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Things you can never say out loud in real life as you'll hurt the feelings of someone you like....

601 replies

hatetheplayernotthegame · 16/10/2022 23:01

...stop buying puppies from breeders FFS.

So sick of people popping up with the latest - inevitably moustachiod dull as fuck doodle - puppy that they've bought from some back yard breeder.

I love dogs. The people who do this never seem to really like dogs much, if they did they'd consider adopting one of the gazillions dumpbed post-lockdown (bought by moustachio-doodle loving twats just like them).

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AngelinaFibres · 17/10/2022 08:20

You're not a quirky, bohemian one off who doesn't live by societies norms. You are a selfish ,self absorbed cunt and your children have such enormous MH problems because they live a life that is a totally chaotic mess.

Maslinka · 17/10/2022 08:25

@DontGoBreakingMyHeart he sounds like he loves you very much and thinks you're awesome.

I think it would be fine to say to him what you've said to us, personally. I don't think it should hurt his feelings.

DreamingOfSoftWhiteSand · 17/10/2022 08:26

hatetheplayernotthegame · 16/10/2022 23:01

...stop buying puppies from breeders FFS.

So sick of people popping up with the latest - inevitably moustachiod dull as fuck doodle - puppy that they've bought from some back yard breeder.

I love dogs. The people who do this never seem to really like dogs much, if they did they'd consider adopting one of the gazillions dumpbed post-lockdown (bought by moustachio-doodle loving twats just like them).

YES!!!

MissingNashville · 17/10/2022 08:29

You are a cunt and I hope you get ran over by a bus on your way home. You are absolute scum and we are all judging you.

Thats to the dog breeders that bring their dogs to us when they’re no longer useful as breeding machines, who lie about their reasons for giving up the dog.

I’m not nice to them but I can’t say what I’m thinking, we all do that later when they’ve left. I don’t hold my tongue anywhere else anymore, I would definitely tell someone (and have), to stop buying puppies.

RosesAndHellebores · 17/10/2022 08:30

To mother: your husband is a lazy bigoted idiot and I couldn't care less if I never saw him again. You do realise that dd actually dreads visiting or your visits. And no, if you die first, I certainly won't be visiting him.let alone caring for him.

Also to mother: No, my childhood wasn't perfect and certainly wasn't better than my children's I wasn't the child you wanted: not pretty enough, not girly enough, not false enough.

To half of my colleagues: FFS did you not learn grammar at school. If I see I myself in an email again I am minded to teach you the basics personally.

Clawdy · 17/10/2022 08:33

Shut up going on about your health issues, I'm not interested.

Stop telling boring stories about your long ago career, I've listened to it all before.

Pumpkin20222 · 17/10/2022 08:34

I am sure my Rob (name changed) is on the ASD spectrum - the rigidity, the meltdowns if he did not get his own way, the awkwardness and the stress of going anywhere as a family. As parents you should have got him help, or at least not resisted efforts by teachers to get intervention. He needed help, not being told he was superior to everyone else. This pantomime of pretending Rob was normal wrecked my childhood and leaves anxiety today. After every ruined trip he would be furious and lash out. As soon as kicks landed on me you would also start yelling at me for 'upsetting Rob and ruining the day'. It was frightening to be a young child, trying to be good and being attacked for talking, looking to the side of the car where Rob sat, or for sometimes for no reason at all. Rob is also a bully and uses this fear to get his own way; he still gets away with it.

Rob's children also show strong signs of being on the ASD spectrum. You may think you are protecting them by pretending everything is normal, but it is painful to see their anxiety build and them become more and more isolated as they get older. I would love the cousins to have a great relationship with each other, but unfortunately Rob's children don't play well with other kids (one kicks other kids and then watches the reaction, the other can't stand noise and shouts an insult over and over). It would still be good all round to be able to build a relationship between them and I was willing to do all the work. But, it stops here. I am not going to risk my child being kicked and insulted, while his grandparents try to ignore it so as not to upset Rob and then pretend nothing happened. The difficult behaviour is one thing, but I genuinely want to help. What makes it impossible is the crazy denials and the damage done by this form of gaslighting.

therubbiliser · 17/10/2022 08:35

You and your family are weak characters. Your parents behaved narcissistically and misogynistically following the abuse of their daughters, including me. You too haven’t behaved morally or with any integrity when you were put in that challenging situation.

