Things you can never say out loud in real life as you'll hurt the feelings of someone you like....

[hatetheplayernotthegame]

...stop buying puppies from breeders FFS.

So sick of people popping up with the latest - inevitably moustachiod dull as fuck doodle - puppy that they've bought from some back yard breeder.

I love dogs. The people who do this never seem to really like dogs much, if they did they'd consider adopting one of the gazillions dumpbed post-lockdown (bought by moustachio-doodle loving twats just like them).

Person 1. Wondering if it's how clinical depression or just utter self-centredness showing through once the chips are down? (sorry it sounds awful, long backstory, I feel responsible for depressed people reading this and spiralling down instead of reaching out for people, please don't take it as such!)

Person 2, another friend complaining why I am not whatsapping her as much and why I haven't checked in with her for months: You are almost 40, never held down a job despite you being educated and non-disabled, childfree, relying on parents and husband enabling you, all you do is random twittering about being autistic, ADHD, bisexual and participating in cancel culture, now you have the excuse of long Covid, not even large following to show for it. Maybe it's nothing to do with your being homebody, more victim mentality and your propensity for burning bridges with anyone who once upon touched your raw nerve and only family is your social life. I am sorry I got you wrong before, I'm sorry life is a struggle, I am not really interested in 'real you'.

She’s not on any Facebook debate groups is she I feel I have argued with old people like that in the past lol

Your lefty, atheist, inclusively woke credentials fall to pieces when you cynically get your 10 year old christened in order to get him into the Christian, selective school; coveted for its Hogwarts style buildings and posh uniform, and which, by its nature, excludes great swathes of local children. White, middle class civil servants like you, lecturing others on race, class and gender bias, when you have experienced none of these things, are the reason this country is going to the shit heap - you are completely out of touch with the people you purport to protect. Hoarding your massive inheritances from the last couple of years and complaining about inheritance tax isn't very left wing, is it.

Your obese, pre-school child finishing of a whole packet of biscuits isn't cute or funny.

Work colleague. I know what you did and I'm coming for you.

Yes, another of your human slaves has fed you already. Stop looking at me like that.

Virtual signalling is not a thing.

You are reaping what you saw. Despite being told , you worked PT for years , with no kids because you were not physically able . No , not able to drink every night , gym obsessed and still work . Yet expect a unrealistic lifestyle. Guess you thought I would bail you out but my circumstances have changed and you have no sympathy.
I will inherit and I know you will be so angry . I dread your reaction although I don't think you will get any support as I have had total caring responsibility for him for over 4 years now.

And to add to the other post I made - your husband looks dead behind the eyes in those pics you took this weekend you selfish numpty

I say it in my head all the time and sometimes out loud in my car alone.
I make sure me or DH is ALWAYS there.

Why is it always about YOU? You'll ask me how I am and what I've been getting up to. I tell you. Then for my 5 minute story you counteract with a detailed 30 minute one. Its boringly self-centred.

I know you do.

Vegans ALWAYS tell you.

I detest your dog and it puts me off visiting your house. I do not wish to be jumped up at (with sharp claws raking my legs), slobbered on, nagged to play and then nipped when I ignore it. Either train it to behave, or put it outside.

No, working for a charity does not make you a good person. That massive salary you take home for doing next to fuck all, and being a self declared lazy git at work, is made up of the hard earned cash and generosity of the people you look down on for working in the private sector. We all know that those work conferences you go on (again, paid for by donors) has nothing to do with your interest in the people you purport to help, and everything to do with wanting a free, booze filled jolly in an exotic location.

Oh my God so many.

I love you but I don’t really like you very much. Stop dramatising everything and think of other people sometimes.

You are treating your daughters differently to your son and if I can see it so will they.

Stop telling me how much money other people have all the time. I really don’t care. I am not interested one jot

Stop moaning to me how much it affects you that your mother favours your sister over you, when you obviously favoured my sibling's children over mine. Stop telling me about the little sleepovers, days out and mini breaks you have treated my nephews to when you only babysat my (now independent) dc once. I love you, but when you need extra help in the not too distant future, I will make sure it will be my sisters providing the bulk of it.

Your wife (SIL) is a manipulative, domineering control freak. You need to man up and say boo to a goose occasionally.

