If you're going through stressful times at the moment and can't talk to anyone irl about it for one reason or another...

[AmberGer]

Then let this thread be a support to you.
You don't have to disclose anything that you're not comfortable with.
I am also going through a lot at the moment that I can't talk to anyone about. It's deeply isolating.
I am procrastinating at the moment when I should be doing my housework.
Which doesn't help but I am making progress with some things. I have been more forgetful lately as I have been dealing with so much.
For the first time in my life I'm trying to be more organised and putting everything in my phone calendar. It helps to deal with one thing at a time and I can see what I need to do each day.
I hope this thread can be helpful to others in similar situations

@Threeyearoldhelp3 it may well be his age.
Distraction is a tactic I used loads when my dc were little and I could see their behaviour escalating.
3 year olds are hard to reason with though and they have cast iron wills that can't be swayed.

I want to leave my attentive, kind, loving, supportive husband because he doesn’t have a job. And because if i talk to him about it he goes into a depression lasting weeks. I’m supposed to be good at this shit - work in related field. I can’t talk to anyone about it because I don’t want to be judged by them. And also because I don’t intend to actually leave him. Just keep drifting on and watching him drift on with completely false hope of it ever actually changing.

My son was recently diagnosed with type 1 diabetes and I’m not coping with it. People think diabetes is manageable and nothing to worry about but they don’t understand the relentlessness and exhaustion that comes with it. To make things worse my DH is annoyed with me because I’m struggling to keep my anxiety under control but really I just need him to put his arm around me and tell me that it will all be OK. On the up side, I’ve booked myself some CBT starting next week and I’ve got high hopes that it’ll give me some positive coping strategies.

I'm sorry ❤️
We're here if you need to talk about it. Or if you feel you can't my dm's always open.

I'm joining. I need to be strong and carry on putting one foot in front of the other but the last few months have been hard.

That sounds terrible. I'm sorry they're treating you so bad.
I hope the case goes in your favour.
Take the time to get yourself better ❤️

Having a job in that field is irrelevant. It's totally different when you've got so many personal emotions involved.
It's also hard when we can see what's going to be the best for someone but due to one thing or another they can't see it themselves.
It's even harder to continue to be supportive when you feel like your advice isn't being taken.

I'm sorry to hear about your son. I work with children with type 1 and they amaze me how well they cope with it. I often have them come up to me and say 'I'm beeping' and then have to be dealt with.
The adults often find it harder that the children themselves and I'm glad you will be receiving C.B.T. it really does help!

I’m just burnt out, both physically and emotionally.
I’m a single parent, working every hour god sends in a job that I hate to make ends meet - last Friday I did a 16 hour shift, finished at 2am, and my kids’ dad was banging on my door at 8am to drop the kids back home to me.
I’m dealing with an ongoing police investigation (I’m the victim not the perpetrator) that seems to be getting nowhere.
Still dealing with the fallout of a really difficult break up a few months ago. There was a very traumatic event during that time that I don’t think I’ll ever truly be able to put to bed.
And everyone around me seems to be dying. I’ve lost 3 friends and 2 family members since the start of 2022 and that amount of grief just feels like I’m drowning in it.
I think I’m passed the point of stress now, and have just learned to switch of my emotions entirely and just be numb to all of it.

My "recovered " addict brother has moved home and now I'm banished from my mother's home. I'm sat here waiting for the shit show to begin and for the truth of why he moved home so suddenly to finally emerge. I'm sure what ever mess he got himself into will follow him home. I could really do without this all exploding

Sorry you're struggling OP and everyone else on the thread. Sending support to all💐

I am also going through a break up with DP who has given up trying and moved out. I am now struggling on my own with DC, new job and stressed about the future. I do have people to talk to but finding it hard opening up. I am so angry at him for giving up on us and feel very alone a lot of the time and drained both physically and emotionally.

Someone close to me has just died and I'm bereft. My mother much prefers one of my siblings and it's in my face in a way it isn't normally. She isn't being very nice to me, despite my making huge efforts to help with various arrangements.

We can't sell our house due to the economy although we'd really like to move as we don't want to live here any more. Fucking government.

I have a job but I'd really like to stop working - I'm 59 in a month - but I can't as mine is the only income. My husband is following his dream which doesn't bring in any money. I'm not sure when I'll get to follow mine, probably never. I am crying a lot and some nights I am awake for several hours in the night. I've just read this back and told myself to get a grip. I am also drinking too much, eating shit and therefore I look shit too.

