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Lady di would have been queen...

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heartbroken22 · 10/09/2022 00:48

Just the thought of it creates butterflies in my stomach as when she died I was really young and it hurt a lot...even though I didn't understand what really happened. I'm sad the queen has died but just the thought of princess diana becoming queen...it would have been amazing.

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Summersdreaming · 10/09/2022 09:19

There are websites full of Diana fantasy fanfiction: m.fanfiction.net/s/13901382/1/The-Long-Goodbye

Good lord. Op, fill yer boots you will love it.

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 10/09/2022 09:21

the thought of princess diana becoming queen...it would have been amazing

OP - in the kindest possible way, she died 25 years ago. Even if Charles had never re-married, Diana wouldn't have been queen. On account of being not only divorced from him, but dead.

Posterhause · 10/09/2022 09:24

The whole Diana thing seems like a weird dream now, or an OTT film that people misremember.

I think comparisons with Meghan Markle are spot on.

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Blueberry111 · 10/09/2022 09:24

I agree, if she hadn't been divorced and didn't die, we would have her as Queen, and it would have been amazing.

Maybe more people would've been inspired by her kind heart and generosity if she was alive.

I don't like Camilla and nor Charles. I can never forgive a marriage breaker, and nor have respect for a cheater. Sadly they're King and Queen, yet I don't feel they are moral enough to be so.

Lets hope for the best for our country.

vroom321 · 10/09/2022 09:24

She would be Queen Consort?

SeasonFinale · 10/09/2022 09:24

Maltester71 · 10/09/2022 01:04

I think what the OP is saying, is that, had things been different, then Diana would have been queen.

and that would have been lovely.

i agree

And as my Dad used to say "If my aunt had balls she would have been my uncle"

Wisteriaroundthedoor · 10/09/2022 09:25

Are you ok op? The woman died decades ago and was divorced. If she’d lived she’d have likely been remarried at some point. You are reacting like she was some form of haloed being. She was just a person with strengths and flaws, who like many, marrried too young and to the wrong man

RedToothBrush · 10/09/2022 09:27

One of the most depressing things on this thread are the jibes about Camillas looks.

For a woman in her 70s she looks fantastic and she acts with dignity and grace. I actually think we do her a massive disservice and I hope she shows everyone up. She's the Queen the Royal family of today need. Not some fantasy based on a fairy story that never existed. She is the woman for the moment and the job. She has spent 17 years preparing for it and even then I think there is a feeling of still not being fully ready for it but understanding that her husband needs her. Few relationships would survive what they've been through. And it's not a short marriage. If youswant your fairytale you can easily write the one where she was the one who was always meant to be Queen.

She has taken everything the media and public have thrown at her for being some evil witch who should be burned at the stake for her treatment of the sainted Diana. It's awful how she's been treated.

No one is perfect. However she has demonstrated loyalty and devotion. A dedication to the Royal family. An understanding of what is needed and expected and has worked hard with little positive feedback until more recent years and even now she often doesn't get it. Instead she gets the classic witch trial that women in their late 30s, 40s and beyond in the public eye tend to get from the media and in turn much of the public. Its almost as if they must not show intelligence, determination and fortitude because that's somehow a threat to the concept of women doing as they are told, being pretty and being two dimensional props for the husband to use as a crutch. A phenomena that Diana was facing and would have faced even more had she lived.

If Diana had lived Royalists absolutely would not want her as Queen and this thread would have been about how we dodged a bullet. She'd have had 25 years of the press criticising her every action. And I think its fair to say she was liable to make some ill advised life choices which wouldn't have helped her. I think she'd have continued to try to fashion herself as a martyr and frame the Royal family as evil. 25 years of tension between her and the Royals would have resulted in a situation where maybe we'd have much more Republican feeling. And maybe in such circumstances we'd have been looking at King William with Charles having to stand down.

But all of this is speculation and its far better to look at what we do have and what they offer to the role. Camilla is a good fit. Charles seems committed.

Im pretty on the fence when it comes to whether we should have a monarchy. But I figure that if we are going to have one, let it be someone dedicated and with a sense of duty to do a good job. I think we've got that so let's she how they get on rather the continued comparison about how Camilla was never as beautiful in her youth. Instead focus on how she's pretty photogenic and in good shape for a woman in her 70s. How about some positive role models of pensionable age rather than pandering to the media obsessed with youth and best before dates.

butterflied · 10/09/2022 09:27

Summersdreaming · 10/09/2022 09:19

There are websites full of Diana fantasy fanfiction: m.fanfiction.net/s/13901382/1/The-Long-Goodbye

Good lord. Op, fill yer boots you will love it.

Oh, dear god...

Bretonbear · 10/09/2022 09:27

Blueberry111 · 10/09/2022 09:24

I agree, if she hadn't been divorced and didn't die, we would have her as Queen, and it would have been amazing.

Maybe more people would've been inspired by her kind heart and generosity if she was alive.

I don't like Camilla and nor Charles. I can never forgive a marriage breaker, and nor have respect for a cheater. Sadly they're King and Queen, yet I don't feel they are moral enough to be so.

Lets hope for the best for our country.

FFS.

Spudlet · 10/09/2022 09:28

She’d have been miserable. Their marriage was miserable! They both had affairs. They argued. She threw herself down the stairs and had an eating disorder! Why are people wishing more years of that misery on this woman? Of course it’s tragic that she died at such a young age. But look at the pictures of her post-divorce - how strong and happy she looked. I think that if she’d lived, she might have gone on to make a new life for herself - a happy one. But staying in her marriage would have been awful - for both of them.

