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What’s the best life advice you have been given?

186 replies

RosieLeaLovesTea · 22/10/2022 18:50

Interesting one - what is the best life advice you have been given and what you would pass onto someone?

OP posts:
PhotoDad · 22/10/2022 21:11

If you can't decide what to do, think how you'd advise a friend with your problem.

1dayatatime · 22/10/2022 21:43

For every upside in life there is a downside and vice versa.

For example grief is the price we pay for love or exercise the price we pay for fitness or weight gain for that delicious carrot cake etc etc.

Tubs11 · 22/10/2022 21:51

Live every day as if it were your last

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 22/10/2022 22:33

Time is the currency of love (OK, that was from a fortune cookie, but I love it!)

You don't have to like everyone; and it's ok for people not to like you.

Never spend more than 1/3 of your income on rent/mortgage.

caffelattetogo · 23/10/2022 00:25

Enjoy yourself. It's later than you think.

SuperlativeOxymoron · 23/10/2022 00:44

Financially - have 3 pots: bills, savings, fun. Always prioritise and pay your mortgage or rent first.

Decisions - if you can't choose, toss a coin, you'll decide while it's in the air.

Relationships - choose to love him every day, even when he's being impossibly hard to love. Talk and listen to eachother, don't just assume they understand because you're talking.

Family and friends - ask for help when you need it, don't let things get too heavy. Make plans to see eachother.

Work - it is easier to find a job when you're employed than when you're not.

Life - don't take everything so seriously, occasionally do something because it looks fun and for no other reason.

Needanewnameagain · 23/10/2022 03:12

The only way out is through

Helped me through many difficult situations... no point in burying my head i

Needanewnameagain · 23/10/2022 03:14

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No point in burying my head in the sand, just push through even if it's just small steps

2022Ilovealiein · 23/10/2022 04:13

Always have your own money

Lmgify · 23/10/2022 04:27

Be with a man because you choose to be with him, not because you have to

Not everything has a silver lining, sometimes things are just shit and shit things happen to good people as well

Fuckallthetories · 23/10/2022 04:34

Trust your instincts, you’ll know if somethings bad. Helped me a lot of times when dd was tiny and I couldn’t work out whether I needed to take her to hospital.

expat101 · 23/10/2022 04:45
  1. You do you
  2. be the change you want to see
Goatinthegarden · 23/10/2022 07:12

Always tell the truth. When I was little, the one thing that would get my siblings and I into really serious trouble was lying. My dad used to say, ‘if you are honest, we can deal with the situation and move on. If you cover things up, you’ll end up with bigger problems’. Hardly words of prose, but I’m very good at just facing things head on and dealing with them.

My late dad also had this economic model of ££s vs hours of enjoyment which has stuck with me. If you want to buy something you don’t actually need, mentally divide the cost by hours of pleasure you’ll get from it, to find out if it’s worth it. I think about it every time I buy something extravagant.

Mercedes519 · 23/10/2022 07:18

Don’t be a dick.

imagine how much nicer the world would be if everyone followed that….

ShandaLear · 23/10/2022 07:23

My 16yo DD asked me this question a few weeks ago and the answer I gave her was to exercise every day for at least half an hour, even if it’s just a walk, and make that time for yourself no matter what, and know that you’re worth it. I came to exercise about a year and a half ago when I joined a nice gym post pandemic. If I’d exercised every day since my teens I’d have kept my weight under control, and possibly have avoided anxiety and depression. I have had some weight related health problems that could probably have been avoided, and I’d have treated myself better by prioritising my health. Yes, it would have been great to be slim and exercise helps with that, but the mental benefits and feeling that you’re worth taking care of yourself is much more valuable.

CurlsandSwirls · 23/10/2022 07:42

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Mabelface · 23/10/2022 08:01

Don't hold grudges. The only person it affects is you.

Wear what you like, it's your body and life.

If you're worried, if it can be changed, change it. If not worrying just steals your peace of mind.

A partner should enhance your life, not complete it.

Don't save things for best, best may never come. Enjoy them now.

Never give more of yourself than you can afford to lose.

user1471538283 · 23/10/2022 08:05

Listen to your gut.

You are wired the way you are wired.

Let him/her/it go.

All from my DF. I've not always listen and it's always turned out wrong!

JangolinaPitt · 23/10/2022 08:09

PhotoDad · 22/10/2022 21:11

If you can't decide what to do, think how you'd advise a friend with your problem.

All these are so good but this particularly resonates. I have had a very good friend counsel me through a difficult year and now she is needs my advice and it her situation seems much clearer to me than mine did even though they are very similar and even though she advised me well she can’t clearly see her own…

dilligaf78 · 23/10/2022 08:14

The only man who will give you the world and expect nothing in return is your dad.

I am happily married with a man who worships me - however, I will be teaching my daughter the same thing as she grows up.

PlacematsandCoasters · 23/10/2022 08:16

Halstead · 22/10/2022 20:20

Never financially rely on a man

As soon as you start earning money, pay into a pension, even if it's only £20 a month

Put money into a savings account every month and forget about it.

Always carry a shovel in the boot of your car.

All from my Aunt - and every single piece of advice has served me well.

We both had wise Aunts, but mine never told me about the shovel. I’m going to put one in the boot this very day!

Blank165 · 23/10/2022 08:33

Debt is modern slavery. Don’t go into debt except for maybe a reasonable sized mortgage. If you do get into debt, work all the hours available to you to get out of it asap.

pd339 · 23/10/2022 08:40

I was always taught to be frugal with money, to think whether you really need something before buying it, and to save for a rainy day. Certainly glad of that advice now.

ChagSameachDoreen · 23/10/2022 08:42

If you lie down with dogs, you'll catch fleas.

Very good advice. In my experience, who you associate with really does rub off on you, and majorly affects how others view you.

twistyizzy · 23/10/2022 08:46

By my grandma when I was 16: only regret the things in life that you haven't done, not the things you have done.
I think she had a small life and wished she could have got out of it so probably regrets not taking some risks and chances.