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How many people have you spoken to today?

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bloodywhitecat · 08/10/2022 19:19

I haven't spoken to a single soul and am not likely to tomorrow either, it feels weird to not have spoken to a single person in 24 hours.

OP posts:
FruitPastilleNut · 08/10/2022 22:47

Dh
3 x dc
Neighbour opposite
Woman on the till in coop
Ds2's BFF when I gave him and ds a lift

Plus about 25 random people on 2 x dog walks today. Literally this many - but we have a 12 week old puppy so we get stopped a lot atm when people ooh and ahh over her!

BitOutOfPractice · 08/10/2022 22:49

Erm, 3 in real life (DP, someone I helped with directions / parking, receptionist at the gym)

1 on the phone (mom)

about 20 on WhatsApp.

Doihavetogotoworkdotcom1 · 08/10/2022 22:50

6

Ringbling85 · 08/10/2022 22:52

dh, dd, DS, my dad, my mum, DD’s friend, horse riding instructor, DD’s friends dad, my cousin, my uncle, 14 other dc (kids party) a parent belonging to each dc, kids party instructor. So that’s 38…

Ringbling85 · 08/10/2022 22:52

Sorry 39…

MargaretThursday · 08/10/2022 22:55

11
4 x family
1 x friend
3 x people at work
3 x people at the restaurant we went to

shinynewapple22 · 08/10/2022 22:58

I am sorry to hear about your husband OP.

I understand what you say about your friends - but it may be that they don't necessarily want to spend all weekend with their partners and would be happy to meet up for a coffee or lunch?

Do you work during the week?

In answer to your question I've spoken to my husband, son, his friend and the checkout person in Sainsbury's. I also spend quite a bit of time talking to my dog.

wlv12 · 08/10/2022 23:02

Husband
2 kids
sisters (2)
dad
waiter in restaurant
barman in restaurant
shopkeeper
man selling me photos in Madame Tussaud’s 😅
man selling me merchandise in Madame Tussaud’s

Augend23 · 08/10/2022 23:02

Zofloraqueen27 · 08/10/2022 19:49

None. Since my husband died 2.5 yrs ago I can go two days without speaking to anyone. I go to bed and think I haven’t heard my own voice today. This is why I make an effort to at least pass an innocent comment to anyone I see when I am out and about. I can recognise lonely people and think I might be the only person who has shared a kind word with them that day. Life can be a lonely place at times. I am going away for a holiday by myself and most likely the only time I will speak to anyone in the week will be to order drinks or lunch. I am very gregarious by nature but have to be careful as I do not want to be thought of as a barmy old lady who talks to strangers.

I would just chat away! If people don't want to chat they'll make it clear pretty quickly.

I went on holiday on my own for the first time a few weeks back and I was really worried it would feel lonely - as it was I bumped into two South African tourists on my first train and we had a long chat about our plans, then was sat opposite someone who checked where the train was going and we got talking and ended up yammering on about academia for about 40 minutes, then the next day I was sitting near a cyclist at lunchtime and I asked if he was English (as he had ordered in perfect English in Italy) and we ended up chatting for about 20 minutes. Then met an American the next day on another train and we got talking again, and then in France had various chats in broken French/English with people as I was going around the place.

I was really surprised by how many people were happy to chat away. I have always had a face where people chat to me on public transport though so maybe it was an extension of that.

I'm not widowed but I am single at a point in my life where most friends are coupled up or married. I've made my peace with third wheeling now and mainly just things either with both people in a couple directly or with a primary friend but make clear their partner is welcome. I decided I was just going to be a person who arranges things - if I go - hey I'm thinking of doing X this weekend, do you guys fancy joining me, it's easy for people to say yes or no. I've also stopped being afraid of trying the friend that comes to mind first but then running down 3 or 4 more if people are busy till I find someone who isn't.

wlv12 · 08/10/2022 23:02

I forgot to say my dogs
and several dog walkers I met while walking said dogs

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bloodywhitecat · 08/10/2022 23:13

@shinynewapple22 I am a foster carer so I don't work outside of the home, my last little one has just left for their new family so I think that has heightened the realisation that I have spoken to no-one today. The house is usually full of small person chatter and now it's not, my days are usually full of activity, noise and I usually have at least one face to face/phone conversation a day and I think that is what set me to wondering how many others are in the position of not talking to a single soul in the day.

