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Things you can never say out loud in real life as you'll hurt the feelings of someone you like....

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hatetheplayernotthegame · 16/10/2022 23:01

...stop buying puppies from breeders FFS.

So sick of people popping up with the latest - inevitably moustachiod dull as fuck doodle - puppy that they've bought from some back yard breeder.

I love dogs. The people who do this never seem to really like dogs much, if they did they'd consider adopting one of the gazillions dumpbed post-lockdown (bought by moustachio-doodle loving twats just like them).

OP posts:
TinyBagEnergy · 18/10/2022 16:49

NooNooHead1981 · 18/10/2022 13:38

To my old best friend from school:
You hurt my feelings when you sent me that Christmas card with the messages in that you didn't have time to listen to my problems. I'd been through a lot of health issues after the birth of my daughter and it was taking its toll in multiple ways, emotionally and physically. I actually read something about postpartum hormones being similar to a mini menopause, and coupled with my low iron and worse movement disorder, I was a bit of a mess.

Yes, you were telling me tough love but it still hurt to hear that you didn't want to listen to me much and I'm still hurt by the fact you have little patience for others' physical pain in spite of being a medical professional.

I'm still struggling with different chronic symptoms and illnesses but haven't updated you since we last spoke. I know you didn't get my reasons for wanting to go to your birthday party last year with my daughter, but you said it was adult only and she had to stay behind if I came.

I guess we're just growing apart and haven't got as much in common any more. So sorry we have got to this stage, I guess you probably won't know how I really feel 😔

What a sh*t friend, I'm sorry she wasn't the pal you deserved 💐
I hope things get better for you x

NooNooHead1981 · 18/10/2022 16:59

@TinyBagEnergy thank you for your kind words. My old best friend was very sympathetic for a while but she is a single person and doesn't understand the implications of pregnancy, postpartum hormones, being a mum etc and I guess maybe I should have realised that when I was mostly moaning about my health for a long time. I think you're right, she should have probably been kinder.

GreyGoose1980 · 18/10/2022 17:37

WetLettuce2 · 17/10/2022 20:05

To my lovely nephew -

Your mother was always selfish, I loved her more than anyone in the world but it was always all about her. Rather than growing up when she had you at a young age, she continued to fritter away every opportunity and shit all over anyone who helped her. She had every chance to put you first and make a good life for both of you, but she brought any Tom, Dick or Harry into your life and your home and ultimately died by them both going on a drunken bender one sunny Sunday afternoon while you were (once again) left with me.
Im sorry it was your boring aunty who brought you up, I know your mum was more fun.

Even when he doesn’t show it, he knows you were always there for him and loves you for it.

Navigatingnewwaters · 18/10/2022 17:52

Furrybutts · 16/10/2022 23:33

Stop criticising my grandchildren's behaviour and take a long hard look at how badly behaved yours are.
I wouldn't dream of mentioning it to you, but when they get to school someone sure as hell will!

Do not tell me that your dog has chewed stuff up in your house again, when you never walk the poor thing.
You are a disgusting person who should not own a dog.

Doesn’t sound like you wouldn’t want to hurt their feelings 🤣🤣

ToffeeNotCoffee · 18/10/2022 22:03

Equating transness with being gay and/or having a disability is a false equivalence and is insulting to all of those groups of people you have mentioned.

This^

Newsflash, gay people aren't taking rights from other people, so it's completely different, and they have repeatedly asked to not be weaponised by the gender ideologues.

and this ^

Homosexuals do not ask a surgeon to mutilate their genitals as part of their journey of self discovery.

ToffeeNotCoffee · 18/10/2022 22:23

Black Face e.g. Black and White minstrel show back in the day.

Is NOT to be equated with the totally meaningless, 'Woman Face' that refers to drag.

The trans ideology and the anti-drag, 'Woman Face' woke brigade are insidious.

Drag artists are entertainers.

No one accuses Brendan O'Carroll e.g. Mrs Brown from Mrs Brown's Boys of this made up, meaningless, 'Woman Face.'