I told you I didn't have a problem with you. I did skim over the fact that I have a lot in my plate at present, to which you replied "we all do!" That's right I forgot YOUR problems are the worst and no one e has had such a shitty life as you. Any conversation always turns back to you, how fabulous you are, how your ex begs for you to come back, etc etc.
If that wasn't bad enough you then ignore me and bad mouth me to everyone else about how I didn't answer my phone or your messages....ffs grow up you're mid 50's not a fucking teenager!

MIL I like you, but, not everyone parents in the same way as you and that’s ok. I think it’s awful that you put your kids in their own rooms at 2 weeks old but I’d never say that to you, I know you called my DH trying yo persuade us to do the same, stop giving unwanted advice, especially when you can’t take people giving you advice as you are never wrong 🙄 , stop pretending you kids had a perfect childhood and you did no wrong, swallow your pride and tell your son, occasionally, what a great job he’s doing as a parent, stop being emotionally unavailable and complaining your kids never contact you when you moved away without Discussing it with them, it’s a two way street you know! You never call your son. It is obvious to me that your daughter is the favourite child, by the way you talk about your children. E.g one wants to change jobs, we get worried calls saying he needs to sort his life out etc, daughter gets a new job and it’s brillInt. All your children do well, praise them ALL for it! You were a mug for running round after your husband doing all the childcare, cooking, cleaning, when your kids were young, this is not a good marriage and I’m glad your son my DH is so helpful with the kids, despite his upbringing and the example set by you. A couple of truely shocking anecdotes have come out about things you did to your son as a child (overpowering him and hitting him) but you would just deny it if I ever brought it up! Despite all this you are a fab grandmother and can be fun and good company so I keep my mouth shut!

I love you both and you're the best inlaws I could have asked for but hugs with anyone other than my kids and husband is so upsetting. You wouldn't understand if I said please don't ever touch me. You're such a loving affectionate family but I dread the moment we arrive at your house and I'll have to hug.

Friend, you are a lovely, kind, generous person with a huge social conscience who helps everyone, I admire you greatly and the world would be better if it was populated by people like you.

BUT - your guests are not 2 traumatised women, they are a selfish pair of scheming bitches. They have bullied you into vacating most of your home, living in your bedroom and asking them when you can use your bathroom or kitchen is not ‘normal’. They have parties in your house and don’t invite you.

We’re sorry that we haven’t helped out as much as we promised. We’ve tried but they won’t let DH drive them anywhere because they ‘don’t like (N word)’, they introduced me to one of their friends as ‘AnybodyAnywhere who fucks monkeys’.

I know you want to ‘help’ them and you say that they ‘don’t mean’ to be racist or treat you like a skivvy in your own home but, dear friend, you are a shell of your former self. Please admit that this is a bad situation and let me help you to get out of it and get your life back. I love you and seeing you like this is breaking my heart.

PS I am dreading when the older sister has children (might not as has no partner yet) as I know that my children will get pushed down the pecking order and I’m already putting plans in place to protect them emotionally from that

Friend, I love you. But. Your daughter really needs to lose weight, and you need to stop letting her eat all the time. Do you really not worry about being 10 and already significantly overweight? I'd be finding the money to talk to a dietitian and getting some professional advice.

Other friend--I love you too. But you are never ever going to make a career in music, and this is distracting you from a bunch of other things you need to be getting on with. How about spending your time and money getting qualifications for a job that will actually pay?

and it was bang on the money.
that poor girl- hope her mum grows up and soon

oh this makes me sad

Please just stop gossiping about, competing with and envying people around you. Instead use some self-reflection, decide what you care about, set a goal, and start competing with yourself.

Lip fillers make your face look out of proportion and your eyes beady in real life.

@DontGoBreakingMyHeart · Today 05:57
I took this thread title to mean things that you couldn’t say to probably fairly nice people because it would hurt their feelings.
Instead it seems to be a thread about fairly horrible people who probably need something saying to them and whose feelings you don’t really care about anyway?
I know my dp doesn’t want to hurt my feelings when he won’t tell me the truth about why people never want to meet up with me, even for coffee. Maybe he genuinely doesn’t understand, but it actually hurts more when he says that it must be them and not me, because I don’t know what I’m doing wrong or how to fix it.
I know he doesn’t want to hurt me, especially as those same people often jump at the chance to meet up with him when I’m not there, and others make plans to do things with him, and although he tells me that obviously I should go, it’s got to the point now where I know that my being there would just spoil things.

What do you think is wrong about you OP?