Things you can never say out loud in real life as you'll hurt the feelings of someone you like....

[hatetheplayernotthegame]

...stop buying puppies from breeders FFS.

So sick of people popping up with the latest - inevitably moustachiod dull as fuck doodle - puppy that they've bought from some back yard breeder.

I love dogs. The people who do this never seem to really like dogs much, if they did they'd consider adopting one of the gazillions dumpbed post-lockdown (bought by moustachio-doodle loving twats just like them).

You'd look SO MUCH BETTER with your hair cut into a bob

Your loungeroom would look better with a right-sized rug and a small rearrangement of furniture. (I really, really, really want to wizard this person's home so badly!!)

No, starting at your phone then occasionally growling instructions at your children does not count as parenting.

I’m sorry I didn’t ask how the dentist went for you. As you know you were picking me up from my cancer diagnosis. I know you can’t help yourself but it’s frustrating and hurtful sometimes. Whilst we are at it, please stop telling everyone that you do all the cooking and cleaning. I can’t remember the last time you cooked and if you cleaned the place would be - well cleaner. And tidier. Oh tidy, how I miss you. Yes I know it’s my stuff but I don’t just leave it there. You know, like the sweatshirt that’s been stuffed down the side of the sofa for a week! Ffs you are funny, clever and loving but your bpd can be bloody hard work.

It's bought not brought. You did not bring your coat to next. You bought it there.

Maybe if you actually did some fucking work instead of moaning all day how busy you are, making personal calls and generally time wasting you'd actually get somewhere.

Another one, not just me.

Dearest friend,

I know why you decided to cut me & some of our other friends out of your life. Your abusive husband hates us because we see him for what he is and he knows it. So you had a choice between telling him that you would still be friends with us and paying for it, or ghosting us and keeping him happy. You chose the latter because you aren't ready to leave him and probably never will be ready. We understand but we miss you terribly. You are fun, you are open-hearted, and you have so much to give to the world but he must keep you all to himself.

We pray that you'll come back to us. We will be here waiting for you, always. No questions asked, no "we told you so" (well maybe one or two).

Love,
The Gang

Heartbreaking but keep on being there just in case x

Stop telling me to get over it, that I should be over it.

I'll decide when I am over it, and I don't think it will be any time soon! It's absolutely nothing to do with you!!

There's a wonderful quote from the movie "Tootsie" said by a character who was just dumped: "Don't tell me how to feel! I'm gonna feel this way until I don't feel this way anymore!!".

No one has the right to tell us how to feel, what to feel, or when to stop feeling it!

Wise words, so true. People have been trying to tell me how to feel all my life. Now I'm older I don't allow it to affect me, but it really messed with my head when younger.

Mum, you seem to have decided to punish me forever for not being an affectionate child by refusing to ever say you love me. It hurts.

Yes, my DIL of 9 years and we always got along so well, genuinely.

She's a mumsnetter; when their daughter was born she decided she only wanted her mum there after the birth. My son wasn't happy with this as he wanted me and his 3 sisters to meet his daughter too.

She came on MN and was overwhelmingly told 'your body, your baby' and 'tell your DH to tell his family to butt out - she grew a human being.,not him' and the all time MN FAVOURITE 'you have a DH problem'. Being a good husband, he asked me to stay away until she was comfy so I didn't get to see them.

She has no idea how hurt I was, especially after we'd
Been so close previously.

I just wanted them to feel happy and supported without overstepping boundaries.

Daft thing was, she knew/knows I also use MN as we have a used to find jokey references to each other on threads.

I really dislike the way MILs are potrt|ayed on MN.

You are the most selfish and self centred person I have ever come across but I love you and what you are doing to me is nothing short of torture.

@justanotherdowntroddenmass I'm sorry you're in a bad place .

sending strength and love x

Hey friend - are you seriously going to use your gorgeous little dog to make you some money? Let this litter be the only one, ever!

Stop showing off so much. It's not impressive but simply makes you look insecure!

I hope you can live with what you've done you selfish manipulative bitch.

I love your eldest child. He is a lovely person and however he wishes to express himself, whatever clothes he wears, or name he has chosen, is fine with me - why wouldn't it be? I am sad that he couldn't find peace in his body without surgery, and live his life as a feminine gay man, and I hope the path he has chosen gives him peace and happiness. Don't expect me to think it is ok that he chose to go to a supposed female-only college and ride rough-shod over the wishes of young women who may have wanted a single-sex accomodation. I think that is despicable and selfish. And by the way, having a child with gender dysphoria doesn't make you cool and special.

You don't need to hear condolences from me, and I doubt I'm a person any of you wants to hear from. Our marriage got off to a catastrophic start, I chose to leave him after a short time, and at the time I paid for that with almost the entirety of our close circle of acquaintances. This I can understand.

I don't want to cause anyone a moment's more grief than necessary. I don't want to make his death in any way about me. But I'm so sad for you all: the parents facing the heartache of losing their child, his beloved wife - the right wife this time - the wider family and for all the friends he'd known throughout his life who valued and loved him. He was a good man and I suspect like everyone else he's ever known I have not one bad word to say about him. We were simply not the right partners for each other, we couldn't communicate, and our relationship didn't work out.

It's been a very long time and contacting you would not be appropriate. But I do care. I loved him once, and the news of his tragic and untimely death has horrified me. I grieve with you, despite the fact that you don't know.

I'm so sorry.

@MarieIVanArkleStinks that was a beautiful post. I'm so very sorry for your loss 💐

You are so bloody selfish and thoughtless, not to mention thick. Insisting on hosting Christmas when you knew you were germ-laden was so typically stupid of you. I'm not the only one who is coughing, spluttering and struggling to breathe now. And you have no idea how horrible it is to feel like that when you're on your own. You haven't texted me once to ask how I am, to see if I'm still breathing.

One day you will probably be widowed like me and we'll all be expected to run around after you (not much change there, then) and maybe, just maybe you'll realise just how bloody horrible life can be for others. You love throwing your weight around as it makes you feel good. All you've really got going for you is your loud mouth and by heck, what a gob it is.

And what makes me feel so bloody clever? Standing next to you.

@HeadacheEarthquake , and it’s etc., not ect, FFS! Short for et cetera.

Just because you don't lead typical life, aka no full time job, but instead creative self-employment, doesn't mean you live fuller and better. You're tied to mortgage and car repayments like all of us. You're just trying to sell spiritual things for living. It's no different to being full time employee who wants to make money for same sort of stuff. At the end of day, we all need roof over our heads and food in the fridge.

Me, me, me, me, me.

Yeh I can understand you DIL point of view.

I feel an imposter even thinking of this as 'my' loss. All the same that's very kind and I'm moved that you posted it: thank you.

I lied. I could have made it to your afternoon tea. I just didn't want to, because I effing hate afternoon tea.