OP posts:
Lovethatforyou · 08/10/2022 23:21

Lots.

DH,DS, DS friend and his dad
Mum
Greggs just eat guy
hairdresser
ladies who work in the deli
someone I sold some curtains to
family of 4 where I took DS for a playdate…

Can you think of ways you could interact more OP? Can help you if you like x

Taytocrisps · 09/10/2022 09:13

Moonatics · 08/10/2022 22:23

Only DP. And I'm ok with that.
At work I speak to so many people, and the radio is a constant. I hate noise and adore my peaceful weekends.
Tomorrow I have to speak to 3 people and i can do that but only just.

I'm the same @Moonatics. I talk to people all day at work (face to face and on the phone). I love my peaceful weekends.

Titsflyingsouth · 09/10/2022 09:18

2 neighbours
Assistant in Co-op
Parent in the playpark
DH and DS

So 6.

whichwayiwonder · 09/10/2022 10:14

DH, Dd, DD's stable friends, one of their parents, another of DD's friends who came over later, and her mum when she dropped her. I also talk to my dog all day.

whichwayiwonder · 09/10/2022 10:17

Today I've had endless chat with people on WhatsApp though group I volunteer with. That's the answer I think OP, if you want to have more people with whom to interact. By volunteering you will also feel a part of something, you'll have collective purpose. That is a wonderful thing for helping you not feel lonely.

whichwayiwonder · 09/10/2022 10:18

Just read your latest post OP - my advice is not for you then, but for anyone else feeling lonely.

ChelseaRobertsofMalibu · 09/10/2022 10:20

Not a single adult in over 7 days :( Just my 7yr old child

ChelseaRobertsofMalibu · 09/10/2022 14:49

@yougotthelook 3 friends on the phone

Sure ya did! 🤣

shinynewapple22 · 09/10/2022 15:09

Must be difficult if you are used to having children in the house . Do you think you will continue foster caring - or will you be looking for other opportunities ?

Moonatics · 09/10/2022 15:28

Taytocrisps · 09/10/2022 09:13

I'm the same @Moonatics. I talk to people all day at work (face to face and on the phone). I love my peaceful weekends.

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Its wearing isn't it.
Today I've had two conversations with one person (she called me and I went to visit her quickly) I've spoken to DP who currently has the TV on fucking loud annoying the shit out of me, and one of my children is due to visit. And then tomorrow I'm back to the relentless noise of work, talking to hundreds of people and the radio on loud. By Friday I'm wired (wrong word but cant think of better) and just want peace.
I'm soon to go on holiday on a remote island in the highlands and I cannot wait. A week of utter bliss. The only noise wind and waves.

For the poster who wrote
have to be careful as I do not want to be thought of as a barmy old lady who talks to strangers
Just talk to people, my mother does this everywhere she goes. Someone always talks to her and she cares nothing about what they talk about, she just loves the passing company. And she is genuinely interested in whatever you might want to talk about, I've heard her listen about all kind of animals, gun/gun control, drugs and legislation, drinking, the original sin, weather, washing, travel, conspiracy theories et al. So long as you are interesting and/or interested you'll do fine.

Idratherbepaddleboarding · 09/10/2022 15:33

DH, DS, the dog (he counts), the lady service in the village shop and the young lass who was serving at the ice cream shop. Oh and a man who held the door open for me. Also a group chat on What’s app.

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bloodywhitecat · 09/10/2022 16:19

shinynewapple22 · 09/10/2022 15:09

Must be difficult if you are used to having children in the house . Do you think you will continue foster caring - or will you be looking for other opportunities ?

I am definitely going to continue fostering, I am taking a couple of weeks out to take stock and do some decluttering then I am back to it.

OP posts:
Ccoffee · 09/10/2022 18:24

I don't think I've spoken to anyone except the cat since Thursday.

Doesn't bother me, had a lovely weekend reading, painting, tidying up, walking. Will speak to more than enough people tomorrow as will be in the office.

Ccoffee · 09/10/2022 18:24

I have exchanged several WhatsApp's and emails though.