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What happens to all the mean girls

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RedPanda901 · 09/10/2022 14:35

My daughter was talking about the mean girls in her school and it made me ask what she meant. I mean I knew what she meant but wondered what her experience of it was. In her words: they are dismissive of the girls they don't like; talk down to other girls; laugh and bully them to make others do what they want.

Just out of interest…
Are you a mean girl? Were you a mean girl? What made you change?

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Redannie118 · 09/10/2022 14:44

Not a mean girl( bullying victim) mean girls behave the way they do because they have thr goods to back it up, they are pretty and usually well off. All the mean girls i knew got married to surgeons and vets and had 2.4 kids and a huge house in country. Sad but true.

Digestive28 · 09/10/2022 14:45

in my experience they do quite well in life - at least on the surface

Justjoinedforthis · 09/10/2022 14:46

The one from my old school wrote for the Express for a bit and now works in PR for despicable people

CheezePleeze · 09/10/2022 14:48

They're all individual people so I expect what happens to them is what happens to everyone else when they grow up.

Afonavon · 09/10/2022 14:51

The poor means girls work in minimum wage jobs, the rich ones ended up as surgeons and solicitors.

Horrible bitches who made my life a living hell, but it hasn’t affected their outcomes in life.

PaperPalace · 09/10/2022 14:55

How old is your DD, OP? I know one girl who was mean in primary school but has become a nice girl (now in year 10).

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 09/10/2022 14:56

There’s two at my work.

They’ve found two staff to pick on (one of which is now leaving).

Around some people they’re bitchy and braying and LOUD but every now and then they let their guard down and cry about their shitty lives.

It’s actually quite sad. Although I feel worse for the ones they’re bullying.

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 09/10/2022 14:56

I might add, they’re very young. 20/21.

RewildingAmbridge · 09/10/2022 14:56

They become the mean mums at the school gates.

inheritanceshiteagain · 09/10/2022 14:56

The one i know changed into a reasonable human being, but i still never liked her.

Hjgfer · 09/10/2022 14:57

I have a mean ‘girl’ that lives opposite me. She’s almost 50.

She comes across as though she’s dyslexic and has ADHD and I’m under the impression her parents made sure she knew she was a disappointed to them.

She goes around trying to talk herself up and she tries to pull others down to make them feel as unhappy as she is. If you spoke to her she’s a company director, 4 bed family house etc. The funny thing is they’re classed as the poor family of the street.

I can’t see her changing as I don’t believe she has the confidence to address her issues.

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RedPanda901 · 09/10/2022 15:01

RewildingAmbridge · 09/10/2022 14:56

They become the mean mums at the school gates.

Ha! Yes, seen this as well. Luckily my daughter is very good at not letting anyone see her insecurities so she doesn't suffer very much but some of her friends do. She's only 10 but she's probably going to go to an all-girls school (not private) as that's the only one we're in catchment for. It's a very good school by all accounts though.

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SlouchingTowardsBethlehemAgain · 09/10/2022 15:07

They become mean old age pensioners.

Eightiesgirl · 09/10/2022 15:12

I've always wondered do they realise they were the mean girls when they grow up? When they watch films about mean girls and their victims, does it dawn on them that they were the baddies? and do they feel embarrassed and ashamed? In films like this (Muriels Wedding for example) it's usually the victim who wins at the end of the day and becomes the "cool one" or gets the hot guy (showing my age now) the mean girls are usually shown up for what they are and come a cropper. If I'd been a bully (I was always the victim) I'd watch those kinds of films and cringe, I'd be thoroughly ashamed of myself but I suppose that's what differentiates us in the first place. That's why they are the mean girls and they probably never change!

Onwednesdayswewearpink2 · 09/10/2022 15:13

The one I went to school with is an estate agent now and is still a complete cow. She dresses in very high end clothing and flirts with every man she comes across despite being engaged- we're early 30s now- unfortunately I think some of them never change

3ShotsOfEspresso · 09/10/2022 15:14

They grow up. 🤷🏻‍♀️

AdditionalCharacter · 09/10/2022 15:15

They post #bekind on social media.

The ones I knew (and bullied me) never changed, their children can do no wrong, and everyone else is to blame for the things their children do wrong.

GCAcademic · 09/10/2022 15:17

They hang out on AIBU to deliver a kicking to anyone they sense is vulnerable.

gwenneh · 09/10/2022 15:17

Redannie118 · 09/10/2022 14:44

Not a mean girl( bullying victim) mean girls behave the way they do because they have thr goods to back it up, they are pretty and usually well off. All the mean girls i knew got married to surgeons and vets and had 2.4 kids and a huge house in country. Sad but true.

That's my experience of it too. Mostly they did pretty well for themselves. A few of them crashed and burned spectacularly but for the most part they finished uni & went onwards successfully.

As much as one might wish karma existed for their kind of behaviour, it doesn't.

OldClothes · 09/10/2022 15:17

Not sure if she was a mean girl but an acquaintance of mine has been known to take pictures of strangers' poor fashion choices and post them online. Think she was more loud than super mean in her school days.

gwenneh · 09/10/2022 15:18

I've always wondered do they realise they were the mean girls when they grow up? When they watch films about mean girls and their victims, does it dawn on them that they were the baddies? and do they feel embarrassed and ashamed?

Not in my experience.

TwoWrightFeet · 09/10/2022 15:21

The join MN and claim they are the true victim.

PatientlyWaiting21 · 09/10/2022 15:22

From what I’ve seen from those who went to my academy they end up single over weight mothers claiming benefits and hitting up their local at the weekend. And they’re still arseholes, just older and growing their own set of arseholes

ZeroFuchsGiven · 09/10/2022 15:23

PatientlyWaiting21 · 09/10/2022 15:22

From what I’ve seen from those who went to my academy they end up single over weight mothers claiming benefits and hitting up their local at the weekend. And they’re still arseholes, just older and growing their own set of arseholes

That is exactly my experience too!

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RedPanda901 · 09/10/2022 15:24

gwenneh · 09/10/2022 15:18

I've always wondered do they realise they were the mean girls when they grow up? When they watch films about mean girls and their victims, does it dawn on them that they were the baddies? and do they feel embarrassed and ashamed?

Not in my experience.

Given that no one so far has admitted being a mean girl, this seems likely…

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