Silent sex

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I'm dating someone new, we've done everything up to PIV sex. They seem to be having a good time, but honestly he is so totally silent when we do anything.

It's so weird. I make a normal amount of noise, but it's starting to make me feel a bit self conscious.

Does anyone have any tips/advice?

I dont think so men make noises , apart from asking few kisses when in motion.
If they do , i am having in silent sex category from ten years lol

Try being completely silent yourself and then scream really loudly when you climax? Maybe you can shock him out of it!

And/or tell him silence is a turn off

That would freak me out
did he live at his parents for a long time or something like that, where he had to be quiet?

You and me both! Do men shout?

Dh is like this. I still struggle with it a bit 12 years in

I'm a guy and I don't make a sound... got me thinking whether I'm not normal now!...

I like it when girls do, don't get me wrong!

Read the body (and penis) language... if he guides you to doing other things, tells you to stop, or goes floppy, you're doing it wrong. Otherwise, you're all good :)

Wish we could do a poll on here... I'm now really curious whether this is a normal or majority thing!

You can do a poll via AIBU

lord, I would think I was doing everything wrong with a silent bloke.

Men should make more noise, it’s very sexy.

Mine is like this too. I used to wonder if he was bored but he assures me otherwise. I'm loud enough for both of us.

Yeah that’s weird- for me I’m really loud! Can’t help it- bf is heavy breathing and odd moan- it’s never quiet lol I’d find it awkward

Creepy. Making me feel weird just thinking about it!

How silent? Nothing? Like never an mmmm or anything? That I would find off-putting tbh, although thinking about it my dh is not loud at all but I am

My ex was like this, completely silent no noise at all, I did find it weird but all the men I’ve been with have been Silent so thought it was normal 😬

Gonna chip in again... this will ruffle some feathers! (Not my intention, but I know it will)

Granted, a big part is an instinctual intent because of wanting to be discrete as mentioned above (partly true for me)... but another part is the knowledge that "rumour has it", women tend to talk about these things and we'll be mocked or even dumped for doing it wrong.

I can see the AIBU headlines now... my husband grunts like a pig during sex, or bellows, or says "No, I am your father" when he orgasms :)

I was with a very silent guy- he had lived at home with his parents for quite a long time (he was a carer for his dad) so trained himself to be very silent so they would never know he was having sex, or wanking.
I told him if felt a bit weird and he tried to be louder but was just out of the habit of making any sound.
I put music on and it wasn't weird anymore

Anyone else got this as an ear worm?

I'd really like to know how common it is, would so freak me out.

Oh and that scene in S&TC with Berger when it's so quiet, Carrie can hear people getting on and off the bus!

I had one of these. A good lover but 99% silent apart from the odd comment or "that's good" (once!). I found it quite disconcerting. Then again, he was one of eight children so perhaps had little privacy growing up.

I once got a 'wow!' out of a pretty much mute ex boyfriend.

I was chuffed! 🤩

My husband was silent when we met, even when he orgasmed. I found it weird, so we talked about it. Turned out, in his previous marriage of 30 years, his wife was weird about sex. She was silent and when he made noise, she’d stop and laugh, so he got used to being quiet. After we talked, he gradually let himself go. Talk about it and give him a bit of time.

Not quite the same but I really appreciate warning of climax from a man. Sometimes it's obvious but sometimes it's really, really not.. and you're still bouncing away wondering if you're doing something wrong because it's gone all sad and soft on you. But really he came about 3 mins ago. Ideal.

Omg I would hate a man being silent!

I want them to moan, tell me how much they’re enjoying it etc.

I know a good friend of mine says he wants to make noise and moan but he’s embarrassed to which is really sad.

I can’t imagine being silent as a female.

Well, you can't make him make noise.

Imagine the uproar if a man posted complaining about his silent sexual partner.

DH occasionally says things but doesn't grunt, or howl so I don't know what your experience is? A bit of a moan at the end but I'm usually the one making the noise. He likes that