If you're going through stressful times at the moment and can't talk to anyone irl about it for one reason or another...

[AmberGer]

Then let this thread be a support to you.
You don't have to disclose anything that you're not comfortable with.
I am also going through a lot at the moment that I can't talk to anyone about. It's deeply isolating.
I am procrastinating at the moment when I should be doing my housework.
Which doesn't help but I am making progress with some things. I have been more forgetful lately as I have been dealing with so much.
For the first time in my life I'm trying to be more organised and putting everything in my phone calendar. It helps to deal with one thing at a time and I can see what I need to do each day.
I hope this thread can be helpful to others in similar situations

I'll share.

My best friend of 20 years turned on me earlier this year, for no apparent reason it was like the 'caring' switch got turned off and she started treating me like absolute dirt, made me feel small, insulted me and when we'd gone away together with the children to a theme park she grumped at me all day and then f*cked off without me whilst she was supposed to be waiting for my son's ride to finish. I have no idea why she did this. I was going through a tough time at work and couldn't handle a confrontation so I just withdrew for a few months and neither of us were in touch. When I got back in touch a few months later, she ghosted me and then sent me a really vile, nasty letter saying what a horrible person I was. I didn't recognise the things she'd said in the letter as, far as I knew, we had a good friendship until last year. She then turned another mutual friend against me (who is closer to her) and said i don't know what but basically both of them just cut me off without any explanation and I can neither understand it nor come to terms with it. I feel like my trust in people has been broken and keep wondering what, if anything, I did wrong but i have no answers.

So sorry for all those who've lost someone they love.

For everyone who feels alone and unsupported.

For those like me waiting for tests.

Life is hard sometimes, having online people listen is actually a help. Thanks OP.

I'd love to feel confident enough to add something meaningful here but feel no-one would listen anyway: my partner has no time for me, why would a stranger?

Sorry your struggling. Perhaps let off steam here. Or write it down like a diary or a complaint letter but show no one?

I'm struggling with my 2 part time jobs. One is stressful because it's coming to an end after donkeys years and that's sad and unpleasant.

The other I've worked so incredibly hard, and resolved much but one thing the other day insulted me and the blame game they have recently played showed me a side I didn't like. I stood up for myself in a later email, but I don't feel the same anymore.

I have time to listen to you.

Thanks for the thread OP, so sorry to hear everyone else's struggles too

Another one here awaiting biopsy results after a painful procedure which has left me feeling upset and traumatised. Initially put on the 2 week pathway but after a series of blunders it is still on going 2 months later.
Only my partner knows and whilst he has been very supportive works away a lot of the time. I haven't told anyone else as I see no point in worrying others but the stress and strain is really getting to me now. Keeping things to yourself is a very isolating lonely place and I feel as if I just want to run away from myself.
I am going through the motions at work, inside I feel completely distracted with this black cloud sitting on top of me.
We all have our own troubles and I am really sorry to hear about everyone else's on here.

Solidarity @crimsonlake I'm not in exactly the same position but it's similar and my DP is also away a lot! having too much time to think sucks.

Gosh these are heart breaking

@supercatlady can they do that? It's constructive dismissal evidence if you're overworked. Made unwell and then marked down as a result? Ie they're managing you out

@cantba yes I have a lawyer. God it's just shit. Others my grade have miniature roles and I'm meant to work 8am-10pm and Sunday afternoons managing tons of people loads of workstreams and constantly hiring. While others chill out.

The work HR have weirdly raised a grievance against my boss, but cut all my access to email and said cannot speak to anyone. Can't work out if it's being 1. Terribly managed or 2. They're expecting to pay a settlement now so don't care how it looks

Just so weird when company is always in press on LinkedIn etc loving mental health week. The field it is in really want more women as well and I've got the team 5-35% female in a year. Just a headuxk rhe whole thing tbh

@TakeTheEgg I'm sorry you feel that way.
Of course we will listen ♡

Thanks for the thread OP.

