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Things you can never say out loud in real life as you'll hurt the feelings of someone you like....

601 replies

hatetheplayernotthegame · 16/10/2022 23:01

...stop buying puppies from breeders FFS.

So sick of people popping up with the latest - inevitably moustachiod dull as fuck doodle - puppy that they've bought from some back yard breeder.

I love dogs. The people who do this never seem to really like dogs much, if they did they'd consider adopting one of the gazillions dumpbed post-lockdown (bought by moustachio-doodle loving twats just like them).

OP posts:
antelopevalley · 17/10/2022 00:06

Please stop complaining about not having enough money. Just get a job or accept by not working you do not have as much money as you want.

I feel so sorry that you are going to have a lot of regrets in the future about your very limited life. I know you want to do lots more but won't do anything without your very anxious partner. Which means you do little. That would be fine if you were happy, but I know you are not.

Your Facebook posts about how wonderful your partner is and how much in love you both are is fooling no one. We all know that your partner really is not that nice and you deserve much better.

HeadacheEarthquake · 17/10/2022 00:08

Celebrityskint · 17/10/2022 00:06

It’s could’ve or could have. Not could of

Oh yes!

I'll add "It's BOUGHT. NOT BROUGHT" and you're, not your.

bringincrazyback · 17/10/2022 00:08

It's so touching the way you plaster your social media feeds with whatever virtue-signalling be-kind wokery happens to be doing the rounds at any given time. I wonder how many of your followers would ever guess that you're the sort of person who ends a friendship because someone wasn't paying them enough attention while their parent was dying.

Twillow · 17/10/2022 00:19

The real reason I don't come over anymore is that it was making me feel so miserable being trapped having to listen to your lengthy and often repeated stories of woe. It was hard to get a word in edgeways and despite your asking for help you always did things your own sweet way anyway, inevitably leading to more tales of woe. The last straw was your hysteria over the neighbours harmlessly trimming the bushes on their own side of the wall. Now I actually understand why your family has pretty much abandoned you. I don't wish you any ill, and I'm sad that you'll never wake up to why people start to get fed up with you, but I am choosing not to waste any more of my precious time.

groupg · 17/10/2022 00:20

Name changed

I don't forgive you. I think your children are feral and I make excuses so I don't have to been inflicted by your company. You always brag and try and bring others down, when the reality is your let your kids run wild and are so selfish.

You make out your husband is amazing when he tried to cheat on you and is controlling. He is even more selfish then you.

I wish I never had to see you again, but unfortunately that is not possible. So I sit and nod quietly, knowing your a pathological liar and hoping I don't see you again for a while.

Shhhdontsay · 17/10/2022 00:24

Psychotherapy is the work of the devil.

tensmumm · 17/10/2022 00:30

Put your children before your social, dating and sex life.

You constantly fail to understand your own children's communication, get help for your own difficulties instead of causing them developmental harm by responding to them the way you do. Your restricted diet is your problem, don't push it on to your children. Your anxiety and sleep issues are your issues, stop putting them on your children. Stop living above your means and expecting the government to pay for it.

You're a terrible pet owner.

RandomCatGenerator · 17/10/2022 00:31

Please be nicer to your son. He’s a nice boy and he’s going to be scared of you otherwise.

Pantspiewithvodka · 17/10/2022 00:31

He's not clever, he's full of shit and he's impacting your lives negatively. You just can't see it because he was nicer to you than the people who raised you. Also while you're scraping food together at home he's spending money you don't have on snacks. There's a reason he's the only overweight one in the house. You'd both be better off away from him.

Biffatcrafts · 17/10/2022 00:35

It drives me nuts that you come round to "see how I am" then drink all my wine, talk about yourself and your problems (mostly caused because you are so flipping disorganised and careless) for as long as the wine supply lasts, then bugger off without ever actually asking how I am doing 😡

And it drives me even more nuts that I keep letting you get away with it 😩

happinessischocolate · 17/10/2022 00:42

Leave your shitty husband ffs. I've only met him briefly once, but watching the awful sneering look on your sons face when he's speaking to you makes it clear exactly what his father is like. You are doing your ds no favours as no one likes him, as he speaks like that to his classmates like that too.

AcrossthePond55 · 17/10/2022 00:43

It's cruel to keep two nice men dangling on your hook, even though you don't care overmuch for either of them, simply because they are 'handy around the house'. It's not nice to insinuate promises of a future that you have no intention of keeping simply to keep them doing your DIY. You can afford to pay someone to do it.

