Nearly 53, definitely menopausal...or pregnant???

[Cassavaflower]

I know it doesn't sound possible but I'm being sick, can't stand the smell of my husband, have terrible headaches and am craving rice. I never eat rice! Also I can't bear tea and I normally drink gallons of it!
It must be a virus, right? No-one my age could possibly be preggers?

@Inyournewdress she sounds like quite a woman! It is fascinating, I agree.

Exactly. At 46 I'd never had a successful pregnancy then bam, after thinking I would never be a mummy here I am at nearly 47 with a tiny baby girl. No matter what age, I would've been delighted.

Get a test, we're not in the 50s

Correct. We’re in an age where forums can highlight all the OPs posts to save yourself looking a bit daft.
Modern life eh?!

Exactly - get a test.

She did. It’s negative!

Just jumping in what @BretonBlue was saying.

I had a youngish mum (in her 20’s). She died at 29. My maternal grandmother had a child who was 10 years older than me. Not from a teenage child being pregnant, just from, yeah well, you all know where babies are just from!

DH and I had children in the 1980’s, then in the 1990’s then in the 2000’s! There’s a gap of 19 years from oldest to youngest and 9 years from the 1990’s child to the (next) 2000’s child.

The 2 oldest children had children early in the 2010’s; should we not have had our youngest two?

Don’t be so silly!

Families come in all shapes and sizes! My youngest has been saying for 2 years that she wishes we (as in DH and I) could have another child! All I can say is, thank goodness I’m infertile 😂.

I definitely would not want more children now! But interestingly, my oldest one is always telling the 2 youngest how lucky they are. Apparently we are more laidback as parents now! Needless to say, the 2 youngest don’t agree with that assessment!

Have you taken the test yet?

Hello all,
All those weird symptoms I had have gone and I have gone back to just being forgetful and having hot flushes. Must have been another menopause thing I guess.
I can't believe some of these nasty comments tho. All I said was that if I HAD been pregnant I would have been overjoyed and seen it as a little miracle. But it was not meant to be and I'm okay with that.
To those who have been super supportive
Thank you

You know there's a way to at least read all the OPs posts so you don't look silly?

Zonder. I'm sorry. You are quite right.
Does zonder have a meaning? It does in the hospital.

Hope you're ok Cassavaflower. It would have been Guinness World Records territory for it to have been positive. Hope you can do something nice for yourself today

When I was 17, I'm now 78, my mum thought she was pregnant. She was in her 50's. I was so excited 😊. Mum said if you're so pleased you can look after it. It was the menopause 😪.

We can’t really comment on this but I had a friend who had twins when 53. It was fertility treatment.

My ex's mum was 49 when she had him, he was a late surprise! His siblings were a similar age to my parents (who had me at 19). We lost our mums the same year - mine was 47, his was 79. Life is a funny old thing

I seem to have offended you @JoanOfAllTrades and I am not sure why. Of course older women become pregnant naturally. It’s well-established that some women become briefly very fertile in perimenopause. I was simply reflecting on an example which has recently come to light from my own family, and wondering if it might have been really quite common. Most of the people in my family who knew took the secret to their grave and we would never have known had my aunt / cousin not told us herself.

And almost certainly a donor egg.

One of DH’s clients has just given birth in her early fifties - naturally conceived and a huge, huge shock to her and her DH who’s quite.a bit older. It does happen.

I hope your ok today.it must have been a full blow of emotional roller coaster yesterday.and then that glimmer of what if happy thought. So on that level I’m sorry it might not have been the end result you came to hope for. I don’t say it’s meant to be either.it just is.no meant to about it. Because from what you’ve gone on to wri I’m sure it would have been a much loved child and you a great mum.
take care of yourself this weekend.lots of soppy self care stuff.talk to people if you need to.it’s ok to feel however you are.

Take a test. I am several years older than you. Currently 6 month pregnant. I was told at 55 no longer need contraception blood test in post menopausal region for everything.Two years later feel really ill, see my doc. Doc scares me to death diagnoses ovarian cancer. Positive ca125 blood test but altho docs all over uk use it its not useful for ovarian cancer because eg. Pregnancy and menapause interfere with results. Sent for ovarian cancer tests at hospital but the scan showed, I was 12 weeks pregnant. It's also apparently not as unusual according to my hospital as most people think. Most older women choose to terminate so we do not hear but yes you definitely need to test You really might be pregnant. If negative see doctor but remember this story and get a second opinion because my doctor was as shocked as me I am pregnant.

@Bk1 The OP took a test 2 days ago. It was negative.

Sorry no I meant the woman you had quoted.

What record? It not that unusual and the oldest mother was 21 year older than OP.

I can't for the life of me understand what some people get out of being so unkind to someone on the internet. I'm sorry OP.

Do you not know how averages work?

It doesnt mean your suppose to die at 81 it means that is the point where the scales tip that most HAVE died. BY 81 the 'majority' will have died regardless of if they where 42 or 80.

It's not at all unusual to die from age related issues like heart problems from 40 onwards.