower

i read it on a similar thread a while ago and it has actually changed my life.

Eat the frog.

All things will pass

Do your 50% in everything
Raising children
Relationships
Work
EVERYTHING
do your part the best you can but never try to do anyone else's or over compensate because it makes you tired and resentful and really doesn't benefit the other person either- they need to work out their own 50% and own it

Every best friend has a best friend.

Helped me realise that if you don't want a secret getting spread around don't tell a single soul.

You are the company you keep.

Don't pander to men and listen to your gut feelings

Always have ice, Tonic and a lemon in the fridge. My Nana

If change is happening, get in at the front. My best Boss

We must have courage, faith and chocolate fudge cake. My best friend

Make decisions based on the best information you have at the time, but adjust accordingly. Me

Treat people they way you would like them to treat you.

If you have to do something and it's difficult, doing 1% is still better than 0

Wash one cup, fill out page one, say one thing, it's still progress

Thoughts are not always facts.

Sounds very obvious and simple but a good mantra for anxiety/catastrophic thoughts and things like that.

When things are tough, just concentrate on the next 5 minutes. Got me through a horrendous period of grief.

Advice from a couple of lovely colleagues.

@pastabest I love that, so simple but true especially if you have mild anxiety, I always try to check those off if I’m feeling bad and it stops me spiralling into more worry or overthinking.