And no, the world doesn't owe your two adult children a living. If they want to keep their jobs they have to, you know, show up and work.

travellinglighter · 17/10/2022 00:46

It’s a dog, it doesn’t understand or care when you explain what it’s done wrong in a squeaky voice and it makes me grind my teeth.

happinessischocolate · 17/10/2022 00:52

Biffatcrafts · 17/10/2022 00:35

It drives me nuts that you come round to "see how I am" then drink all my wine, talk about yourself and your problems (mostly caused because you are so flipping disorganised and careless) for as long as the wine supply lasts, then bugger off without ever actually asking how I am doing 😡

And it drives me even more nuts that I keep letting you get away with it 😩

Sounds like you've met my ex best friend 😁

When she turns up, hide your wine, say you're just about to go out or just do what I did and tell her she's a selfish knobhead

Vecna · 17/10/2022 00:54

Your perfume is much too strong. Is my opening a window in my air-conditioned car really that subtle?

Close your fucking mouth when you eat. It's disgusting and inconsiderate, and the noise fills me with rage.

I know he's likely autistic, but that's not everything. Give the boy some boundaries, if for no other reason he'll feel cared for. Treat foods are no substitute for attention. Stop being lazy and utterly vacant. And put your phone down once in a while.

You've told me this and every other story several times now. I know you know that. You just think I don't remember. Don't get offended when I tell you you've told me and say "oh I'm boring you" in your typical passive aggressive manner. I hate humouring you and I don't understand why anyone would want that.

Stop trying to garner sympathy. It has the exact opposite effect to what you're going for. Why do you want people to pity you?

Opine · 17/10/2022 00:56

It’s isn’t your medication making you fat it’s the copious amounts I witness you eat every single time I see you. Were it true that it’s your painkillers you wouldn’t lose weight every time you start going to the Gym & eating less.
Have any body shape you like but stop insulting everyone’s intelligence with that silly tale.

Biffatcrafts · 17/10/2022 00:59

Oh my, so sorry you had one like that too @happinessischocolate and i do so wish I could say that to her. I just keep hoping that she will realise how self absorbed she is, or that she will soon notice that I am saying less and less to her during each visit.

Meseekslookatme · 17/10/2022 01:03

Grow a backbone, get some resilience and actually take some fucking responsibility for yourself.
The world doesn't owe you a living and I am sick of hearing how much of a struggle your life is. Do something about it or shut up.

Improvising · 17/10/2022 01:14

You're a lazy parent. Pay more attention to your children because their behavior is getting worrying and you don't spend enough time with them to notice.
You might be young, but you chose to rush into it all. We all recommended you waited until you were stable. Don't be a dick to me because I waited until we were settled.
Grow up!

Cameleongirl · 17/10/2022 01:23

Please start considering how your demanding behavior affects your elderly parents. They’re in their 80’s and it’s time you did a few things for them, instead of vice versa.

Puffalicious · 17/10/2022 01:34

You are utterly shit at your job. You only got the job as you talk a good game. You are doing a massive disservice to the people you're supposed to help, and you bully those below you. You are also lazy and full of your own self importance. I loathe you. Thank fuck you're not my boss.

Your daughter has damaged her children . She has. The lack of attachment will affect them for the rest of their lives. It's not your fault at all, but you were too soft with your daughter growing up and you're too soft with her children now. I can see it all repeating itself.

Sister, stop suffocating DN. Let her fly her wings. She will only go if you push her- she needs to be her own person.

isntthisabitodd · 17/10/2022 01:34

Please stop talking about your children all the time. Nobody else is that interested!

isntthisabitodd · 17/10/2022 01:36

Go and visit your elderly parent!

Delphinium20 · 17/10/2022 01:42

Your kid isn't quirky, he's just a jerk. It's not quirky to take all the cake pieces and dump them on your plate after running to be first in line to eat. He's 17. He should know better.

Cameleongirl · 17/10/2022 01:55

@Puffalicious Your post made me think of something I’d like to say to a lovely friend, but never will.

I know you have the best intentions, but your over-anxious parenting is stifling for your DD. You need to stop worrying so much and step back abit, she’s a young adult now.

But I really don’t want to hurt your feelings by telling you this- and neither do our mutual friends.

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