How can people claim to ‘love’ this woman and also wish that she’d had even more years of unhappiness?

CPL593H · 10/09/2022 09:30

I'm the same sort of age Diana would have been and remember it all very well. I think she seemed happier in many ways at the end of her life, certainly than during the marriage. Not being a future Queen meant that she could involve herself in causes like landmines that she cared deeply about and could really make a difference by supporting.

I think her life trajectory was fascinating, from shy Sloane Ranger to unhappy Princess to international superstar and style icon. She wasn't a saint, but I think she had the power and will to do real good and would never have been less than interesting. It is sad that was lost, as it was awful for William and Harry to lose their mother.

That said, I'm glad Camilla will be "officially" Queen Consort now and I'm sure will do a good job.

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 10/09/2022 09:31

I can never forgive a marriage breaker

Do you know how many married men Diana had affairs with? she pretty much broke up at least one marriage.

And I have to tell you - your forgiveness isn't required.

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 10/09/2022 09:32

@RedToothBrush

Excellent post. I agree 100%. Camilla has character, brains and intelligence. I think she'll be the support to Charles III that the Queen Mother was to George VI.

BuildersTeaMaker · 10/09/2022 09:33

Oh, but I’m really sad that Wallace would have been queen, and the lady Jane grey could have been queen, or Mary queen of Scot’s for that matter

Charles could have died falling off one of his polo ponies without ever divorcing and having a happy marriage for 30 years to Diana- she still wouldn’t be queen

life happens. No “gets” or should be king and queen until a crown is on their head because they’re in the right place at the right time.

SoupDragon · 10/09/2022 09:34

I can never forgive a marriage breaker, and nor have respect for a cheater.

didn't Diana also cheat?

GhostFromTheOtherSide · 10/09/2022 09:37

What people seem to be forgetting here as well is that the press had pretty much turned against Dianna at the time she died.

The only* reason she has been sainted in the way she has is because she’s dead.

If she had stayed alive the press would have disowned her by now, she would have been slated to hell and considered an embarrassment to the royal family.

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 10/09/2022 09:37

@SoupDragon She did, but according to some people that's OK because her husband drove her to it. See the rule 'if a man cheats, he's a bastard. If a woman cheats, it's because a man has been a bastard to her.' The moral contortions over Diana and her affairs are a wonder to behold.

BadNomad · 10/09/2022 09:43

Diana was the epitome of a woman scorned. Her vendetta was incredible.

NoWordForFluffy · 10/09/2022 09:47

Blueberry111 · 10/09/2022 09:24

I agree, if she hadn't been divorced and didn't die, we would have her as Queen, and it would have been amazing.

Maybe more people would've been inspired by her kind heart and generosity if she was alive.

I don't like Camilla and nor Charles. I can never forgive a marriage breaker, and nor have respect for a cheater. Sadly they're King and Queen, yet I don't feel they are moral enough to be so.

Lets hope for the best for our country.

🙄🙄🙄

Fucking hell! 🙈🤣

Riverlee · 10/09/2022 09:47

GhostFromTheOtherSide · 10/09/2022 09:37

What people seem to be forgetting here as well is that the press had pretty much turned against Dianna at the time she died.

The only* reason she has been sainted in the way she has is because she’s dead.

If she had stayed alive the press would have disowned her by now, she would have been slated to hell and considered an embarrassment to the royal family.

I agree. She gained saint status as a result of her premature death. Don’t get me wrong, talking to aids sufferers, landlines etc - all worthy stuff. However, she was developing a Kardashian’s-type reputation, - all glamour, parties, holidays with little or no substance.

itispersonal · 10/09/2022 09:47

Blueberry111 · 10/09/2022 09:24

I agree, if she hadn't been divorced and didn't die, we would have her as Queen, and it would have been amazing.

Maybe more people would've been inspired by her kind heart and generosity if she was alive.

I don't like Camilla and nor Charles. I can never forgive a marriage breaker, and nor have respect for a cheater. Sadly they're King and Queen, yet I don't feel they are moral enough to be so.

Lets hope for the best for our country.

See I it as the reverse, a story of one love between Camilla and Charles. They should have been allowed to marry in the first place. Diana was the marriage wrecker, as in ,she should have never been his wife in the first place. Neither loved each other and an inevitable divorce happened and both would have gone on to happier lives apart as many divorcees do.

Badger1970 · 10/09/2022 09:48

Diana is only remembered with such love and affection because she died young and everything that had happened in the years post divorce were conveniently swept under the carpet. Always happens when people die unexpectedly and in shocking circumstances. She chose to ditch her RPO's against advice; get in a car with a drunk driver and not put her seatbelt on.

We all make choices - hers were increasingly poor ones. And Harry is now roaring off down the same path. I have a horrible feeling that his ending isn't going to be a happy one either.........

CornflowerBlue62 · 10/09/2022 09:49

FartOutLoudDay · 10/09/2022 00:56

Christ. Retreating back off MN for another 24 hours until sanity prevails.

Lucky you having somewhere to retreat to. I’m sharing a house with a performative mourner who gets snappy unless everyone joins in.

MrsLargeEmbodied · 10/09/2022 09:51

it is the queen mother who forced his hand, we are led to believe