Or Lily Savage
Or Danny La Rue
Or Hinge and Bracket

Realign · 18/10/2022 22:52

ToffeeNotCoffee · 18/10/2022 22:23

Black Face e.g. Black and White minstrel show back in the day.

Is NOT to be equated with the totally meaningless, 'Woman Face' that refers to drag.

The trans ideology and the anti-drag, 'Woman Face' woke brigade are insidious.

Drag artists are entertainers.

No one accuses Brendan O'Carroll e.g. Mrs Brown from Mrs Brown's Boys of this made up, meaningless, 'Woman Face.'

Or Lily Savage
Or Danny La Rue
Or Hinge and Bracket

I mean there is a case for saying they are offensive as they reinforce gender stereotypes

Realign · 18/10/2022 22:53

Realign · 18/10/2022 22:52

I mean there is a case for saying they are offensive as they reinforce gender stereotypes

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The black and white minstrel show were entertainers too. I don't quite get your point

EndlessMagpies · 18/10/2022 22:58

You are the most self-centred, selfish person it has been my misfortune to have had as a so-called friend. Your ego is the size of Jupiter and your pride and self-confidence is so wearing as to be utterly insufferable. You treated us all as the spokes of your giant wheel and considered yourself the hub. You are a monstrous queen bee, and I finally saw through it all, and that is why I stopped having anything to do with you.

NooNooHead1981 · 18/10/2022 22:59

I wish that you could understand my pain, my heartache, my depression at being injured by a medication given to me by a "well meaning doctor". The embarrassing and uncomfortable involuntary movements that I now put up with because of this brain damage, the sadness I feel that I'll never be the same again, the worry that I have when taking another medication that it will become much worse.
Yes, I know you tried to understand what I'm going through. But you're never going to know the despair at losing your good health, the terror of post concussion syndrome and all its own horrible symptoms, the pain of having to adjust to cognitive and physical problems.

Yes, I've been well aware that I've become very self absorbed in the past 7 years. In my defence, I think anyone would if they had to adjust to a life changing and permanent neurological disorder. When you said to me once, "We can get back to normality soon" and "NooNoo's pulling an odd face" after I made an involuntary facial expression, I felt utter despair. I truly don't think that you like to see your daughter affected by these things, things she can't help, the daughter you so loved and wanted from the day you adopted me.

I'm sorry for all I've put you through. Thank you for your support and I hope you can forgive me for the worry I might have caused you.

oakleaffy · 19/10/2022 04:55

NooNooHead1981 · 18/10/2022 22:59

I wish that you could understand my pain, my heartache, my depression at being injured by a medication given to me by a "well meaning doctor". The embarrassing and uncomfortable involuntary movements that I now put up with because of this brain damage, the sadness I feel that I'll never be the same again, the worry that I have when taking another medication that it will become much worse.
Yes, I know you tried to understand what I'm going through. But you're never going to know the despair at losing your good health, the terror of post concussion syndrome and all its own horrible symptoms, the pain of having to adjust to cognitive and physical problems.

Yes, I've been well aware that I've become very self absorbed in the past 7 years. In my defence, I think anyone would if they had to adjust to a life changing and permanent neurological disorder. When you said to me once, "We can get back to normality soon" and "NooNoo's pulling an odd face" after I made an involuntary facial expression, I felt utter despair. I truly don't think that you like to see your daughter affected by these things, things she can't help, the daughter you so loved and wanted from the day you adopted me.

I'm sorry for all I've put you through. Thank you for your support and I hope you can forgive me for the worry I might have caused you.

Being adopted is hard enough.. The very fact a child has been adopted shows loss at an early age which can be very damaging on so many levels.