@cornishlassie similar situation here but I went off sick before full burnout. Had occ health assessment today and found the reason for referral isn’t how they can support me back to work but underperformance.
Been in the organisation 10hrs plus.

Life goes through moments like that.
I feel like that too right now.
I just keep looking for the small positives in each day and try to keep cheerful. If I dwell too much on what's happening I feel overwhelmed.
I have just eaten a jive bar. That's cheered me up for a little while. I might watch a film later. Small steps ♡

I'm having chemo for breast cancer, and I whole heartedly agree with you that waiting for the biopsy results is the worst. The not knowing. I really hope you don't have to wait long for them and that your husband gets negative results. It is very isolating as we didn't tell anyone apart from my parents until I had the results for the same reason as you. I hope you're looking after yourself too, because being the person that has to support is alot too.

That's awful. 😔

After years plodding on as a single mum- and years on and off OLD- I finally met someone. Someone on my wavelength, who really "got" me, someone funny, incredible fun to be with, creative, we fancied the socks off each other- and he was really into me. Oh, and local, with friends in common.

Then he told me his XW has made an accusation of sexual assault against him. He says it's not true. But then he would say that either way, wouldn't he?

I had to break it off, obviously. But it's been 2 months, and I still think of him constantly. I always thought that if I ever got a sniff of someone possibly being a sexual predator, that would be it. Lights out. Dead to me. Looks like it didn't work like that ☹.

Obviously, I can't tell anybody this in real life.

Just reading through all the posts. So sorry for all the things that you're all going through. Sending hugs and positive thoughts to everyone.

Sending everyone love . I can't write on here what is stressing me out because I just told a friend IRL and I don't want her to spot me on here. I'm sorry for all the troubles everyone has, but it does help to know we aren't alone, even if you are all strangers on the internet :)

Thank you for this. I really need a vent, but there's nothing anyone can do in the way of advice.

I am a single parent , I have 4 dc, I have cancer for the second time. I have NOBODY in the world to help. Last time my teens helped out too much with my younger ones. Their dad isn't around at all off parenting someone else's kids and he was abusive, hence my need to move from everything and everyone I knew and haven't really made friends here in the last few years, I had to give up work, I can barely cope with this cost of living crisis, my house is a shit tip, I've gained 5 stone in the last 3 years so am massively overweight, I cant do anything about it due to a disability caused by the last bout of cancer.

Life is shit, my kids deserve so much better, and there's no way out and no way forward.

So sorry for everyone else who is also going through shit right now. Life sucks so much sometimes.

So sorry you have this a second time, I have four kids too, and it's hard enough going through it with the support of my dh and family, so you are a seriously strong person to be getting yourself and them through it, you did the right thing moving away from that situation even if it is tough. Hugs to you x

Sending everyone that's posted lots of support & I'm so sorry you're all going through such hard times.

There are days when I just want to leave home. I had plans for me this year to go back to work, start doing something for me after many years out of the workplace. Then my DD became ill & I'm now her carer. My DH is amazing but works long hours, we have no family here & a few friends but none that close I can call on to help plus they don't get the impact it's having. My days are so lonely. I barely see or speak to another person aside from my DD or DH in the evening. I'm too tired for any evening activity. I'm shrivelling inside but I can't let anyone see it because there's absolutely nothing to be done to change the current situation. When I go out to walk the dogs I just don't want to go back into the house just keep on walking to the top of a hill & just sit there, indefinitely.

I am waiting for a painful medical test that could reveal I have cancer, or something else that restricts fertility. Icing on the cake of a very hard year so far, although I am lucky to have a wonderful partner and kind family.

Can't tell anyone except DP as what is the point really. Falling behind at work because of time out for previous medical tests and how preoccupied I am feeling. Not sure what to tell my boss.

This feels so minor compared to some of you but I need a moan...
I'm just so sooo very tired :(
I'm pregnant with baby 2, very much wanted and planned, but I seem to have forgotten how shit I found pregnancy last time, and I'm just tired and in pain all the time (hypermobile joints, with SPD is a bad combo). We all had some horrible cold thing last week, and I spent 2 whole days in bed! I am very rarely sick! I ended up on antibiotics for a chest infection and tbh don't feel much better now.
I also started a new job 2 weeks ago so trying to do well at that plus finish some stuff off for the old job... I just need about a week in bed

I'm not really actively stressed anymore but I am still low after a terrible 18 months and I feel like I cannot keep on talking about it to friends