Why on Earth would I care about anything you have to say about me, about my character or about the moral situation you found yourself failing in?

I see you for what you are and I prefer to take my advice from people who have good morals, good character and behave with integrity.

WanderingDreamingSpires · 17/10/2022 08:35

LightDrizzle · 16/10/2022 23:49

I hope not! I haven’t name-changed for this and outing would be awful. Nobody knows just how bitchy my internal commentaries are!

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Could this person be autistic? My brother is and this is absolutely what he does. It can be…trying.

pictish · 17/10/2022 08:37

Looks like you’ve put on all the weight I’ve lost.

For context this former friend treated me abysmally.
We were both very overweight at the time. I have since succeeded in losing it all through good diet and exercise. She has steadily gained.
It won’t say anything good about me to admit this pleases me greatly but in truth, it does. I know it will annoy the fuck out of her. Lalalaallaaa…

OMG12 · 17/10/2022 08:38

How the fuck did you manage to get dressed this morning?

HailAdrian · 17/10/2022 08:41

I don't care about your irritating kid.

Defender90 · 17/10/2022 08:41

Your 'D'H is an abusive, controlling cocklodger and it breaks my heart to see how his treatment of you has turned you into a shell of your former self.

MorrisZapp · 17/10/2022 08:42

Professional footballers 'sign' for a team. Twelve year olds do not, they just join in. My son is doing as well as yours at footie, as are lots of kids. It's a hobby so enjoy it for what it is, no need to alert the nation when he 'transfers'.

pictish · 17/10/2022 08:44

MorrisZapp · 17/10/2022 08:42

Professional footballers 'sign' for a team. Twelve year olds do not, they just join in. My son is doing as well as yours at footie, as are lots of kids. It's a hobby so enjoy it for what it is, no need to alert the nation when he 'transfers'.

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Alohamo · 17/10/2022 08:45

PIL, thanks for moving 200 miles away so you "wouldn't have to do childcare" and for completely disengaging with DH and our children. He finds it so hurtful that you don't want to be involved or show any interest. I will be sure to return exactly the same amount of help when you need it.

Alohamo · 17/10/2022 08:47

Just realised this is supposed to be to someone you like... in which case.. DSis the dungarees make you look like an overgrown toddler but I still love you!

BobSacamono · 17/10/2022 08:50

I’m really really hoping your DD doesn’t go to the same secondary school as mine.

upinaballoon · 17/10/2022 08:52

In a general way I think there's something the matter with the egos of all people who feel the need to have their initials on their number plates, but as I quite like you and we've got on well for all these years, I won't say anything.

SugerNiner · 17/10/2022 08:52

Your son is a nightmare. I love most children but I abhor him. He is a result of your terrible parenting. You don't listen to anybody and this child will grow up with just as many issues as you. I will always be kind to him but I deliberately make sure I spend very little time with him.

PinkPalaceinthesky · 17/10/2022 08:54

I told you you would fuck your kids up by making the selfish life choices you did.

Not doing "fine" now are they?

It's all on you.

Eatmycake3333 · 17/10/2022 08:55

When I’m looking at your social media accounts, it’s like it’s a different person. As in real life the folk who know you the best eg family. Know you as an attention seeking, jealous, bad tempered, crabit bugger. Plus maybe visit your house bound mother and stop leaving it up to my elderly parents and us to look out for her. I don’t mind helping as it’s my Aunty but come on visit your mother!!!!

PinkPalaceinthesky · 17/10/2022 08:57

This is actually a very cathartic thread, thanks for starting it OP.

I imagine this must be what confession feels like to Catholics.

redtshirt50 · 17/10/2022 08:59

I wish I could tell you all the horrible, disgusting things your son has done.

The way he treats women. How he has made his money. The lies he has told.

Kimya · 17/10/2022 08:59

Admittedly I didn't notice the entire title was that it would hurt the feelings of someone you LIKE but I sense from some of the other replies I'm not alone in that!