Reading your post, I thought you were talking of a partner, but an adoptive parent??
I’m fuming on your behalf.
What a selfish person your adoptive parent is. :(

NooNooHead1981 · 19/10/2022 08:15

@oakleaffy thank you, in my DM's defence, she has been a wonderful and very good adoptive parent, who is very kind. She isn't really that selfish, I think she was just struggling a lot probably watching me after I had a head injury and post concussion syndrome then was injured by the meds given. Maybe she felt helpless watching me? I think there's a lot of issues with my past that I need to come to terms with, but my birth mum died last year so it is what it is.😞

2020nymph · 19/10/2022 10:00

Crayfishforyou · 17/10/2022 10:39

Long covid is an illness, it is real. I am not lazy. There is no need to tinkly laugh and pity DH who has occasionally to do the dishwasher.
The fact that 90% of the time I can function normally does not mean I just have to push through and carry on if I get a relapse. If I did that, I would get worse. And it isn’t tiredness I feel, I sleep because it’s the only way I can escape from the symptoms.
SO FUCK YOU
deaf fucking ears, every time.

I have long covid too. The 'covid isn't that bad' crowd is fucking me right off! I'm doing the best I bloody can.

2018SoFarSoGreat · 19/10/2022 21:40

your post made me cry. I'm so sorry your parent was unable to see what you were going through, and to support you when you needed it.

2018SoFarSoGreat · 19/10/2022 21:41

2018SoFarSoGreat · 19/10/2022 21:40

your post made me cry. I'm so sorry your parent was unable to see what you were going through, and to support you when you needed it.

sorry, that was for @NooNooHead1981

NooNooHead1981 · 19/10/2022 21:54

@2018SoFarSoGreat oh bless you, that's really sweet and kind 💖 thank you, I hope you didn't feel too upset by my post. I have a lot to be grateful for in my life still but the amount of things I'd like to say truthfully to my loved ones who are sometimes gaslighting me wouldn't be very pretty 🤣 I am just living with it the best I can but some days, I feel so alone 😢💔

Songsareliketattoos · 20/10/2022 07:09

MrsRinaDecker · 17/10/2022 18:56

@WallabyWay I’ve actually started studying part time and joined a group related to my hobby.. really working on having stuff in my life beyond my “mum” role.

Hope all goes really well for you. You sound like a lovely person.

OhMaria2 · 20/10/2022 15:45

Crayfishforyou · 17/10/2022 10:39

Long covid is an illness, it is real. I am not lazy. There is no need to tinkly laugh and pity DH who has occasionally to do the dishwasher.
The fact that 90% of the time I can function normally does not mean I just have to push through and carry on if I get a relapse. If I did that, I would get worse. And it isn’t tiredness I feel, I sleep because it’s the only way I can escape from the symptoms.
SO FUCK YOU
deaf fucking ears, every time.

I've got Fibromyalgia and I feel your pain.
Tell your friend to fuck the fuck off. To learn about your chronic illness or do one.

mamabear715 · 20/10/2022 18:56

Stop flapping. Not everything is a catastrophe. Just bloody chill.

Bairnsmum05 · 20/10/2022 19:15

Stop moaning about how fucking tired you are. You work part time and have great family support. It's not a competition about who is more tired.

Washyourownfeet · 20/10/2022 19:21

Please stop bragging about your wonderful life on social media because your husband is shagging anyone with a pulse.

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 20/10/2022 22:28

I don't bring this up because I know you'll twist it.

Trust me, I get why being massively two faced works for you, but it's completely unfair and you must know it throws me right in the shit, and makes things worse for me, so thanks.

I was powering through knowing it was short term, which you knew. Did you tell me that tonight to upset me? We both think she won't be able to carry it on but now I have doubt. Why don't I get any say in this in the circumstances, why have I been left to just have to tolerate it for so long with no backing?

Have a word with yourself.

Daisybuttercup12345 · 20/10/2022 23:13

Why do you always stick your tongue out on every single photo, even at a funeral. You are nearly 40 ffs, not 14.
Grow up.

Changingplace · 20/10/2022 23:19

Just for once try and see the positive in something, anything, not everything has to be twisted into doom & gloom & dramatics, it’s exhausting.

lobsterkiller · 20/10/2022 23:59

You don't have any listening skills or self awareness, the constant whining is pissing everyone off. Stop complaining about lack of money when you have a better social life then everyone. Also stop with the corporate wank speak out of work.