Im really struggling at the moment. Had a really horrible summer with several very stressful events ( including unexpected death of a friend). Now have a cancer scare that I’m waiting for results on ( and it’s one with very poor prognosis).

Im a single parent to primary DC, one with SEN. Don’t have any family near by or a partner. Do have friends but they understandably have their own lives.

Really finding being on my own very difficult - I’m usually ok but it all just feels to much to handle at the moment. I had a recent hospital admission and have never felt so vulnerable and isolated. Desperate for emotional support. I really want to move near to my lifelong best friend but can’t because would mean my DC being too far from their dad. So worried about my kids if I do have cancer. And everything else. And how I’d manage. My mind just runs away and I think it’s because I’ve no one to talk to in the evening to bring me back on track.

sorry that was so long! But cathartic!

My issue is that I really can't tell anyone what's happening within our family.
The consequences of people finding out would be catastrophic and I wish I was exaggerating.
There isn't an end point at the moment either, the situation we're in could last for a number of years, it may well progress and get worse than it is at the moment.
That's why I have to find the positives in each day and try not to dwell on the future.
It really is the little things that make a difference in our lives. Even if we have no control over the big things.

I was diagnosed with endometrial cancer 4 months ago. Just found out the hormonal treatment I have been having isn't working and I need a hysterectomy. I'm early 30s and childless. A lot of my friends have had babies in the past year or are pregnant - and it hurts.

Also living in temporary accommodation as I was forced out of my rental home. Been lied about by neighbours who didn't like me and wanted my house.

Waiting for news of house purchase which is taking along time.

Oh and I have just had to give up my horses who were my world because I can no longer afford to keep them. One of them I bred and is now the closest thing I will ever have had to having a family.

I just want to fall asleep and not wake up to be honest.

I forgot to add sending much love to everyone struggling on this thread.

@Ringmaster27
You are dealing with so much! I'm not surprised you're numb to everything. That is a lot to be dealing with ♡

I think you are right OP about trying to find solace in the small things. I’m sure the lack of control over the bigger things is what makes it all so hard.

@romdowa I have siblings like that. I wish my step dad would tell them to fuck off and grow up but that won't ever happen.
They never take responsibility for their actions. They expect everyone else to sort it out for them and (my Step, their dad) dad usually does.

Thank you OP.

I love my daughter but she is draining me, teenage MH/SEN.
I have no money.
I am questioning my sexuality.
My job is draining me.
I am sat on the settee in tears and not actually sure I can move. Ever. At least that's how it feels. Too much effort to even go to bed before it all starts again tomorrow.

@EncroachingLoaf I can understand being angry at him. I would be too. It's easier for them to make those decisions when they're not the ones picking up the pieces.
Talk to the people you have, it really helps

We had to have our pet PTS on Monday. It was heartbreaking to have to make that decision and I really miss her. She was so funny and so sweet.

I miss her little face so much and DD17 is distraught :(

moonypadfootprongs, you poor love. My heart goes out to you and I hope you have someone you are sharing this with. I understand the wanting to go to sleep and never wake up. It all feels like a bad dream to me.

I understand. I'm self employed and my work has almost completely dried up over the last few months and I'm getting really scared.

Much love and strength to everyone. I am struggling and haven't told a soul because it involves health problems that no one can solve. In the younger members of the family which makes it worse. It's so unfair young ones suffering. DH also v stressed at work. I feel like I am the filling in a sandwich right now.

I too want to go to sleep sometimes and never wake up.

That's horrible @moonypadfootprongs and also what I'm facing if things go badly.

So sorry about your lovely horses too, can you visit them?

Sending love to everyone here. This is a really special thread x

I cant advise anyone, I cant solve anything, and I have no way to help.

Please do know that I am reading all of your posts and offering the only things I can, empathy and listening ear.

We aren't supposed to deal with things alone.